Do You Hide?

I hide alot in real life. I avoid the telephone and other people. I always found myself able to come on line though so it was a surprise to me that I retreated and isolated completely in the last week. I didn't come on-line at all! Sometimes it is essential for my safety though. I do agree that it is a defense mechanism.

Glad you are on the up Ozzie!

I'm sorry Zen. I don't know what happened but please feel free to PM me.

zen, i've been offline alot. can you PM me? xoxox pat

susan, sorry, i digressed but am worried about zen. i hide also. i've even hidden here...in the grocery store. i just don't hold my head up to meet anyone's eyes. i'm afraid they will see my fear.... and my depression.

(((((((((((( Susan ))))))))))))))

I'm so very sorry you felt ignored. I also withdraw when I'm hurt. It's a time for nursing my wounds, I suppose.

I hope you're feeling better.

Hugs,

Jan

Definitely a coping mechanism... but whether it's a good one or not depends upon why and when you do it. I have to, sometimes 'doctor orders' but we call it recovering. I simply must take time for ME to rest and block the world out at times. If I'm doing it because I'm so sad, then not such a good thing... but it still works, you know?

Please don't hide from us PC really likes you ((((hugs))))

i've dealt with mental health crap for a long time and yes i hide-emotionally and physically. my p doc told me it is a way of the mind healing itself a little. when it can take no more it shuts down so as to rest and rebuild

((((((Ozzie)))))))))
Me too.
I guess we're all like little turtles.

one day, about five years ago, i was living on the ranch (daughter coming off H) and i had a lot of box turtles that i had picked up on the roads. i'm always afraid they will get hit.

i had two older momma terrapins in one flowerbed and i had found a young male that day. i put him in with the two mommas. he sat there for the longest time and finally, his shell started to slowly open. he opened it up about one inch, but held his head back inside. then the sweetest thing happened.....one of the older mommas crawled over to him and bent her head down and looked inside at his face. she stayed there for a few seconds and he opened his shell all the way up and slowly stuck his head out. they touched noses and she crawled off............

that's what we all need......someone that will look in, when we're hiding. love, pat

Aw, that is such a cute story. Thanks Fay.

I love that story too, Pat! I call myself a "turtle," in fact, to my close friends, and receive messages from one in particular calling me "dear turtle!" Yes, I hide, but I also feel it is a way of healing!

I didn't know what to say or post in this thread.

I wanted to ... but I just couldn't.

I do hide. Hide physically sometimes, but moreso the metaphorical thing where you hide how you are, what you're thinking and all that junk.

Me hiding physically means I have a few dozen people trying to locate me (the whole university thing and attending classes and the like).

I hide too often from people online though. Even those I like, and who might understand. You all as an example. Just "lurking" and not posting ... yeah, I do that on occassion.

I might come back and post something else, but its a start.

canders, i'm glad you stuck your head in......i'll be your "momma" turtle.....i lurk here also. i think most of us do. it's normal, well, as normal as we can get. love, pat

I sure appreciate all of the replies on this thread. I think I've been hiding more this past year because I rarely have any time alone. So.....I hide from my family by staring at the computer a lot.

I also hide from some relationship issues that I've never been able to "fix". It takes two to fix it. When one party won't work on it, that's pretty depressing. Sometimes I just have to hide when something new is thrown at me.....something that I have to learn to live with.

Thank you for letting me know that I'm not the only one hiding.

I hide when I feel rejected or hurt..... as you have already seen, you are not alone (((((((((((( Susan )))))))))))))

((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))

Yes, I hide...many days the phone goes unanswered at my house. lol

My husband knows me too well though, and I usually can't hide from him...which is technically good, but it doesn't always feel like a good thing to me

I think one reason I hide is that I take Everything way too personally, so if I have no contact, there's one less thing for me to feel bad about. Just today at work, my 'big boss' told me about a problem with some of our product, that linked back to me (not Only me) and I felt like a total failure. I was ready to quit and go home crying! He didn't even tell me about it, forcefully or reprimand type of situation, but it was almost too much for me, anyway. (this is my first jaunt into printed circuit boards, knew nothing about the boards themselves--so an easy mistake for me to make) He actually kind of said it gently, for a boss type, but I over-personalized it to the point that when he left, I started crying in the warehouse corner where I was working. My husband, though, uncannily, knows when I need him...he turned up after the first few tears and talked me down.

Anyway, not to ramble or hijack, but just a recent incident that illustrated what I mean.

{{{{{{{{Susan}}}}}}}} You know I am here for you, if you ever need anything