10 Ways to Get Endless Attention

So true ry. I had to re-read several times cuz after a couple of posts, I got lost, and had to scroll up again. veddy interesting.

I would like to open my big mouth and say..........

I am guilty on many of the things on the list, but personally, I think it is good for people to be able to laugh at themselves SOMETIMES, because we're all human beings, and we all need attention, some days more than others.

Perhaps I'm wrong to say this, but why can't we leave the post alone, and try to understand the intended 'reason' for the original post? (makes sense?) I believe the post was intended to be humourous, and not meant to hurt anyone.

I think that it is snowballing, and enough hurt, and mis-interpretations have been done.

Yes, people have the right to express their feelings and opinions, and be respected for that. That said...With so much happening recently, I'm afraid that people's anxiety have risen and many assumptions have been made.

Before, there was a lot more 'support' between members of this site, but lately, it seems like there are more 'hurt' and people are on the defensive. Would it help to clarify assumptions before stating opinions?

Ok. I've stepped of my soap box. I'm sorry if I have offended anyone.

Amen, Wants2Fly. You are a bright and thought-provoking woman. I have a lot of respect for you (and you write REALLY well!)

I want to write about my part in Wants2Fly's decision to post the 10 ways to get attention.......She pmed me and said that she had written it and questioned whether she should put it up on the forum. She then sent it to me and after I read it and finally quit laughing, I replied that I thought it was totally appropriate for the board. I laughed while reading it and I personally think that it applies to about 75% of the posters here........myself included. I think it's funny. It reminded me of David Letterman's " Top 10" list. I have experienced some of the talking points with posters here. You have certainly dealt with my views when they were skewed. I do NOT believe that she put it up with the intention of hurting any one poster here. It's a big world and we all have different ways of approaching it. That said, I'm totally comfortable with the posting of the list. Pat

Lmo, I'm sure you remember a very obnoxious young man last year that was so angry, he seemed to insult everyone. In fact, your signature, at one point was aimed at him. Part of it still remains.

The reason I bring this up is that every now and then there are a few people that are so needy for attention that they'll do anything for attention, whether it's negative or possitive. Just because there are one or two on the board right now doesn't mean that the original post was meant for them. Like I've said before, I recognize myself as well as many others that have been and are on the board right now.

Fact 1: This happens on EVERY message board in one way or another.

Fact 2: Negative truths often hurt

Fact 3: We are all too quick to forget the possitive statements made to us, but we're chomping at the bit to REACT to the negative ones. Has anyone besides Wants2 given and serious thought to the original post? I seriously doubt it!

I'm as guilty as the next person for wanting attention. There have been many times that what I thought was a darn good post got ignored. I was hurt and frustrated. Take last night when I posted about my oldest son. You bet I was wanting attention!! I wanted everyone here to look at the pix, read his email to me and comment possitively to it! Why do you think I titled the post to cause curiosity? TO GET ATTENTION! How come no one is faulting ME for being an attention getter??

Too many people are being too quick to side with the negative and promote it. Why can't you just look in the "mirror" that was provided for us and realize that maybe there's some room for improvement??

What bad form we present when we take anything that disturbs our comfort zone and attack others because we were made to feel uncomfortable! That's what's "crappy"!! (to put it mildly)

Those that have taken the post as "finger pointing" have picked it up and run with it. That is totally unnecessary! Now there is at least ONE member who has been proven right in his illogical thinking. The help that is continually being offered to him could possibly have just gone down the drain. THAT I am taking personally! All of this has been based on ASSUMPTIONS. Do we all know what ***-U-ME does??

I'm going to get off my soapbox now before I get in trouble with the administration.

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How come no one is faulting ME for being an attention getter??

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1) because you help others more than you ask for help
2) because when other people offer suggestions, you appear to seriously consider them instead of ignoring the post. IE, you don't cry wolf
3) you know when to take it to PM and when to keep it in a thread
4) you did catch MY attention, though... wink wink...

LOLOL Oh, no fair! You love me! hehehe

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Thanks for the positive affirmations and for your love, Sweety. I love and admire you!

Hey! I gotta go find my "I AMs"!! I must be lovable if you love me, right? hehehe

Hmm, Am I really weird or what? I don't seem to take things here that personally, especially this post. You are a good writer and you articulated your feelings well and I am with SS, it made me chuckle. Maybe I see myself there and can laugh at me?

Thank you so much for enjoying at bit of self-deprecating laughter at our own expense.

As I ate my supper tonight, I reflected positively that I did not allow myself to fall into my lifelong pattern of being "sorry" because someone took exception to something I said or did, and I ***'u'me'd it was my job to try to make everything all better for that person or people.

