I'm with stupid smilie?

thank you to those who read this post and kept on topic and heard the reason why this issue was raised. most appreciated.

as for the rest? cannot say it feels very helpful to have had this thread hijacked and the comments inserted. for now please start a new thread for goofiness and leave this to original topic if you would be so considerate.

thanks and goodness me oh my what a thread to come back to after a long day. fayerody we're deeply indebted for your clarity and ability to express WHY this would be hurtful and not necessarily something supportive at this site. guess our words were not adequate this morning after seeing what we came home to.

siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh.

there have been many times lately when i've seriously thought about leaving PC.........after reading some of the posts that were off-topic and specifically rude towards the people who tried to point out that others might feel hurt if someone used the stupid smilie in a post here.........i wouldn't leave if wild horses tried to drag me away. as long as there is as much disregard for a serious thread, i'll stay here and i'll defend the ignored, the shy and the easily hurt........

since there are people here who feel the need to take a serious thread and make fun of others.......run with it......i feel that you should have as much fun, at the expense of others, that you can have.

i won't post in this thread again and the ignore button will be used, as it isn't worth it to me to read such crap. laughing all the way to the ignore button..........pat

I think that people just need to be sensitive about who they are posting to and what kind of posting that person would appreciate. Some have one kind of sense of humor, and others wouldn't enjoy it. And that is fine. Just like some people like (((((hugs)))))) and others don't. And some people can take it if you are direct and a little challenging, while others would feel intimidated or threatened. We are all different and what is appropriate for one may not be for another.

Rap

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It's essential in life to have a sense of humor, but just because one person may find it funny does not mean that another person will feel the same way. If it's done among friends, cool. It's just a matter of respect to not use it with those that may not take it as lightly, that's all. It's really quite simple.

Sujin

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thank you for bringing the original idea back to light and doing so in a succinct manner.

respect is what is is about and sadly after reading this entire thread there isn't a lot of respect being shown here. we were just going to go to bed w/o posting another comment but couldn't as we're feeling awful and want to let you all know WHY....

we're hurt that so many take a serious inquiry so lightly and giggle and laugh just because we're not playing along to the beat of your drummer.............did you ever consider that your drummer is drowning out our very essence and soul by your behaviours???

truly crushed and not over a "stupid smilie".......moreso over the reponse to this thread and the flat out lack of respect and support.

harumph and off the computer

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ZH}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry you didn't get the validation that you needed! I admit that I am one of the offenders and I'm truly sorry.

It could be possible that some of us feel overwhelmed with the differences of opinion being stated about almost everything and the extent to which they've gone. I for one, use humor as a coping mechanism.

It seems to me that you were looking for validation and maybe a soft place to land and you didn't get that. Could you help us out a bit on the real reason so that we can give you what you really need?

Sometimes I just dont understand. We live in a real wordl, with real threats and the fact that a smilie could cause such a fuss is laughable. Its a smilie!!!!!!!! Nothing more or less.

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Sometimes I just dont understand. We live in a real wordl, with real threats and the fact that a smilie could cause such a fuss is laughable. Its a smilie!!!!!!!! Nothing more or less.

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we're sorry that you find our distress laughable....nothing more nothing less.

thank you for so summarily dismissing our concerns.

If a smilie is used as a flame, please contact a member of the administration team and we'll look at is ASAP.

We cannot control another's thoughts, or feelings. We can only attempt to control our own and are responsible for such. We can look inside at our intent, or lack of. If we're ok with it, and it's within guidelines then it's up to other members to work on managing their own reactions/actions.

We have access to post many things here, not only those smilies that are available here at the site. It's all about how we use them and work with our own actions/reactions.

Again, if someone uses a smilie to flame, contact a member of the admin team and we'll look into it ASAP. However, if the smilie is within guidelines, we need to work on our reactions and possibly ignore the poster who uses smiles we don't like.

Peace to all.

KD

If anyone would like to discuss the editing of the smilie list, please contact docjohn.

Thanks,

KD

A suggestion I have if someone dislikes or is triggered by a smilie in a particular post/posts is to PM the person/people concerned, and respectfully attempt to discuss the matter. Otherwise just skim that person's posts or use the "ignore" button.

I hope it is ok to express my opinion here.

Absolutely, Fuzzy, and a good thing to point out. It's usually a good thing to think to self first....how much does this upset me? If it does alot, then to think to PM the person to talk it through, or pass it over and move on. There are always decisions.

However, if it's in relation to conflict, or an ongoing issue, one might want to go ahead and PM a member of the administration team.

Thanks for pointing out what to ask self first, the possibly do... Nice@

KD

a gentle reminder for this thread after re-reading the entire thing and how many responses were on topic and the bulk being related to this: Please do not hijack other people's threads

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Please do not hijack other people's threads

"Hijacking a thread" refers to behavior that when someone comes into a thread conversation (usually after more than a few posts have been made to a thread) and focuses on one tiny aspect of the original poster's topic, and moves the entire thread off-topic by replying to just that one aspect. Sometimes the hijacker isn't even responding to the original author of the thread, but what someone else said. Then everyone else jumps on the bandwagon and moves the entire thread into something that has little or nothing to do with the original author's post.

Authors who begin a post do so for a reason -- they want to discuss or talk about that one thing. Sure, discussions evolve and can move beyond the original poster's topic. But that's a natural process that moves slowly over usually many pages of posts. Hijacking occurs much more rapidly, and the entire thread often devolves from there quickly.

Most people who engage in this behavior probably don't realize what they're doing, and don't mean to do it.

That's why it's important that before you reply to a thread, you ask yourself a simple question -- "Am I contributing to this thread, or am I changing the topic and/or focusing on some minor aspect that really isn't what this thread is about?"

If the answer is that you're probably focusing on some minor aspect or looking to change the topic altogether, you probably should post a brand-new thread instead. Of, if you want to start a conversation with just one member, consider using a PM instead.

I am not singling out any member here! I am just posting this because this seems to have become a bit more common recently and I want folks to realize this can be an issue when they post. Thank you.

DocJohn

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less than five months ago this was posted......please read his post before responding if you just feel like having fun or a giggle fest instead of serious replies to a person in pain asking a serious question.

thank you all.

I'm hoping that my apology and comment to you was overlooked unintentionally, ZH.

Again, if anyone has issue with the smilie list that's available here on the site, please contact DocJohn, as that's pretty much an administrative issue that only he can answer/resolve.

I think everyone (who wanted to) has had a chance to express their views on the subject.

Thanks!

KD