Alone AND lonely

Talking to a good friend that moved a few years back and all of a sudden I got very sad and lonely. She's with her family, carving pumpkins and baking pumpkin seeds. She asked what I was doing and I said NOTHING. She said, well you can't be doing nothing, and I told her besides talking to her I really was doing nothing tonight. No reading, no tv, nothing.

I am so tired of being alone. I went to dinner alone tonight. I ate breakfast alone this morning. I wake up alone and go to bed alone. It really sucks.

I have friends, I have family (my kids are grown and out of the house), but I don't have that somebody special, and being depressed half the time I don't generally have alot of energy to look.

Quite the catch 22 I guess.

I miss having coffee with somebody in the morning. I miss cuddling up on the couch to watch a movie. I miss hugs and kisses.

I have no family of my own being single.

I identify with not having what it takes to look for people to share my life with. (I hope to move soon to be handier for certain people.)

I have to just try to be good company for myself.

[quote=jilliebeanmn;1550158]Talking to a good friend that moved a few years back and all of a sudden I got very sad and lonely. She's with her family, carving pumpkins and baking pumpkin seeds. She asked what I was doing and I said NOTHING. She said, well you can't be doing nothing, and I told her besides talking to her I really was doing nothing tonight. No reading, no tv, nothing.

I am so tired of being alone. I went to dinner alone tonight. I ate breakfast alone this morning. I wake up alone and go to bed alone. It really sucks.

I have friends, I have family (my kids are grown and out of the house), but I don't have that somebody special, and being depressed half the time I don't generally have alot of energy to look.

Quite the catch 22 I guess.

I miss having coffee with somebody in the morning. I miss cuddling up on the couch to watch a movie. I miss hugs and kisses.

[/qoh jellybmn. i feel your pain and sadness. im exactly the same
alone all the time,while my best friend gets engaged,alone morn noon and night...as bruise springsteen say...just a little bit of the human touch how i long for this, just posting this makes me cry, please PM me if you feel to but till then i send love,kisses and hugs. Mabey one day for us aah
Roxyanne1

oh man, that's exactly what an email friend and i were talking about earlier today.

personally, i am going to get a dog. but definitely not one of those squirrely hyper ones, one that is calm but very loving.

actually i've even got him picked out, and half the money saved.

don't know if you're aware, but they're starting to train psychiatric aid dogs now. that's what helped me make my decision.

I moved in August and had to get rid of both my dogs. I really miss them. But, they are not an option for me at the moment. It will get better, it always does, I just need to wait it out.

What about joining a class, like a work out class or if there's a hobby you like to do?
or have you thought about getting another pet like a cat, rabbit, or something?

I couldnt take my dog with me to where i stay now; in an apartment. I've got myself a pet chameleon. Bearded dragons are also quite cool. They take a fair bit of care, so they help to distract you

(((Jill)))) how difficult it must have been, still is, to have had to give your dogs away. I am so sorry. As for feeling alone, I am so consumed with pain today because of this that the pain is aghausting.

I have a couple of friends. One of whom enjoys me visiting her shop. but she never has asked me to go to her home. the other friend I speak with avery couple of months or so. And she comes over a few times a year. When I said to someone I felt like I have no friends, she told me to not say that. And to be grateful for the friends I have. It just became so deeply sad that I had to pretend with her also. So I told her shes right. I have lots of good friends who I can be with. She said good !!! thats right !!!. I feel so alone that I must hide how alone I am, if that makes sense. It makes the aloneness that much deeper and intense. I keep saying over and over "today is a good day. I am lucky for everything I have". But my whole being is just aching from pain no matter how positive I try to be. No matter how many times I keep saying that today is a good day and trying to notice all of the good things i do have. Fingers, toes, eyes, heat...... well its really so much. Yet the saddness of being alone consumes me with pain sometimes. I feel like such a failure at the endevor to be positive. Thanks for letting me write this. I appreciate it. My heart is just aching

i am new here i have a partner but with all my mental health problems i am alone to so i know how it feels i can only say i hope things get a bit better for you at least can see things changing for me ant time soon

((((((((((((Jill))))))))))))

There is someone for everyone and I really hope that your someone is just around the corner,

Rhiannon

Greetings,

You are only lonely if you convince yourself you are.

Have a good one.

I am 25 yrs old and am just flat out annoyed with life. For some reason things don't seem to be going my way; there's no job, friends I can name or family(that I like), and my favorite things that used to like I just don't like anymore. I need help picking things back up again.

i feel so alone too. never had any friends anyways & going thru a divorce from a verbally abusive husband who is taking very much advantage of the fact that im willing to give him everything just to get out of this hell. i guess it will get better i keep telling myself its just stuff which it is. my brothers girlfriend is in for holidays im on the outs with my mom & grandma & husband has custody of the kids & hes living with his dad where theres always people around. my dad is living with me but its like such a pain & lonely type feeling i cant desribe that goes all the way back to childhood. so alone i know God is here & all is on schedule with Him but He never promised a life without hurts i guess.

I'm with you guys :S.
Alone too.
The only people I have are my family - parents and sisters, but... I'm away from home and I keep questioning myself why I did that ... why I wanted to go to study in other country, I felt safer back home, and most of the time I really feel like I won't take being this lonely any more, I would really like to go back, but I know that I would dissapoint my family by doing this, and I do want to finish my studies ... but it kills to do everything all alone here, make myself dinner every evening all alone, go shopping all alone ....I spended my 20th birthday alone... isn't it pathetic... :S I would like to do loads of stuff, would love to travel arround this country, where're so many things I still haven't seen here, but feel stupid doing things like that alone. Though I do live in a flat with three other people, but rarely see them and they all have their boyfriends or girlfriends and friends and they don't seem to be interested in having one friend more, and the fact, that I was never able to make friends easily doesn't help either.
I feel tired of being alone. It's not just friends that I feel need of. I never really had a normal serious relationship. There is this one guy now, but not only that he's 18 years older than me, he also lives back in my home country...

And it also hurts that I used to be quite close with one of my sisters, but during the last couple of years she really changed and I can't really get along with her anymore...