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#1
Mar 11, 2008, 12:25 PM
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This is going to be a very simple thread add if u like ignore if u want
Have we failed each other ???? The reason why I asked this question is because I have been on this site for a quite bit of time. I got the needed support at the times that I needed it ..... So with that said I have been reading some posts In PC lately. The same pattern is always there ..... oooo u need hugs .... ooo what u did was right ...... ooooo u r a bad person what happened to the days of just listening to each other and having understanding that some are just utilizing this as a productive outlet .... I dont want pity , i dont want fake hugs , somedays i want the damn answers this is me ...... I put it in here cos i know this concept might be shared amongst us men logically speaking no emotion here just David being david calling it black n white if u think im onto something just give me a HELL YEAH thats all im asking for if im off base just answer dude ur off base |
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#2
Mar 11, 2008, 12:30 PM
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i think its going somewhere Tymber....
the 'endless' cycle is getting old to me too... im not sure its totally a guy thing, but yeah... i hear where you're coming from.... wanting things to improve myself... you've done some good work at PC David... ive read your posts a while and you've been strong, caring, nurturing, and at times frail.... thats being human... thats being honest.... thats' facing it..... i like the direction you're going with this.. thanks... some growth, some adjustments... acceptance.... could it all come together? |
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#3
Mar 11, 2008, 12:41 PM
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I just think if we could be supportive with each other....
just listen to what people have to say ..... get back to being a society of real people .... not fakers or people that dont know what too say sooo they just place a fake hug there .... gheeez like this is going to make me feel better |
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#4
Mar 11, 2008, 12:56 PM
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i know at work i was, have been guilty of being less compassionate than i try to be...
i did, as a cashier, fall near the 'have a nice day' rut... didnt like how that fit.. then, later, in a hardball capacity, had to be hard and 'by the book' .. that didnt feel right to me either... a lot of causes i can think of... but you're right i think.... just need to look inside and re-light some of that good old forgotten friendliness to each other... |
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#5
Mar 11, 2008, 01:00 PM
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HELL YEAH I LIKE UR FLOW NOWHERE.... KEEP IT PLAIN AND SIMPLE THATS WHAT IM SAYING
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#6
Mar 12, 2008, 09:11 AM
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well tym, I've not been a member long enough to reply with a since of merit
but I do see the same old, same old, tell people what they want to hear, truth or not, and a few that combat those that say what the few don't want to hear..... over and over, truth or not this is a support forum though, so I guess if giving false solace is what they are looking, then that is what they should recieve, it is not the place for truth and reality IMO,or my place to try to help bring anyone to the worlds truths, its just to give support when I can in what ever form it is implied for but I still love to visit none the less , since there are some that are "real" IMO, and make it worth sifting through all the BS, to get to the good stuff |
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#7
Mar 12, 2008, 11:11 AM
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coral.... if not in a community, where are some good places for truth and reality? is PC not a community? of real people? i know you are and.. pretty sure we all are... yep, i'm positive of that..... hope you are well..... the work on the house sounds great : )
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Mar 12, 2008, 05:42 PM
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Mar 12, 2008, 05:47 PM
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it was late this morning when I wrote that and I just got out of a 11-12 hour drive last night,so now I see your point, let me rephrase
what I ment is sometimes this is not the place to speak about truth or reality, since it can be triggering to some, and its better they hear what they need to hear , which is not the truth or reality sometimes IMO far as the house, my wife loves it  but I am ready to break ground on a new one on the back acre, she'll love it as well when I am done, construction is something I just love to do  |
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#10
Mar 12, 2008, 05:56 PM
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"A spoonfull of sugar helps the medicine go down"
Wonderfull line in a wonderfull song in a very special film... Lenny
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I have only one conclusion,,and that is things change too quickly for me to draw them.... Sobriety date...Halloween 1989. I was plucked from hell...and treat this gift as if it is the only one... |
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#11
Mar 12, 2008, 06:01 PM
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if you are interested in antique homes like me, I'll upload a few pics through pm,if you like, I really like the Brazilan Cherry flooring, though I should have probably just refinished the original yellow pine floors to stick more toward its authenticity as a farm house, but my wife wanted the floors to match the cabinets
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#12
Mar 12, 2008, 06:07 PM
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Coral.. you're a cool guy and thats why had to say something above... didnt sound at all like something you'd say... thanks for rephrasing it for me... i see your point completely... as well as Lennys' wise addition..
hey... yeah ... post the house pics Coral... bet youre work is great... |
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#13
Mar 12, 2008, 06:15 PM
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I'm on my laptop right now and dont have my digitals software loaded to it but, I'll get a few up tonight
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Mar 12, 2008, 08:17 PM
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Personally, I don't want b.s. and I don't want people to tell me what they think I want to hear. I prefer truth. One can be diplomatic about that. Poo-poohing someone isn't support. You can disagree with others' point of view without being mean about it--you simply disagree.
Lenny, did you make that stained glass window you're sitting next to? Scott
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Mar 12, 2008, 09:29 PM
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scott, I feel the same
but some here just don't simply disagree, they fight tooth and nail, with a "if you ain't with us your against us" mentality IMO nowhere...I think I'm gonna start a thread with pics about my haunted house, I just snapped some shots earlier and am letting my cameras battery charge to get a few more on my hard drive before I start it |
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Mar 12, 2008, 10:25 PM
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 thanks Coral.. checking out the picsyeah .. the toothe and nail fighting sucks imo... discussion is cool ... we aren't doing too bad i dont think : ) |
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Mar 13, 2008, 07:22 AM
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Coral,
Very cool house. Very impressive that you did that yourself. Like the floors. I bet the flowers are going to be beautiful once they all bloom. There's nothing more beautiful than dogwoods and daffodils. Scott
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#18
Mar 13, 2008, 08:25 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
scott88keys said: Lenny, did you make that stained glass window you're sitting next to? Scott </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Well Scott,,,I cut the glass...LOL I have found over the years that the less I try to control the outcome of anything, the better it works out. I have walked a few windows to the dumpster that were all Lenny. These days I get out of the way and let "something(one)" else do the creating... Lenny
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I have only one conclusion,,and that is things change too quickly for me to draw them.... Sobriety date...Halloween 1989. I was plucked from hell...and treat this gift as if it is the only one... |
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#19
Mar 13, 2008, 12:41 PM
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I think what's being struggled with here is the direct result of pc being a community. There are a lot of different types of people here with different ideas, approaches, expectations, etc. So yeah, you're going to get (((stereo))), you're going to get some b.s., and you'll even get social pressure to conform, but you'll also get people who think and feel like you do; sharing and responding with earnest, if not always popular, blunt honesty. It's also important to note that some cases on this site are chronic and improvements are miniscule. This doesn't make them less important. Finally, I don't know that PC will ever fix anyone. A better use for PC is to encourage those who are working towards better health with a professional in real life. My two cents. Cyran0
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#20
Apr 30, 2008, 08:03 PM
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Cyran,
I agree with what you are saying and on the other hand most therapists want to change the thought patterns also. If you think negative you tend to run a negative life If you think the world is crashing then you tend to feel out of control. I understand there is some degrees of mental issues or problems but what I dont appreciate is that if i ask point blank " hey am i wrong ? " and i get ooh no david you are right on base and i just killed someone ( example ) then that mentality is wrong we are friends here we should be able to differ from truth / reality and falsehoods my quarter sorry david |
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