Miscarriage

So I had a miscarriage on Sunday. I am devestated and yet emotionally I feel nothing right now. I suppose the reality has yet to hit me going through so much. I am happy to be off work for a week so I can mentally prepare myself to go back to society. I jsut dont know how I am supposed to feel. I suppose I am angry. I dont know, maybe I do not want to feel so than I dont have to accept it as real.........any advice?

vulgerlove,

the only advice I have is to take care of you. Set all else aside if you can and take care of you and how you feel. Its awful what you have been through and I cant find the words to make it better. But I hope you can find something that eases this time for you.

all the girls

{{{{{ VL }}}}}

So sorry.

My condolences to you.

Petunia

*hugs* I'm soo sorry for your loss, don't worry about how you're supposed to feel, just take it one day at a time. You are not alone and this is in no way your fault!

((((VL)))) So sorry for your loss. Take care of you.

(((((((((((((((((((((((vulgerlove)))))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry for your loss.

Hi. Vulgar...I was wondrin' if you've been through therapy? Can't remember if I saw it or not on the forum. Now would be a great time to get into quality therapy.

TGC

it is a confusing thing, to lose a pregnancy. ((((((((huggs)))))))))

for my first pregnancy . . . at first, i struggled with ideas of abortion . . . then, when i decided to keep the baby, i couldn't. i had to re-structure my life after the loss. it took me a long time to realize that, "it wasn't my fault." i was angry at God, the physicians, my bosses, my family, and everyone for not taking my pain away. i still haven't been able to completely let go of all the issues from that.

advice? information gathering helps to understand and grieve your loss. research online miscarriage and pregnancy loss to read articles and support webpages.

and please don't forget the therapy. I miscarried when I was 19. My husband and I got held up. a struggle took place and the robber took aim at me and clicked the trigger 3 times. I felt frozen with fear. Well the shock put me into miscarriage. Phew!!

Should have had therapy.

Take good care!

have you had the hormone rush? It can be very overwhelming.
nourish yourself on herbs and vitamin b's...
yes taking time off will help.
it's such a shock to the system.
you are a find poet and writer...
can you find your way clear to write?
my best to you during this hard time.
Ganesha

thank you everyone for your support. I was in therapy for over ten years with no real benefit from it. No hormone rush yet. I am on iron and vitamin C, I suppose to build up my blood. I have never been through anything like this and do not know what to expect. I guess I am just trying to get over it or something. I dont know, I feel more confused than anything. I just hope it doesn't tear me and the father a part.

get some good grief counseling hon. you will mourn the loss and that is perfectly normal. please allow yourself to do that but please also get that grief counseling

there is no words to tell you how sorry i am to hear about your loss, i lost my second baby three months ago on wednesday, i was 9 1/2 weeks and i had seen my little peanut on ultrasound with a strong heartbeat and everything looked great, and two weeks later they told me my baby had died. your going to go through so many feelings and emotions its unreal you will feel numb i think thats a way we try to protect ourselves from the pain of reality. but it doesnt work because when it hits you its going to hit you hard, i just hope your spouse will be supportive to your needs your going to need someone to lean on, thankfully for me i had my sister-in-law to lean on me she was my rock and shes still there when i feel the need to cry...
your going to feel hate and anger and "what did i do wrong" and why did god do this to me, fear of it happening again, the list just keeps going.
but if you need someone to talk to feel free to e-mail me txgal556@aol.com
sorry its so long

Hi. I am very sorry about the loss of your baby. It is such a desolate place to be, Lord knows.

I lost my first baby as the result of a mugging by an armed & drunken Cretin. My husband went out to look for him..as I lay in the hospital wondering if I would lose him too.

One never forgets. It's always there, somewhere.

TGC

(((((VL)))))
I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a very difficult time I'm sure. I think your confusion right now about your feelings is absolutely normal. It's part of the whole reaction. Confusion about how to feel, what to say to others that don't know yet, about why it happened to you... the other feelings will come to, when you're ready; anger, grief, loss.

I too, suffered the death of my first baby. It's hard to never get to know that person you thought you would one day meet. I still carry his memory with me. His gift was helping me to know how others who go through this feel. When i was able to start talking about it, I was surprised to find how many others understood or had been through something similar. It was a very healing experience.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Be kind to yourself. Take it easy. Give yourself as much time as you're able to just be.

TC, Quay