Things Cis People Say

*uncomfortable cis person voice* Have you had, you know, *whispers* the surgery?
So you used to be a man/woman?
*uncomfortable cis noises/whining*

"*uncomfortable cis noises/whinning*"
Oh my this actually made me laugh i love this community

Born a man

and then I think of this:

*cis voice* like i donno u may change your mind like I thought I was gay once too

As a non-binary person who is biologically female or afab, however you wish to call it ,and identifies as a heterosexual woman but who also feels more masculine than feminine in most other areas, one thing that always annoys me is when cis people(my mom for ex does it a lot) tell me things like :

"why don't you just let your hair grow a bit, style it a tad more feminine, maybe wear some jewellery or a piece of clothing that would make you look more feminine? Everyone makes compromises, why would it be so hard to just temper that masculine side so men would maybe like you, as you so desire?"

Very painful to hear although I know they mean well and sincerely can't understand the problem. It makes me feel like what they actually mean, without intending it that way, is that in order to be attractive/liked/accepted/loved, I need to hide a huge part of my identity and put myself through a mental ordeal because my identity, the very way that I am is making me undesirable for no reason.

It's what I did all my life (hiding, feeling I'm not good enough just the way I am), but I won't do that anymore.
Let the non-ally cis people whine away! :dance:

*cis parent voice*But why is it so important that people use your preferred pronouns?

Some other things cis people say, maybe not enough, but sometimes

"I support you and want you to have the same happiness and rights as I have."

"What, are you going to use men's dressing rooms now??" My mom, when I told her I was androgynous.

I'm not sure if I said this one in my original post (my memory is horrible these days) but... this one grinds my gears the most:

You can almost pass for a boy

Maybe that's because I am one.

This one is almost a nice compliment, but backhanded:

You'd be a very handsome boy

*You're such a handsome/pretty guy/girl, why do you want to change things?*

*gay cis person* "Well we had to wait for rights and we were here first, soooooo."

I only refer to people by their birth/assigned names unless you legally change it.
Said to me by my sister who never uses my pronouns and refuses to call me by my name.

Next time she does that, ask her about Stefani Germanotta's latest album (Lady Gaga), or how Malcolm Little (Malcolm X) effected political change, or (and this might be hard to learn to pronounce, but worth it) the lasting effects of Iosif Vissarionovich Dzhugashvili's (Stalin's) policies on Russia up to today.

^^
damn that was brilliant

The only one of these she would know would be Lady Gaga, but this is brilliant. You are brilliant. I'm actually typing this and smiling.

I was smiling when I read it. Gave me my reply for next time someone says it to me. And I hear it a lot, as well.

*whiney cis voice* ITS DISCRIMINATION IF I CAN'T JOIN YOUR SAFE SPACE TO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST YOU!!!

It goes for so many things. I'm pro diversity on many levels, and being tolerant, yet someone who is not tolerant is always whining I'm a hypocrite because I'm not tolerant to their opinions. They act like they really found some kind of really cool proof against me.

But why would I have to be tolerant to intolerance???

*cis voice* But won't hormones change who you are?

Hope this one hasn't been said yet... "If you were born a girl then God meant for you to be a girl." Really? I'd like the verse for that one please.

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"But why can't you just be happy the way you are?"

um idk I've tried lol

but that's just how you were born!

I was also born blonde, but you didn't fuss when I dyed my hair.

I love how these people just know what God intended and, in saying stuff like this, are essentially talking down to anyone who doesn't "get it". Such wise sages, they are.

We talk about making forms more gender inclusive.
CIS person 1: Oh, but we don't need to do this, it concerns only such a small portion of the population.
CIS person 2: The solution is to just put "don't know" as an additional option, that fits everyone.

Yeah, because just because YOU don't know that there are genders that don't fall into the binary, obviously we also cannot know who we are.