Need to cope

Hi people

I've been blocked at another site and sometimes I can't stand it. I don't know how to cope all the time. I can't stand it and I get really upset.

I think I'm obsessed with the administrator there and I'm bordering on harassing him I think. What should I do people?

Green

let the situation settle down a month or two then contact the administrator/ moderator and explain politely that you uderstand why you were blocked and why you did what ever it was that got you blocked and how you are taking care of the situations so that it doesn't happen again. when they see you are truly trying to see their side and are taking the appropiate steps they may, (no guarentees) reconsider and unblock your access. your reaccess may also include certain extra rules you may have to follow. Good luck.

I also agree with myself.
I would definitely back away for a couple of months....step back & look at yourself. Try to understand exactly why you are being blocked.....there must be a very good reason & I am sure they provided you with their logic. It's kind of like when we were under our parents. If we did something that wasn't acceptable, they would set up rules to make us stop our actions. It is important for us to understand their reasoning.....whether we like it or not isn't the question....they set the rules we have to live by while we are living with them. I was always taught that I was to understand their action & look at what I did.....& even though I may not have been sorry for doing what I did....an appology was required.....showing that I understood what I had done. Being upset is normal when we are told we have done something wrong....backing off will allow you to get away from your obsession & any harrassment you may be thinking of doing (not appropriate behavior) & put the situation into perspective.

Time away from a situation & put it into perspective.

Debbie

This isn't the first time you've mentioned bothering that admin. Cyberstalking and harrassing is illegal. And if you are in one country, and this administrator happens to be in another country - you can be prosecuted by BOTH countries. Not too much fun for you, I'd guess.

My advice is to leave the guy alone, and find something healthy to do with your time. If you are not able to leave him alone, seek therapy before you find yourself in legal trouble.

Good luck and take care of yourself!

emmy

I agree with everyone else. I think you need to take a long hard look at what you're doing and WHY you're doing it. Talk to a therapist ASAP. Best of luck to you!

Jen

Found you :-)

Coping can be hard...
Hang in there. It will get better.
I'm not sure what you mean about harassing...
I think some people do email fairly frequently...
But then its up to him whether he reads them / responds to them or not.
Maybe have a bit of a think about how many you are sending...
But: Don't beat yourself up.
Really.
I think you do a better job of that than anybody else does.
And things aren't so bad.
You are okay :-)
And...
You are missed. Your friends can't wait for you to come back.
And even the people who were upset with your post...
They didn't like your posts
But its not that they don't like you as a person.

Anyways...
You have my email address.
You are welcome to email me if you would like...
Hang in there.
It has to get better.
Miss you.

(See what you have done - I had to come back here to talk to you!!!!!!)

(((((((Deneb))))))))

Take care.
And I am really glad that you are still hanging in there.

Oh...
And you do understand why you were blocked, right?
If not then I think I might be able to help you out there.
I think it was a fairly predictable consequence for something you had been warned about before.

But...
The blocking really is the only consequence.
And people are fairly typically happy to see people back once that is over.

I made an appointment with the student couseling centre a few days ago. I still have enough sanity to realize that what I'm doing doesn't make sense in the real world. Fantasy is interfering with reality and I think I need some help.

I'm going to see someone for a quick assessment session on Sept. 8th. That person will decide who is right to see me. I think they have counsellors in training there. I'm a bit nervous about this. What should I say?

I get upset off and on.

I'm starting to get upset again. I don't know what is wrong with me.

I don't know what to do. I think I need people to understand me...I'm not sure.

I think I'm afraid of permanently messing things up. Have I messed up my life because of my harassing Dr. Bob? I'm so afraid that he's going to get me in trouble now.

Can someone please plead my case and convince him not to take legal action? I'm really sorry.

I keep forgetting that he's a real person. I think he's like an imaginary friend.

What do I do?

I'm starting to go crazy again and I don't know what to do.

