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Old Sep 08, 2006, 10:03 PM
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How stupid am I?!? Next week is the 4yr anniversary for my son, and I am now ready and on mon am going to tell CPS that they can keep me out of the loop now where my no1 daughter is concerned. They uplifted her in April/May to a caregivers house because she was so violent towards no2, and it was meant to be temp. Now they are supporting my ex's application for full custody; they do not tell me about hospital appts (a lung function test that is abnormal, related to her heart condition) and school meetings- there should at least have been a courtesy call about that one- and this weekend was my access wkend but they gave him the custody rights to take her 1000km to the chns hosp (also in the same town where my son is buried), where they have encountered probs (usual story with her lol) and instead of being back yesterday will not be back til wed earliest. I have gone to hell and back with all these decisions 'against' me and cannot take it any more.
sorry... just had to have a rant and get it out Good or bad decision?!
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Old Sep 09, 2006, 04:24 AM
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irish, sorry this is happening to u ur feeling frustrated...i can't really for sure w/out knowing the full story but it sounds as if ur not really getting to exercise ur rights and responsibilities as her guardian...u got a good lawyer? i'd get them to have a talk with ur ex and case workers about the terms of ur access etc.

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Old Sep 09, 2006, 04:25 AM
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irish, sorry this is happening to u ur feeling frustrated...i can't really for sure w/out knowing the full story but it sounds as if ur not really getting to exercise ur rights and responsibilities as her guardian...u got a good lawyer? i'd get them to have a talk with ur ex and case workers about the terms of ur access etc.

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Old Sep 09, 2006, 04:26 AM
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irish, sorry this is happening to u ur feeling frustrated...i can't really for sure w/out knowing the full story but it sounds as if ur not really getting to exercise ur rights and responsibilities as her guardian...u got a good lawyer? i'd get them to have a talk with ur ex and case workers about the terms of ur access etc.

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Old Sep 09, 2006, 03:27 PM
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argh...somehow that managed to be posted 3 times...i dunno how that happened, sorry about that!
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Old Sep 09, 2006, 05:21 PM
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tks (x3!!!). Yeah, i got an awesome lawyer who goes speechless every time she hears about 'what ex has done now', but up til now i have always had gd support from the chns lawyer. Now he is backing CYFS and ex, and coz he is so influencial down here my lawyer has advised against challenging him- it won't get us anywhere. Nah, i feel i am definately better off backing out now before the hurt becomes too much. maybe one day things will go my way, just not at the mo!!!
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Old Sep 09, 2006, 08:42 PM
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hi, i'll try not to do this one 3x! do u know why the chns lawyer is no longer supporting u? yeah if he's backing the ex etc it wld probly b difficult b/c he (theoretically) represents chn's best interests and those r considered paramount. sounds like a really hard situation for u all...hope u'll still get sum access to ur kids once this is all sorted out and also i read before this coming week is the aniversary of ur son's death so just sending out my support 4 that Good or bad decision?!
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Irish, I am so sorry you are going through all of this. It is hard enough going through life with the memories of loosing a son, let alone adding ex's manipulation of your other children. It is not easy dealing with something you have to fight about when you are dealing with other emotional issues. I hope that your lawyer will work for your best interest......letting the lawyer know your feelings is important. However I don't know if you are up to fighting for anything while in a fragile state.

Your decisions need to take into consideration your best interest given the state you are in at this point in time. I pray that things will go in your best interest,
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