Is Anybody Lonely ?

What an interesting thread! Late to the party but it's given me a chance to read the whole thing. The words I kept reading were 'no or low self esteem' 'people make me anxious' and 'I wish I could make friends but don't know how.'

I had many friends until I was diagnosed at 48. Sure, a lot of them were getting drunk and getting high friends, but some of them were real. There are four I regret losing so much, and learned later that letters were destoyed of thrown away.

It's different now. My home is filled with books and artwork and with many dragons and faeries and magical things. I like being here. I am not lonely because I spent 12 years somewhere equal to a POW experience. (N0 disrespect to my brothers in arms-I didn't say it, she did. And I got in a world of trouble for saying I wonder if I could break the window and then grab her before she got the door open.)

So I am not lonely. I have a few accquantices, some dear friends in here and a roommate who keeps forgetting what the word rent means.

Even after fourteen months I don't miss my husband (who ogligingly dropped dead at my feet.) But there are times I just miss being able to call someone and go to the movies, or the big health center or the thrift stores or the library. But I have things planned out and becoming social is one of them.

I also hope to make more friends here at PC.

I also suffer from low self esteem, anxity and PTSD, and of course, that ever present anger.

Please forgive the length of this post but I have one more thing to say that I believe is important. This is from a womans point of view but I have heard many men say the same things. As you are standing in line somewhere, or brousing through a store or doing anything that brings you out of your lair-there are people looking at you. If you think you are plain or imperfect in some way-it does not make you invisable to the opposite sex. I've known many men others would consider plain, but I saw something special about them. Sometimes it takes great courge to look up and meet someone's eyes when you know they are looking at you. And sometimes, all you have to do is smile.

im alone everyday, been single for over 5 years, I just don't go out to meet anyone. im in my apartment alone all the time except for an hour a day when im at the gym, I have no friends, I don't need friends either, I would be happy with one female in my life. but yeah im very very lonely.

yes, only because I isolate myself for some strange reason.

Yes.

No matter how many people I'm around and how many friends I have, I will always be lonely. I do not connect with the people of this world. So what's the point in even trying to make friends if you're just going to be lonely anyway? Why not just stay off by myself then?

The impossibility of me being able to ever actually connect with another person also makes it impossible for me to ever have a relationship, or at least one that gives me any amount of satisfaction. So not only am I lonely now, but I get to look forward to being lonely/alone my entire life!

Same situation

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Same situation,after high school no real friends,seems they don't see anything interesting to me and just after a while period avoid or be indefferent to me.

This might sound strange but if I can't quit smoking I will become very lonely.

By January 2015 a carton of 200 cigarettes will cost about $105, and I will no longer be able to afford the the Internet which is the only thing keeping me from being lonely.

I smoke about 8 cartons a month ($840 by Jan.). I don't know what I fear most, not smoking or being lonely.

Lonely... I was born and raised in Northern Ohio where I had a few friends. I now live in South Florida. My oldest daughter lives in Costal North Carolina, my youngest in Oceanside California. The only family member I had a relationship with was my grandmother who passed away 3 years ago. My father committed suicide on Christmas Day 3 years ago. I haven't talked to my mother or sister in almost 7 years. Yeah I'm lonely as hell. The only person I have left is my wife of almost 25 years and depression, being bipolar and the fact I'm so clingy to her is pushing her away. Everyday is a struggle to not want to deal with lifes demands. I thought my fathers suicide was a cop out at one time. Not so much anymore.

Not really any friends, acquaintances mostly; I have no girlfriend, never really had one and yet so damn heart-broken. God-dammit, she's always in my mind!

I have a husband, I have friends. I still feel lonely.

I'm not lonely since I'm in contact with people on the internet usually and that's good enough for me. It's the best way I'm able to express myself. I've never been completely alone yet though, so I don't know how that would affect me.

Lonely by choice, by choosing to be alone. Unhealthy but for now is safer, and cheaper.

I have no friends. I'm the class outcasted oddball who reads textbooks during break. I can't open up to people whom I know easily. I'm a coconut, tough on the outside and soft on the inside. No one talks to me. I crave company and good times with pals. What am I? Oh gosh, I am LONELY. I feel pathetic.

I'm lonely as hell. The more I try to make friends and socialize, the harder society pushes me back into the void.

I say to hell with them. I'm going to succeed and I don't need anything from anyone to be happy.

