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May 11, 2005, 07:21 PM
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wi-fighter have been very concerned about your sitituation with ex, have you gotten the 3d help your in need of what can we do here
(((((((((Shirley))))))))) Angie
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May 11, 2005, 07:26 PM
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May 11, 2005, 07:28 PM
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Shirl, did you and the kids go on your trip?
when is the mediation with the ex? i'd be scared too, if i had to do that meeting. i was terrified of the girl's dad for a long time after we divorced. (but there's hope.....mine is now gray and fat.....  and i'm still sporting the brown hair and am slender.)seriously, can we do anything here at PC????? xoxoxo pat
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May 11, 2005, 07:39 PM
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No, I haven't gotten the 3D help. Because I'm not being physically abused, I take lower priority on the abuse shelter's list for one-on-one meetings. They even called me on Monday urging me to cancel my appointment today since I have a lawyer. A lawyer who charges $200 an hour and isn't meant for emotional support.
I can't do groups. I just can't. I get panicky and sick at the thought of them, and even told them so. Nobody can help me but me, and I'm useless to myself right now regarding this situation. 
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May 11, 2005, 07:42 PM
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Shirley if there county funded they have to help, go to the county tell them they are putting you off, scare them a little
Angie
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May 11, 2005, 07:45 PM
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Pat, I had to cancel the trip because my son wanted to take an ATV safety course instead.
Mediation is next Wednesday. I dread the backlash I'm going to endure when I refuse to back down on things that are important to me regarding the kid's well being. He'll act all smooth in mediation and then e-mail me with bizarre demands once he gets home. But obviously he's not enough of a threat to get protection of any kind. Unless you're in physical danger, no one gives a damn. Mine's got a beer gut, is gray and balding, but he's got all of his blindingly white teeth.
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May 11, 2005, 08:00 PM
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Make sure you print out the emails and take them with you. Make sure they see exactly how he is...you have a right to feel safe and your feelings validated. Keep making noise until you get satisfaction. You can do it!
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May 11, 2005, 08:03 PM
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i agree...print out his e.mails.....take them with you.....i'm here for you.......you're a good friend and a wonderful human being.....xoxo pat
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May 11, 2005, 08:14 PM
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Angie, I hate demanding treatment, then I feel like they're only helping me to avoid getting in trouble.
I emailed and canceled the appointment, then I called and said "I'm not coming in for my 9:30 appointment with Wendy" and hung up before they could say anything. There's no way I could show my face there now, even if I could get up the courage to walk in to a group meeting. 1Day and Pat, sure I can save the e-mails and show someone, but it doesn't stop the fact that he'll manage to put me in a panic. I was reading something today about negotiating with a narcissist (which he has a lot of traits of) and you're supposed to be all accommodating and not ruffle their feathers. All the abuse books say to stand up to your abusers and say "NO MORE" I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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May 11, 2005, 08:49 PM
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Hells bells girl you pay for those services through your taxes, make them work for you
Angie
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May 11, 2005, 09:23 PM
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Wi fighter,
It is wrong of them to make you feel that you do not deserve help. Why can't people just do the jobs they get paid for? If they do not want to do their jobs they should allow people who do want to do the jobs to take them. Are they saying you can't have treatment unless you go to groups? That is bull. That is so wrong! place
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May 11, 2005, 09:30 PM
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Place, they're pushing me to only do groups, even though I keep telling them it's a major anxiety-inducing idea.
Anyway, it doesn't matter.
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May 11, 2005, 09:36 PM
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It does matter. They have no freaking right to do that. It is a cost saving thing for them and they are not doing best practice for the individual clients.
Groups can be wonderfull but NOT for people who do not handle them well or have issues that need to be addressed 1x1 at first. It is just wrong and they need to be brought to be accountable.
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May 11, 2005, 09:38 PM
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 Grrrrr Can you call the governing board?
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May 11, 2005, 10:57 PM
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((((((((((((((((((((WI)))))))))))))))))))))))
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May 12, 2005, 08:41 AM
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shirl.......hang in there, woman! P
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