My father committed suicide today I dont know what to do

honeybee777 · Jun 09, 2013, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Onward2wards

((((( Honeybee ))))) I am sorry hon.

Thanks ON2 means alot coming from you youve proablly been wondering why i havent been on chat or talking very much well this is why

Hope.Floater · Jun 10, 2013, 07:23 PM

:'( I'm there with ya just with different family but same journey.

STARLITE*1111 · Jun 11, 2013, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by honeybee777

I am very emotional, I just found out this morning my father committed suicide. From what the corner says, it wasnt planned it just happened, he had no"regular" signs that they look for, I am confused, he was a happy go lucky fella, good man, an never left a mote, just pulled out the gun and did it, my uncle found him, dead this morning, it makes no sense to no one, we dont know what he did it for, but he did it for some reason, maybe i would feel better if i knew why, but we dont, Im at a loss for word, cant stop crying, I keep vomiting and my anxiety and ptsd is in full gear, what emotions can you expect with this? How do you comfort your siblings when he didnt tell us why, how do you find closer when you dont know wtf he was going through, Im very upset, I have to go through his stuff and legalities of everything, Im worried about my brother he is jail but on the pathway to recovery, what if i telll him and he backslides, how do I tell my children, do i tell them the truth or a lie, very upset feel sad idk what to do

I am very sorry. My heart does feel the same type of ache - my sister took her life May 4th 2013. It is not going well. Sorry I don't have words of inspiration. I don't know if there really are any

Michel_H · Jun 17, 2013, 02:07 AM

First of all, very sorry to hear about this. It's very cruel on the family to having witnessed something like this. All you need to do right now is to stay strong.

In time, you may find out exactly why he took a step as extreme as this. Take good care of yourself.

don964964 · Jun 18, 2013, 10:35 AM

honeybee I am so sorry for your loss I send hugs and love to you

I am glad I have found this post, I have been on the depression forum a bit
but my point is I have been dealing with the loss of the one person who is my
world.. and have considered self terminating many times over the last months.
I know it is a selfish act, and a few of my kids friends have taken there lifes.
just reading your grief and sadness puts it in a new light, how could I even think of doing such a thing like that ? and to hurt the ones I love.

I feel for you .... love n hugs

thankyou honeybee

Veronica2 · Jun 18, 2013, 11:03 AM

I am so sorry for your loss honeybee

My grandmother committed suicide long before I was born and left a family of 5 children ages 8-5months old. It's very difficult to understand but know that your father was most likely suffering from a mental disease that he wasn't equipped to handle. He most likely was in more pain then anyone knew and he did not want to burden anyone...or may have been afraid. Depression and other mental illnesses aren't always found from an outward sign, so do not blame yourself or anyone for not noticing a sign. What's important right now is that you have emotional support from friends and other family members and try and comfort ea other during this difficult time. Sometimes in life we will not find out the answers until we ourselves reach our resting place...and that is really not for us to decide. I am really sorry for your loss and please know there are many out there that understand your pain and

want to embrass you. Take care of yourself and your family right now ok.

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Originally Posted by honeybee777

I am very emotional, I just found out this morning my father committed suicide. From what the corner says, it wasnt planned it just happened, he had no"regular" signs that they look for, I am confused, he was a happy go lucky fella, good man, an never left a mote, just pulled out the gun and did it, my uncle found him, dead this morning, it makes no sense to no one, we dont know what he did it for, but he did it for some reason, maybe i would feel better if i knew why, but we dont, Im at a loss for word, cant stop crying, I keep vomiting and my anxiety and ptsd is in full gear, what emotions can you expect with this? How do you comfort your siblings when he didnt tell us why, how do you find closer when you dont know wtf he was going through, Im very upset, I have to go through his stuff and legalities of everything, Im worried about my brother he is jail but on the pathway to recovery, what if i telll him and he backslides, how do I tell my children, do i tell them the truth or a lie, very upset feel sad idk what to do

Muppy · Jun 19, 2013, 10:16 AM

Not much help here, but lots of empathy. My son committed suicide February 5th. He had so many problems, mental health, relationships, career. He was so angry. He had alienated everyone with his temper and his attitude.

