Anybody else feel like the game is over?

When I was a kid, my older brother and my younger sister (and maybe one of our stuffed animals) would play monopoly. Eventually my brother would always own almost all the properties, but he wouldn't let the game end. If somebody was bankrupt, he would give them just enough charity to keep them circling hopelessly around the board.

That's how I feel. My game is over. I'm almost 50 and I didn't play the game well at all. My only hope is to finish the next 20 years without a tragedy and die from something that doesn't take too long or hurt too much.

Anybody else have these types of feelings due to aging? I know 50 is not that old, but I'm starting to feel my age lately. I'm tired.

X123 - you know, this really explains how I feel too. I'm 48, can't work, no longer in a relationship, no friends, distant children, and live in a city I can't stand. I just feel like I've given up. How will I ever surpass or improve on these things? I fear living another 30-40 years like this.

It sounds like you lack purpose, x123. I can relate to that, but what do you think will give your life some meaning as you circle the board once again?

Yep, I have never been in a relationship, and I have no friends. I am partners with my brother in a tiny business that never seems to make any profits and often loses money... and has lots and lots of worries and lots and lots of hours. My only companionship is my 70 year old mother, and I worry about someday being her caregiver when she is too old. (I am currently moving into a storage room, so we can remodel the trashy apartment where I currently live and then my mother will live in that apartment and I will live in the storage room.)

It seems to me that I have always felt negative like this - even when I was younger. My negativity and my unwillingness to hurt other people doomed me to where I am today, and it continues into a dismal future.

The solution is to be hopeful and start taking actions that will make the future as good as it can be. Feeling that the game is over causes people to not take those actions. Easier said than done though.

I hope you can make some good decisions to help your own life be as good as it can be @rcat

The million dollar question....

Lol...between the age of 41 & 54 I felt that way but there is hope. I had lost me aerospace computer engineering career & the the business side of computer engineering didn't want us aerospace engineers who didn't have their technology expertness at our salary....top that off in a really bad marriage. That was a black hole time of life.....but......

Finally got a way out of being trapped in that marriage. Moved 2100 miles away & got to start life over in a wonderful small town where I didn't know anyone. I now enjoy life alone on my farm I had always wanted anyway. Surrounded by wonderful people. Lots of purpose every where I turn from caring for abused /neglected horses to volunteering with a great group decorating for horse shows at the horse park. I have wonderful people I go to great bible studies with. Sit & discuss problems. I am now around people who communicate in a rational way & have found out that I am OK after all. I enjoy painting, knitting, & walking through my woods. Life can get a lot better. I have more of a family of friends than I ever had with those I was related or married to

i'm only 22 and i already feel this way.

^You see, age is in the mind.

I sometimes feel like I got the "Go Directly to Jail" card. No passing go, no collecting 200 dollars...just pure isolation. I feel I more so deserve the "Free Parking" space but it always eludes me, taunting just out of my reach.

I feel this way too.

I have tons to be appreciative of, but depression has robbed me of a lot.

I feel as if the good stuff in life is over and I have nothing to be excited for in the future.

LOL. Sometimes I remember it became a relief to go to jail, because at least I didn't land on somebody else's property.

I feel like my sole purpose in life now is to exist so that other people can feel better about their circumstances by comparing themselves to "that weird old guy". But I have been thinking that for a long time. That kind of thinking has made my life what it is today. I need to get hopeful and do some things to make my life a little better bit by bit. I just don't have any ideas.

I kind of also feel like I have a measly 50 dollars and am on the last leg before "Go". Boardwalk and Park Place both have hotels on them and it's my turn to roll the dice. I'm either doomed to land on either property or if I have any semblence of luck, which I am not too optomistic about, I will pass "Go" and collect 200 dollars.

I usually feel like my whole life revolves around whether or not I am lucky enough to not land on Boardwalk or Park Place. Go figure.

I hope I'm not invalidating your experiences or the way you view how you feel. I've had bouts of depression since I was four years old although they weren't diagnosed until much later. I have felt many times that it was over... it not always having the same meaning as the previous time. I lost large periods of my life due to MI. I would think... it's over. But then things would turn around and I'd accomplish things that had seemed to be the "it" or part of it, that I had thought was over. I guess I should say the accomplishments weren't what I'd envisioned as my life dreams but they were good... sometimes close to what I'd expected to do in my life.
I suppose my thoughts now are that while we may not accomplish what we wanted to do, you can never know that it, meaning a productive life, is necessarily over just because of present circumstances. It is true that a lot of doors we wanted to go through become closed to us as we get older but there are many doors in life. I hope that helps. I hope it makes sense

I have felt like that for quite awhile. When all you can do is live in your bed all day and not even be able to play with your grand children or dogs, you just wonder why? What is the point of going on??

I'm sorry to hear you are stuck in bed all day.

Is it possible for you to meditate? At least your mind might escape from the physical circumstances during meditation. I don't have the discipline to meditate, but in the past it was nice. Just trying to think of some idea. Probably it is not help. Sorry.

I hope in the future I might be able to agree with what you say. It sounds good, but I haven't experienced what you describe yet.

But there is still time for it to happen I should have mentioned that there was no magic involved in any of that. Just sheer ambition/stubbornness, a willingness to go way out on limbs, and last but not least, two very very good friends who were willing to go way beyond what many people would do.

I hate Monopoly. Every.....yes, EVERY.....family had one sibling that loved the game and made everyone else play. I was always the first to go bankrupt. But I do love Adam Sandlers Monopoly bit. Hilarious.

I have tried that but I am on so many different meds, my mind just wanders. Most of the time, it always wanders back to what is going to happen to my Beagles and my wife.....

I do have a railroad scanner and a laptop. So that keeps me occupied for a few minutes at a time.

this is how i feel + im only 32. i dunno if thats young or old, does it matter. there is no point in my existance (i refuse to call it life tbh). i am not interested in anything enough to bother with it

I remember feeing that way at 33 too. It is a bad way of thinking instead of real circumstances. Of course aging is real. The problem is that this way of thinking prevents a person from enjoying today and working for a better tomorrow. I suppose it is depression partly.

Same. I'm only 29.

yup i feel like my life is over im 38 and things just get worse oh well thats life i guess

I feel like my life is over too. Of course, I believe I'm going to die in 2017/2018.

Thank you for this post, eskielover. I'm 52...53 in December and I battle the feeling of 'the game being over' every day. I hate feeling that way. On Tuesday, I'm attending a meeting for prospective library volunteers...hoping that leads to something...more meaning in my day-to-day life.