My Mom Died Today

Today is the wake.

Tomorrow we bury her.

(((((((((((( Orange ))))))))))))))

It will be some very difficult days ahead for you dear one.

Maybe you can picture that you now have an angel on your shoulder for all time.......her name is "Mom"

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Take good care of YOU!


sabby

((((((((orange))))))))))))))))))) My prayers and thoughts will be with you both days.
muffin

(((((((((( orange))))))))))

I am soo sorry to here about your Mom; allow the tears shed to bring up "new flowers" in her memory. I will remember all in my prayers today. You are Loved JG+

(((orange))))

My mama passed away 5 years ago and it was one of the most difficult things I have ever been through.... but you do get through it. I am profoundly sorry for your loss.

((Orange))
You are in my thoughts...

When my mother crossed over, there was actually comfort from the gathering of family and friends. I finally let go and cried, and it was a much needed release.
I sincerely hope you allow yourself to weep as needed. It doesn't change anything except you aren't stuffing your feelings.

One baby step at a time, and please try and remember you do not have to put on the brave face...

Cap

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(((((orangeblossom))))) I'm sorry for your loss

(((Orange)))

I am thinking about you and praying for you and Mom.

Peace.

(((Orange)))
So sorry to hear about your loss
Infinite hugs for you.

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Sorry to hear about your mother passing away. Here's a poem.

((((((((( orange blossom ))))))))) so sorry for your loss...

Hey hon I am sorry for your loss and I hope and pray you are doing ok. If there is anything I can do to help you please just pm me and ask.

Thank you all so very much, it took me a few days to be able to answer this.

I will admit I am having some difficulty. It doesn't seem real to me at all.

There is so much to do when a person dies. It's totally overwhelming. I just found the copy of her will today after searching everywhere. I found it tucked inside a book.

I'm sure this will pass and I'll be just fine. Again.

Orange Blossom, I hope we can help each other get through this time in our lives. There is no love like that of a mother. Please accept my deepest sympathy.

((( EnglishMajor )))

Today is exactly two weeks since my mother died. My husband told me that I have not started to grieve yet and that's okay.

Baby steps.

Dear Orange,

There are many threads, so I don't know where I contacted you.... so sorry.

I know that you will find your own personal process through the loss of your mother.

I don't have to tell you how cared about you are, and how precious you have become to me, personally.

Be well, Dear Person, and self soothe whenever necessary.

You will be alright because life will be kind, and gentle, and fluid for some time to come.... while you gain your footing, and trust the natural progression of this experience ~ your inner voice that will take you through, all the way.

Peace and Love,
Night

I read this and my heart sank. I hope that she went peacefully, and that her life was a full one.

I know when my mom goes I'm going to be a basket case for a long time.

Peace love and strength to you.

Thank you once again, nightbird. You have a calming effect with your kind words.

And thank you FJRPC, for your good thoughts.

My mom had a full life but it was a very difficult one. Despite all the hardship though, she managed to laugh a lot and have fun. For that I am grateful.

Her husband (my dad) died when she was 38 years old (I was 10) and left her with three teenage boys and me, with no life insurance and a house that was in the middle of repairs.

She had to borrow money to bury him from her parents who were not the kindest people in the world and totally unsupportive.

The boys were angry and rebellious and started getting into trouble with the law. They were into drugs at an early age and became full fledged junkies in their teens.

The need for heroin was so strong they started lives of crime. Breaking and entering charges were commonplace but it also led to robbery charges etc. which ultimately led to prison terms.

My mother drank to escape and battle her own demons.

The boys battled drugs the rest of their lives until one died of a heroin overdose at age 38, and another one died from aids at age 42.

My mother never got over the death of her husband and then to lose two sons within five years of each other was almost too much to bear.

A year after her second son died, she battled breast cancer. A year later she was diagnosed with lung cancer (unrelated) and had her left lung removed and a piece of her right lung. The Dr. told us she was at a high risk for recurrence within five years.

But my mother was a strong woman and managed to go on. She spent the last four years of her life in Florida, in a retirement community which she loved. For the first time in her life she owned her own home, made a bundle of new friends (she had isolated after her sons died) and totally enjoyed herself.

Then her lung cancer returned ten years after her other lung was removed. They gave her 6 months to a year but she got pneumonia and died sooner than expected. She fought a valiant battle right up to the end.

My mom suffered the last three days of her life and I am still mad that someone who had gone through SO MUCH in her life would have to suffer like that at the end. She passed as peacefully as possible. I am thankful for morphine.

Sorry to ramble on and on. I guess I just needed to get that out.

((((((((orange))))))))) I am sooo sorry I havent been in a while and just saw your post..... She is with you and your love for her is with her... there will always be a connection, the soul is a powerful energy.... You may not be able to touch her but I am sure you can feel her presence near...

ramble as much as you need... share those memories...

lots of love and care,
melinda

From where I sit, don't EVER apologize for getting things out like that. I have no idea who you are, or who your mother was, but I can tell you this, from reading that post, I am inspired.

I deal with my own petty low self opinoin issues, and am taking wellbutrin and paxil to try and cope, but I have not endured a fraction of what your mother did.

To hear about someone that dealt with so much adversity, and must have felt awful failure (I'm sorry, I'm making an assumption) about the condition of her sons...well, I just can't imagine that I'd have the strength to persevere as she did.

Your mom chose to address adverse conditions with strength, and that is admirable. May God protect and comfort her soul, and may your rememberance of her live on as a lesson to others on how to live.

Peace to you, and there aren't enough hugs in my life to give you.

PC

Thank you so much for your reply. My mother would be amazed and humbled that someone (other than me) validated the hardships in her life. No one was ever there for us and we sort of got through all that together.

My mom struggled too, and I was a pretty bad son for a while. In my adult life I can't believe she put up with some of the stupid/ignorant things I did and said.

She putherself through school and had 3 to raise on her own, sometimes under very difficult circumstances.

The struggle is a challenge, and the character of ther person is defined by how they choose to handle adversity.

Maybe it's because I've see a similar kind of bravery that I can sympathize with you. Let me know if you ever need a "boost", and I'll support you through your grief.

(((Orange)))

Love you, my dear