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Jul 27, 2007, 11:34 AM
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as if I dont feel bad enough as it is ppl find a way to kick me while i'm down. i spend my day alone looking at these 4 walls. now i have the mother-n-law telling me i need to get up and do something. yeah like what?? what do i have to do? nothing, that's what! then she goes on to tell me how fat i'm getting. that i need to get up and lose this weight. and my h is sitting there agreeing all along with her. feel like i've been ganged up on. i cant believe they sat there and told someone whos been anorexic in the past how fat she is. they have no clue that we have been purging again for the last few weeks and not eating. so depressed, and already feel so very fat. just feel like i've been emotionally kick while i'm down. why do i have to be the one to always take care of everyone else. i've been out of work for only a month. why do we have to get a job. my h hasnt worked in a couple of years. im tired. im tired of everything. i want someone to just help me just a little bit.
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Jul 27, 2007, 11:38 AM
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Monty,
Im sorry this has happened. I know it must be very difficult for your hubby and mother in law to be so rude and hurtful. Have you got a T? It sounds to me like you need a person who is wholeheartedly in your corner.
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Jul 27, 2007, 11:38 AM
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you know, it doesnt matter anymore. i dont care i'm tired of all this. im tired of dealing with this.
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Jul 27, 2007, 11:40 AM
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i lost my T when i lost my job. i cant afford to pay for a T. I bearly made my car payment. good thing i quit eating. saves money.
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#5
Jul 27, 2007, 11:43 AM
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It doesnt sound too good. Is it possible to tell your Hubby how upsetting it is that he does not stand up for you. As for your Mother in law, she has no right to speak to you like that, its hurtful. Can you tell her to leave you alone?
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Jul 27, 2007, 12:16 PM
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(((((((((((( Monty )))))))))))
I'm sorry your husband is making comments like that! Really, your weight has nothing to do with him - perhaps he's commenting on it so he doesn't have to face up to the fact that you don't yet have a job? And aren't you going to college anyway in a few months?
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Jul 27, 2007, 02:26 PM
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My Monty..
I hope you can find something inside you to look at yourself and find something good and wonderful. Use that feeling to help yourself. If your inlaws or husband say something negative, ask them to help you find therapy. At least that is constructive. There may be some places that can operate on a sliding scale. You are worth it. ev |
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Jul 27, 2007, 10:35 PM
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(((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
To say, I know "exactly" how you feel... I can't... But I can say that there have been times when I have just wanted just one person to "be in my corner".. my expression is "someone to hold my hand while I go thru the pain".. As one member once said to me " I am holding your hand so tight it's turning purple".. and that did help.. I am "in your corner, any time you need or want me to be"... |
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Jul 27, 2007, 11:37 PM
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((((((((( Monty )))))))))
I'm so sorry they said those hurtful things to you. Please try to take good care of yourself. You need to eat something, hon. All of your friends here are here for you, waiting in your corner. Hugs, Jan
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Jul 28, 2007, 03:08 AM
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Oh Monty, I am so sorry things are so tough right now. I'd like to pull husband aside and have a conversation with him...
 As far as his mother... I wish I had an easy solution for you Monty. Hang in there. School will be starting soon. Hold your ground if you can about things. I wish husband would take up for your side. I don't have any solutions to offer, but I am sorry this is going on. I wish you only the best. Hang in there. 
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Jul 28, 2007, 06:47 AM
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 Monty Please try and remember your self-care I'm sorry they are being so hurtful when what you need right now is support and empathy We are here for you Hugs, SBD
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Aug 01, 2007, 01:09 PM
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Just wanted to let everyone know I'm trying to hang in there. Wanted to say thank you to everyone, means a lot to me that you all replied.
I start nursing school on the 27th of this month. I'm trying to hang on until then when I can get some kind of order to my life. I need something to keep me busy and going. I am eating somewhat, but still purging several times a week. I worked so hard in the past to gain recovery from ana and I'm trying really hard to not fall deep into that pit. But for right now purging is the only emotional relief I have right now. That where I'm at right now.
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Aug 01, 2007, 11:09 PM
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(((((((( Monty ))))))))))
I care. Hugs, Jan
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Aug 02, 2007, 02:07 PM
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(((((((((((((((((( Monty )))))))))))))))))
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Aug 02, 2007, 03:55 PM
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(((monty)))
it makes me really angry that yur H is being so insensitive!!!! we've been thru the whole ED cycle and it's not cool----isn't there someone inside that can stand up to H and MIL??? like say "bug off" or something???? i know it's hard, but PLEASE take care of you. you really don't have to put up with the abuse. sorry if i'm so out there with this--i'm just PO'd at what you have to be going thru. vicki |
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Aug 02, 2007, 06:12 PM
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((( Monty )))
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