It is a huge step forward for me, just this once, to take my lumps, not turn tail and run nor get into some awful shouting match with someone. What really helped me was that so many people found a chuckle in this, and perhaps a grain of truth worth considering.

I especially like the way September Morn (#128557) laid things out. As I look back on it, I would not have posted this bit of whimsy to avoid displeasing a minority. Without Pat's strong suggestion to post, I would not have done it. I would have literally "eaten my words" rather than dare to make a single a person even a teeny tiny bit unhappy -- part of my whole routine of, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry I take up space on the earth and breathe the atoms of air that I do."

I'm also rather proud of all of us for not letting the thread get hijacked.

I am 57 years old. It is rather daunting to think of all the times I have cowtowed and not expressed myself because of my fears.

But you here on the Forums lent me a little bit of your courage, and knowing some of you were having a bit of a chuckle gave me so much pleasure. I was able to stick to my point and remain calm because of the love and support and acceptance I've received here -- and that is a gift beyond measure. Aw shucks, I'm tearing up, that's what post-menopause can do to a gal.

Thank you all.

Hey Wants2, I guess that does make us like the Sister Sledge Song "We Are Family" huh
Angie

wants2

If I've made a mistake I'm really sorry, it's just not the way I saw things. And btw, I am not an *** for giving my opinion at obvious risk of whatever 'good' part of my reputation was left and whatever friends I thought I may have had!!! My price to pay for speaking out on what I believed.

(((((((((((((wants2))))))))))))) I'm proud of you for sticking to your guns.

COOL

It's my experience that when someone starts a sentence with such a cautionary statement (others include "don't take this the wrong way" "you know I love you but" "don't take this personally but" and similar backpedals) they actually do have some piece of aggression in their motives. Otherwise, why the need to backpedal from the get-go?

Just my observation,
gg

Yes, Angie, I rather think it does

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I'd like to jump in on the hug wagon.

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You're an amazing person. Not many could hold up to this kind of thread but you're showing strength beyond strength. Take care.

Ry

You know I just noticed something. I guess it means I am self-centered, hmmm. When I read stuff on here I almost always take it for what it is in front of me and respond purely to that. It does not occur to me to relate it to another thread. If I do suspect there is some quarrell happening I stay away. I do not like to get into he said she said here anymore then in my life. I choose to see each for their best and leave the rest alone. I have too much strife in my life as it is. I do not mean to slight or ignore, I just try to come from a here and now place when I am responding to the boards. I am not a cyber hugger so I will say peace to us all and let it begin with me.

Wants2fly,

I am probaby jumping into the line of fire here but I can resist no further.

Your original post was absolutely wonderful in my opinion!!

The fact that there can be humor in something does not negate the fact that there can be truth in it also. One is not necessarily in absence of the other.

I as survivor in search of recovery I must continuously look in the mirror to hold myself accountable so I do not fall into the self blame victim roll. I am speaking of myself only others must do what they need to do to survive and recover.

If someone occasionally taps me on the shoulder and reminds me of this... it is to my benefit and I will say thank you.

So Wants2fly....Thank you my dear for the kind tap on the shoulder. It is appreciated.

Wants2, I'm glad you got something out of this too, it was a fabulous post, a little pearl of prose. And fall down funny too. To be that funny as parody, it has to hit close to home. Good job.

As to all the twisted knickers I am reminded of the parrot in Tom Robbins "Fierce Invalids" novel, "people of zee worrrrld, rrrreeeeelax."

(((((((((((((((((((((((((ww))))))))))))))))))))) Good post.

I don't see a relationship from one post to another either.

Peace is good. Too much excitement is not good for my little ole heart.

I think a Psych Central group hug is in order...

If I'm wrong, you can hog-tie and tickle the snot outta me.

Jenn

It is lovely that this post will retire itself in peace, isn't it? Such a wonderful outcome.

Sqrl -- I haven't read insanely funny Tom Robbins in a very long time. And I don't recall ever reading Fierce Invalids. But I want to now. The parrot is a hoot. Or is that an owl? (Bad pun, sorry).

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I guess it means I am self-centered, hmmm.

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I don't make that connection, Hun. To me, the way you handled this particular issue was the healthiest of all. To be self-centered, you would have taken it as a personal affront.

Eeeeeeeeeeeeew (((((((Dolfin)))))))))))))) I'll have to get someone to stuff a box of kleenex into your nose first before

Well, you gotta agree. It's better than making her pee her pants!

Oh... I'm bad today!