Bad situation?

I don't know I am afraid I may have got myself into a bat situation, yet again with the same person. I don't know though, I kind of think it is more likely due to the fact that I kind of have this belief that is very deep inside me that I don't deserve to be treated well. I am just so confused because I am not sure if this guy is good or bad. I am horrible at judging it. I actually didn't even have a fleeting thought of even talking to him at all, but then 5 days ago I found myself talking to him on the phone, it was like it was happening and I had no control. But then I found myself on the way to his place and then I went away completely for part of the time and came back during something I kind of was not even considering as an option at this point. What is going on with me, is it co-consciousness or what? I am just so confused and lost. The last time I was with him I just quit talkking to him all of a sudden.

I'm sorry Jennifer =( I wish i knew what to tell you. Have you confided this to others IRL? Like a t? Someone who can give you more perspective on it?
I hope you're alright!!!
Kiya

((((((((((Jennifer))))))))))

is this the same guy you had the problem with before ?

can you try to talk to the alters & stop them going there ? & talking to him on the phone ?

you don't need this guy in your life

watching an alter do something may be the beginning of co-consciousness, but you have to be able to communicate with them, try thinking it before you sleep, like "message to all, do not contact *put name here*".
It does not sound like he is helping you to progress. Can he tell when he is dealing with an alter ? If he can't, forget it. Try to do the self-care thing.

I don't know if he can tell if there is an alter out or not. I don't know what to do. Yes this is the same guy I have been with well about 4 times now. Feb-March last year, August last year, October last year and January this year and now again, Guess that's 5 times. But see the last time he thought I was just taking a break because I just all of a sudden quit talking to him. I think it was because some of the people in my life were telling me it was not a good thing. I don't know why I go back, I think I love him and that's why. But I don't know. I guess thinking about it there are a few warning signs but I really am not sure if they are as bad as I think they are. I do not have a good sense of when things are bad. At least this time I was able to tell him I didn't want to get pregnant after last time I was with him he wanted me to be. But I don't know. One thing that weighs on my mind is sometimes it can be challenging talking to him. Like our intelligence levels are on opposite extremes. I mean I graduated with college honors and well he doesn't know what I mean when I talk because he doesn't understand what the words mean. I am not trying to sound mean about it, it is just difficult to be with someone when they have to ask you every sentence what everything means. I don't know maybe I am just starting ot find all the negatives again. I really do like him and well I really do see positives too. I really do, and I don't know if I would be able to break his heart again. I don't know what to do really. I've kind of been with him again, under my own choice now. Ahhhhhhhhh, what to do?

" there are a few warning signs but I really am not sure if they are as bad as I think they are"

... Jennifer, they're probably worse than you think because a. love is blind, b. you said you don't have a good sense of that, and c. you don't have co-consciousness yet, so you really don't know.

I'd say those are ALL warning signs.... take care of you!!!

Good point. I do need to take care of me. He did say he will wait for me util I am ready, but I have no control over what my parts will do in the meantime. I don't know if they will try to get back together with him or something. I do have parts that just like to do something with him too, so it's all really confusing. I am not so sure about much in my life right now though, so I think I need to take everything out and start from scratch. I think that's what I will try to do. thanks for the advice, it really has helped me to think.

((((((((((Jennifer)))))))))) all best wishes to you

Best to you Jennifer!!! I hope everything goes well and you and your system can figure out what you need.

((((((((hugs!!!)))))))))
Kiya

((((((((Jennifer))))))))

I totally relate to what you're saying so I hope you can get the right help for you soon.