No matter what I say when I'm being totally realistic about him it still comes back to he was my firstborn, I had such hopes for him, I loved him totally, I'm shattered by his death.

marley001 · 08:57 PM

My father committed suicide this past Saturday. You are not alone..... He was a great man,but lately he was a real bad husband great dad, great man,,,just loved all types of women..his only default. My mother confronted he had another child with another women in another country... They got physical. He went in the closet and shot himself. Wow.. It feels like a dream man!!!! Why me???

marley001 · Jun 20, 2013, 12:45 AM

You aren't alone...

Demeanor · Jun 20, 2013, 03:09 AM

my deepest condolences to you and your family.. i cannot imagine the pain you must all be feeling right now..

almostthere · Jun 20, 2013, 12:01 PM

Oh Honeybee I am in tears right now...I'm so sorry about your dad taking his life. He must have been suffering a terrible pain inside which was much more than his human soul can handle.

U, and your family, are in my prayers....
I still have tears in my eyes.....
I don't know what to say that would take away the pain u must be feeling right now.

"almostthere"

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Originally Posted by honeybee777

I am very emotional, I just found out this morning my father committed suicide. From what the corner says, it wasnt planned it just happened, he had no"regular" signs that they look for, I am confused, he was a happy go lucky fella, good man, an never left a mote, just pulled out the gun and did it, my uncle found him, dead this morning, it makes no sense to no one, we dont know what he did it for, but he did it for some reason, maybe i would feel better if i knew why, but we dont, Im at a loss for word, cant stop crying, I keep vomiting and my anxiety and ptsd is in full gear, what emotions can you expect with this? How do you comfort your siblings when he didnt tell us why, how do you find closer when you dont know wtf he was going through, Im very upset, I have to go through his stuff and legalities of everything, Im worried about my brother he is jail but on the pathway to recovery, what if i telll him and he backslides, how do I tell my children, do i tell them the truth or a lie, very upset feel sad idk what to do

honeybee777 · 10:59 PM

You know what even crazier.....my grandmother is now dying ...hospice came today....she is my fathers mother....who he lived with when he committed suiscide and now she will be going to heaven any time now.....luckily she has dementia and really didnt understand what happned to my father, at least thats what we think...idk...she might be just letting go cause he died in the room right across from her....idk my father loved his mother and watching her die might of been one of the many triggers ...but again idk...i feel so bad for my Uncle who lives their as well, watching all his relatives die right in a matter for weeks of one another....i feel so bad for him...Im on stand bye when she goes I have to go up there to his house and stay a few days with him, make sure he dont do what my father did, idk if i could handle that right now...death is crazy mother ****er.....sorry for cussing but this is some crazy *** stuff

marley001 · Jun 22, 2013, 04:12 PM

On 06/ 15 my father took his life honeybee. I feel lost, confused, angry for him being selfish. Tonight is his wake... Im dieting inside, yesterday I went for arun,, and I ran and ran and ran. I just felt like running away' I didn't get tired....my emotions comes in waves. I'm fronting with everyone " making positive, but inside I'm dieing...

WidowReynolds55 · Jun 25, 2013, 09:12 AM

Oh my dear Honeybee,
I can't even imagine what you are feeling. I just wish you the strength to bear it--not just for yourself, but for your family. What a big job! I hope you have someone to lean on right now; someone to help you through this. I will say a prayer for you and your family and am sending mega-hugs for you all!

Jun 27, 2013, 10:38 PM

If you belive in God, pary to him that he milds the pain. That works for me after a while. I never have been that sad, but I do (somewhat) know about hamsters dying. I know it's not even close but, it is not easy when it is someone close to your heart. You break, and then start all over. I don't know if you get daily flashbacks, but I do. My friend wasn't that awesome, but I learned how to "push" away the pain as much as I can.

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