Im lonely but I have social anxiety so talking to people is hard I rarely even feel I can talk to my family about it because they dont really understand whats wrong with me and it upsets my mum that she cant just stick a plaster on it and make it better. I only have one friend and I dont see her often as its hard for me to go out. Wow I sound pathetic lol

I often feel guilty about feeling so lonely.... I work from home and live alone which means I spend many hours alone..... But I am grateful for the friends and family that I have in my life.

My depression makes me feel it more...when Im done I get so lonely......

I'm uncomfortable in crowds and prefer to go to places I know.....

Sadly though I know I put up walls....but they are not there to lock people out but to protect myself.

I would love to meet some people here and get to know them....
Online friends can make such a difference when your down and feeling lost....

I know that feel. I have a few friends, but we're different in some ways. I'm not getting along with my parents. Their lack of understanding of my problem makes it even worse.
I know that I'm alone, only by myself. I use forums to share now and then. It doesn't make much of a difference, but at least it helps me not to explode.

Sometimes ...

Mostly I enjoy being alone!

I chose lonely, even though I have a close relationship with my husband and grown sons. However I don't have any non-family friends, except for a couple who live out of state but that's not the same. I have some acquaintances but it's very hard for me to connect with people. I've accepted the fact that I'm comfortable with my own company, and I love the company of animals and nature, but I find it hard to connect with people. So, at times, that leaves me feeling disconnected and lonely.

I really like this. Thanks for sharing!

I am. I have my husband, and it helps but it doesn't replace having girl friends.

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"lonely" is becoming more prominent with me, lately. Actually really starting to bug me. ¬_¬ I'm probably being a right pain because I keep calling and visiting my parents... I'm meant to be in a place of my own, seeking independence and all that, but I HATE being so alone. I naively always thought I'd not go through this alone.. like.. I kinda just stupidly thought I'd have someone (partner, basically) by my side... so naive. Even finding myself wanting the other guy who lives here to be here more. (shared accommodation) It's nice to have my own space and stuff, don't get me wrong, but it's too much too soon and I don't think I'm ready for this... my anxiety and OCD and getting worse, and have been since a day or two after I got here. >.< Trying my BEST to stay ahead of it all, but the feeling of isolation isn't nice. All things considered, though, I think I'm doing well.

The percentage of people here who feel lonely is quite depressing in itself. 4/63 votes are not lonely, apparently. 'o.O

I am lonely as I exited a relationship, with no one new, to replace...replace the feeling of companionship....to have meals and plan meals together, go out and enjoy nightlife, live bands, and karaoke together...even the quiet, down times meant something, especially on a wintry weekend afternoon, when one needs company the most..

I have a lover that is extremely talented sexually, yet a selfish person, talking about himself, yet not knowing much about me, who I am..and we only see each other once a month or less..

I have really close, beautiful, true friendships, yet they aren't always available, on a day to day basis..one of my friends cancels our plans 90% of the time..

My mother told me this weekend, that when her husband passes away, she would like to get a place with me, which would involve moving to her town, I am pleased she invited me to do this..

Her husband is dying, which makes me sad, as he is a good person, but slowly..

I am staying with my Mom near my brother this weekend, and the feeling of having family nearby, is powerful, a stronger love than my friendships at home..

But I know I must face my life back home, for the time being..difficult..

I feel lonely nearly all the time....my work will begin again when the schoolyear starts back up, and that will help a little..

I feel very touched emotionally when in a support group, the conversation is deep and real..

Yet the support group ends, and I'm left to my own devices again..

I guess meaningful discussion helps me, since I'm oftentimes texting deep conversations with friends...

I know one day I will live with my Mom, and this comforts me...

I am lonely...in a way. My job is a great help because I've worked at it for a long time and have a good community there. I am legally married (for over thirty years) and while my husband and I are friends, we do not live together. I live with a man who used to be a good friend, but who has become a real loser (hasn't worked for five years for no other reason than he doesn't bother). I don't feel like footing the bill everywhere he and I might go, so I go alone. I am blessed to have grown children I'm close to; my daughter and I are especially close...she's my dearest friend. I have sisters and cousins I see now and then. It would be really nice to have a male person to hang out with...but...I have a history of doing that, and it always starts out great fun and ends up trouble.

I am lonely, but it's not company I want.