[jkdisplay]

I lost my baby 2 months ago. He was a full term stillbirth and was almost 8 lbs. I had stopped taking anti-depressants for this pregnancy which was hard because I had been taking anti-depressants for 10 years. Now I'm taking them again. But still I'm really depressed (can't do basic daily activities and feel helpless and hopeless.) I know I need to grieve this loss but it's kicked off a depression I haven't felt in years. I don't think I'm just grieving in a healthy way.

I was all set to be a mother and now I don't know what to do. It was hard enough to decide and go through with being pregnant the first time. I'm not sad but I feel so bad.

[Lexicon78]

Losing someone, especially a child, can really test you. Just remember that things will get better in time. This won't last forever. The pain may seem unbearable, but I don't think we're ever given anything that we cannot handle.

Although I do not have children myself, I did lose my mother a 1 1/2 years ago. It put me in the hospital because I was in really bad shape. I think that sometimes we need that extra help.

Try to hang in there. I'm here if you need to talk.

[bebop]

jk there is a great group for support for grieving parents...please please get grief counseling. My daughter and her husband did not and it cost them their marriage. I am here anytime

[BetseyK]

welcome to this very sad club of child loss. See if the hospital where you were has a loss group. I went to a group for a while at our children's hospital that helped. I know other hospitals where I live do the same.

Also look into the Compassionate Friends. They are a caring group of people who know what you are going through, as they have too.

Be gentle in your grief..
Betsey

i am so very sorry for your loss.......

[SweetSunshine]

JK~ I am so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine carrying a baby that long and losing it. I have had 6 miscarraiges all before the 4th month.And it was horrible to go thru that. My thoughts are with you . If you need to talk feel free to pm me. Take care ~

Bethy

[greenfairy]

i am so sorry for your loss. i know what it is to prepare and plan, to create in your heart a very special place for a person who is a part of you and will always be a part of you, only to be faced with this incomparable emptiness. i wish i could take away your pain, and show you that your life still holds promise and possibility. you will heal. you will not forget, but you will find that every day gets easier. and we are all here for you when the days are long and sad and you need someone to lean on. when you are ready, please find and read the book Swimmer in the Secret Sea, by William Kotzwinkle. it was given to me as a gift many years ago when i finally had the courage to talk about what i'd been through. i waited too long to grieve. i hope that you let the tears come and dont keep your pain bottled up inside. find support and be strong.

[Beautiful_Pain]

I'm so sorry to hear =( I had two miscarriages, but none close to full term. My sister-in-law did...it was so hard for all of us. I hope you find a way to get through this. {{{{{hugs if ok}}}}}

[LadyDragus]

I am so sorry for your loss..

I know excatly where your feelings are and everything. It is hard to deal with a new baby let alone one that is still born.

I always went to my greif counslung when it was alabel to me.

I am here also. I have lost two childern in my life time and do understand what you are going through.

[Rhapsody]

Dear JK, ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

I am here for YOU if you need to talk.... I understand your feelings, for I too lost my baby girl - she was born with medical problems that left her handicap (100% dependant on me for all her needs) and due to these problems she stayed with in a baby like state her entire life.... she passed away when she was 10 years old.... My Little Baby Girl!

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[LMo]

[bebop]

I don't think there is a right way or a wrong way to grieve the loss of a baby. Sure you are depressed!! Anyone that loses a child is going to be depressed. It is THE most horrible thing anyone can ever go thru. The thing that finally helped me thru was when I realized that God had only loaned her to us for a very short time. There was a song by the greens named "Jesus Has a Rocking Chair" if you can find a copy get it! it is a wonderful healing song if you really listen to it. My love is with you and your family.

[desertislandblues]

Loss is hard. Loss of your child and all those dreams connected to a new baby, is hard, hard, hard. It was very wise of you to start taking your medicines again. Feelin bad/guilt is also part of the "deal". I am sending lots of positive thought waves and prayers to start making you stronger, day by day. Try to do whatever level of acitivity you are capable of doing. Let the sun shine through your windows. Put something red/orange in your room, like an ornage low light. I have an orange glow lamp...it warms my heart when it feels cold. Hang tough!

[praxis]

jk,

I am so sorry you lost your baby boy. He will always hold a special place in your heart no matter how many years pass and how many children you have. I lost my little girl to SIDS when she was just 11 months old. From one mother to another, my heart goes out to you.

[DocClyde]

I am very very sorry for your loss. My mom lost her first child, and we all wondered what he would be like, if he would be like us or would of made us different.

I am very sorry. Words cannot express, all we can do is hope and pray that you are blessed and find some peace.

[mazer]

I really really feel for your loss,I too lost a baby daughter,she would have been 10 this may .I only had 5 days until she was due,she was also stillborn and I had to go through with having a natural birth.There was no reason for her not to be alive,so I feel really guilty,especially as I did not see her but her dad did so I got the guilt trip put on me by the nurses when she was born,what did I do wrong or could I have saved her etc.I too had to be put on anti d's and placed in hospital twice which saved my life as I was so depressed, plus her dad left me 6 monthes after as he was cheating on me but you do move on with life but you never loose the memories of your little one,my pain is with me still everyday but not as strong as at the time of my loss,I think the only people who truely understand what us mums go through is the ones who have been through the same too as I got sick of people saying you'll get over it etc,you never get over losing a little one,you cannot forget loosing a baby and you shouldnt be made to forget them either.I now have a son and a little daughter but they will never replace my angel daughter.She will always be in my heart.Love you K xxx

My thoughts, prayers and love are with you jkdisplay and your little boy. xxxx Take care.

[AAAAA]

(((((jkdisplay))))) I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a baby 6 years ago and there are days I still mourn. I know there's nothing I can say to make it better, but you're in my thoughts.