There is something wrong with me, maybe I have OCD too. I didn't e-mail Dr. Bob today, but I still get the urge to off and on. I'm also e-mailing the deputies a lot as well, especialy GG. I'm afraid I may be starting to harass her. I don't know what to do.

It is such a long time before I see someone at the counseling centre and even longer before I am unblocked.

Will people think I'm utterly insane for being so upset over such a stupid thing?

What is wrong with me? I get so upset over tiny little things. E.g. I can't find my ruler so I am furious and think that my life is over now because I can't make a nice graph and I'll get a horrible mark on my lab report.

That happens very often with me and I stop functioning sometimes.

What can help me?

I just realized that I think people on PB care about me. There is a thread for me there, wishing me well. It comforts me.

Maybe they won't forget about me. Maybe I won't disappear if I don't post.

I think maybe Dr. Bob won't call the cops on me. I think maybe he will ignore everything that is no admin related. I think that it won't be a big deal as long as I stop e-mailing him. I think maybe he is forgiving. I think he forgave Lou so maybe he will forgive me. I think maybe he doesn't wish me harm and probably agrees with most other normal human beings that I need some help or something.

I think that as long as I can remain normal for a long time he and others will be ok with meeting me. I will try very hard to remain sane.

as a former babbler, i advise you to leave it alone. it is harrassment and you could be in a lot of trouble. being blocked isn't the worst thing in the world. i was blocked several times while there. i came here. this is a much more peaceful place. i hope you do see a counselor. i wish you the best. pat

I agree with Pat..... get off the computer if you want to email this person!
I think he is giving you the message loud and clear that he won't reply

Good luck and I agree that a counsellor would be able to help you,
(I hope you don't live in the UK though... if so duh me but some of them still can help )
Take care,
Fuzzy

I didn't e-mail him yesterday, but I'm afraid of the damage I may have done.

He knows my name, my ISP, and where I live, it will be easy for him to send the police after me. I don't know what I do. I don't think I should apologize because it is just more harassment.

Am I doomed? Am I going to go to prison now? Does anyone want to take a look at the e-mails I sent him to determine if he will take legal action against me?

I think I ruined my life. I don't know what to do now.

you know you are in the wrong and you know you are being harrassing, May I ask why you continued?

Following this it appears that this behavior is not new and is a repeat of past behavior but still you have yet to learn a valuable lesson.

I strongly and I emphasize strongly, urge you to seek help from people in real life. This is sounding out of control and not normal! you appear to want someone to take control and contact your ISP or Police.

How would this person have your name and address?

Please get help soon.

I can't stand the waiting. I think I should turn myself in. Will I go to prison for a very long time?

I never threatened the guy. I only threatened myself. I sent him 11 e-mails in total. Too were only subject lines with no actual message in the body of the e-mail. All were short messages consisting of a few sentences. Most are apologetic about not being able to stop harassing him. One was angry at him but didn't threaten him in any way. He never replied back to any of them or requested that I stop e-maling him.

I think I should e-mail the police and turn myself in. I don't know what will happen to me.

I don't think you are going to go to jail over it.
He is fairly tolerant...
Not too hard to hit 'delete'

But it has to stop.

Write them if you need to
But don't send them
You can send them to me if you like
Really :-)

The best thing you can do...
Is learn from the block so you don't get blocked again.

All this is about...

If he asks you not to do something: Then don't do it.
He will explain if you don't understand.
Other people were trying to help you understand.
People tend to be most forgiving when they think you understand why
Because they think you will be less likely to be doing it again.

'Sorry' means 'I understand I did something wrong and I'll do my best not to do that again'.
If you don't mean the latter half then you aren't really sorry.
If you are really sorry then I'll think you'll find people are fairly forgiving.

But you do need to stop making the situation worse.

Only you can answer that question. Was what you did and said severe enough to warrent a call to the police? As I said above in my opinion, the best senario for you and this person would be to tell a friend, or family, or therapist about how you are dealing with this situation so that you are no longer coping with it on your own

per usual
~Dottie