[Poohbear13]

Everything seem so sureal. I am switching a lot and I feel out of control. I can't decide what is real and what is going on inside my head. I feel like I am switching and then switching again and again and again. It all needs to stop. I have to go to work this afternoon. This is just too much for me right now. I don't see my T until tomorrow. I sent her an email but I don't think I explained it very well. My head and eyes hurt. The anxiety is too much for me to handle right now. I am going to have to take something and I hate doing that. I don't understand why this is happening. I was doing so well after my treatment and now this!!!!!!! Maybe it can all be sorted out tomorrow with my Ts. How do I get back to normal? How do I make the switching stop and continue with my everyday life?

[notz]

(((((Pooh Bear)))))

[miserycriz]

(((((((Poohbear))))))))

Sorry for what your going thru atm!!! It's not fair is what I want to yell for you for all of us...I know I think what your feeling? I too seem to be in that frame of switching so fast that I don't even know that's happening until there's a calmness and then I realize just how crazy things have been!! It's overwhelming to say the least and you just want to be in control of the switch at least for a little bit....I am sorry and I know having to work oh must be so much more difficult to boot! Thinking of you and wish I had some great words of wisdom to offer you but sigh I don't...Just know that I (we) understand and will be here to listen...

MC

[eskielover]

((((((((((((((((poohbear))))))))))))))))),

I know this has to be hard......such a horrible feeling.....can you think back to what might have triggered the switching so you & your T can work on that tomorrow.....doesn't help much for today & getting to work.....but pray that you can sort through this. Sometimes we have to come to hurdles like this in order to take the next step in our healing.....hope that will be what happens for you. The feeling of being out of control is one of the most frightening feelings there can be.

Hugs,
Debbie

[Safron]

Poohbear13,

I don't know if this will help you but I hope it does.

I used to find counting to myself helped. The faster my mind seemed to be going the faster I would count until this settled down again.

I discovered that the more upset I got the wrose the 'episode' got. If I could get calm things seemed to ease off some.

Try to find something that might deliberately calm you down, like staring at a candle or doing some relaxation exercises.

Believe me I know this is easier said than done but if you keep using it, it will get easier to do.

Getting calm is the answer.

I once heard a voice when I was very upset and pleading for help, it said "We can help you but you need to calm down to hear us."

I hope this helps and doesn't just freak you out.

Take care of you and yours.

breathe--slowly. in and out. i know this feeling. i've been there too.
don't like to take anything but sometimes it really does help. here's (((((pooh)))))
wi

[mlyn]

Originally Posted by Poohbear13

Everything seem so sureal. I am switching a lot and I feel out of control. I can't decide what is real and what is going on inside my head. I feel like I am switching and then switching again and again and again. It all needs to stop. I have to go to work this afternoon. This is just too much for me right now. I don't see my T until tomorrow. I sent her an email but I don't think I explained it very well. My head and eyes hurt. The anxiety is too much for me to handle right now. I am going to have to take something and I hate doing that. I don't understand why this is happening. I was doing so well after my treatment and now this!!!!!!! Maybe it can all be sorted out tomorrow with my Ts. How do I get back to normal? How do I make the switching stop and continue with my everyday life?

normal who can explain normal. that is what screws us up big time (for us). switching happens when ever something or someone is threatening our stability. Thank God we know that today. best times, No more doubting us first. Doubt whom or what ever first and ask more questions. Is on a good day.

[mlyn]

[quote=mlyn;961612]normal who can explain normal. that is what screws us up big time (for us). switching happens when ever something or someone is threatening our stability. Have been learning that switching is just ok, just is, and will happen. most ppl don't know it when it happens any way and even if they do they don't know how to explain it so they brush it off or ask , and we just say oh srry just having bad day and that seems to work.

[Poohbear13]

Things are starting to slow down a bit but there is still a lot of switching going on. I have tried counting and that seems to help get to a calm spot. I met with my Ts yesterday and I am not really sure how that went because I was not able to be co conscious with Toni being out and meeting them for the first time. I did quite a bit of switching there too but everything seem to be okay to my Ts.

[DianasClan]

Originally Posted by Poohbear13

Things are starting to slow down a bit but there is still a lot of switching going on. I have tried counting and that seems to help get to a calm spot. I met with my Ts yesterday and I am not really sure how that went because I was not able to be co conscious with Toni being out and meeting them for the first time. I did quite a bit of switching there too but everything seem to be okay to my Ts.

Thank you very much for the update. Sometimes there is alot of switching in the Clan for a variety of reasons. Usually it has something to do with a need. The need to be seen or heard or the need to do something or get away from or to somewhere, the need to simply exisist. As we grew up we did alot of isolating and spent a majority of time locked away in our room. This for Diana has not changed and sometimes some one gets to feeling antsy and simply needs to feel apart of society. I think it is good that Toni meet your Ts. There are many members of the Clan that have not meet our T. Hopefully one day that will change.

Please keep us posted on how you are feeling. Keep taking time to stop and count to 10 or 20 if needed.

Hugs if you want them. (((((Poohbear)))))

Denise of the clan

[Safron]

Poohbear13,

Can you communicate with the others? Frequent switching can be very frightening. If you can remain calm and try to discover what they want and need at this time it might help. It could be that they are simply struggling to communicate with you.

Positive communication is only possible when we can remain calm. If you are struggling with frequent switching, try asking them to back off for a little while to give you time to gather yourself. Then address the ones you are aware of, find out what they want and ask them to help you find out what the others want.

Take care of you.

[Poohbear13]

Originally Posted by Safron

Poohbear13,

Can you communicate with the others? Frequent switching can be very frightening. If you can remain calm and try to discover what they want and need at this time it might help. It could be that they are simply struggling to communicate with you.

Positive communication is only possible when we can remain calm. If you are struggling with frequent switching, try asking them to back off for a little while to give you time to gather yourself. Then address the ones you are aware of, find out what they want and ask them to help you find out what the others want.

Take care of you.

Safron:

I am trying to learn to commuicate better with my parts. It is not always a positive thing but I am doing the best I can for right now. I have a tendency to ignore my parts and your reminder to communicate with them is a good one. I think "maybe if I ignore them they will go away." but they always manage to come back even stronger than before. Thanks for the reminder!

[Safron]

We can ignore them from time to time, especially when we feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. But when we ‘go back online’ we might need to spend some quiet time just getting reacquainted.