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Feb 20, 2007, 04:30 PM
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Apparently I don't have what it takes to be a real friend. Every time I get close enough to someone I get pushed away. What's wrong with me? I don't like feeling that I'm a failure at something so important. I believe it's important to have friends in life. But I just cant seem to keep a friend. It hurts my heart to know that I'm no good at getting close to someone and staying that way.
  If this is in the wrong place feel free to move it.
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Feb 20, 2007, 04:33 PM
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((((((((Jenn))))))) You've been a real friend to me, and lord knows I need all of them I can get, so am guaranteed never to push you away! Besides, I like you.
 You are a wonderful, loving person with much to offer and anyone who can't see it is someone you don't need in your life to begin with.  Love, Candy |
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Feb 20, 2007, 04:34 PM
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I know how you feel....... sorry this is happening to you hon...... getting close to people is a tough one....... I'm always here for you if you want to PM
((((((((((( Jenn ))))))))))) Take care, Fuzzy
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Feb 20, 2007, 04:35 PM
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((((Jen)))
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Feb 20, 2007, 04:40 PM
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jen, you are a real friend, maybe the person who your befriending is going through tough times or they were'nt true to begin with
Angie
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Feb 20, 2007, 04:43 PM
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Hello Mental Pollution.
It is hard to get close to peope and not get hurt at times. It is also good that you have so much to offer others here at Psych central, such as your kindness and your wisdom, that so many people look forward to hearing from you. I am very sorry that you are going through a rough time at this time, and I hope things get better soon. Take care Soidhonia
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Feb 20, 2007, 05:45 PM
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Thank you, everyone. I do have many friends here. I am so thankful for that. Now I'll just pick up the pieces and move on from the friend I lost. You all make me feel better on my most terrible days.... even when it seems like I'm going through one hard thing after another. Life is hard sometimes... I'm gonna have to understand that. And it's not always my fault. Maybe this friend was having a hard time... or they weren't a friend to begin with. Thank you, Angie, for saying that. I didn't even think about it that way.
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Feb 20, 2007, 06:00 PM
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{{{{Jenn}}}}} you're a good person, never forget that.
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Feb 20, 2007, 06:04 PM
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It's so hard to find and keep good genuine friends. i'm sorry you're dealing with this!
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Feb 20, 2007, 06:13 PM
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((((((((Jenn))))))))))
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Feb 20, 2007, 06:21 PM
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Jennay... you did nothing wrong !!! It was me all me... and my selfish moods. Please have some peace of mind with this. YOU ARE A GOOD FRIEND!!! And I THANK YOU for caring so much!!
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Feb 20, 2007, 07:11 PM
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I empathize with how you feel. Sometimes I feel that I don't even know how to get close enough to be rejected -- so you're at least you're a step ahead of me on that.
((((((((((((((((((((((MP)))))))))))))))))))))
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Feb 20, 2007, 07:11 PM
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No no...this has nothing to do with you Bethy. Nothing at all. It has nothing to do with anyone here. I love ya, Bethy. I'm here for you anytime you need me.
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Feb 20, 2007, 11:00 PM
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Jenn we be your friend anytime you want, we loves you
Amy
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Feb 21, 2007, 12:45 AM
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(((((((((( Jenn ))))))))))
I think you are a sweet, terrific, person and a great friend. Try not to be so hard on yourself, dear lady. DE
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Feb 21, 2007, 09:10 AM
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(((((((((( Jenn )))))))))))))
I know you have the skills to be a good friend. You are a special and dear soul. I think the person you befriended was in a bad place and couldn't maintain the frienship. Please don't let this get to you. Hugs, Jan
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Feb 21, 2007, 09:19 AM
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Don't be so hard on yourself sweetie. It's just sometime people take different direction depending on what is going on in their private life.
People have different happiness, different burdens, different load to carry and life can be so rough at times that friendship cannot found its way into people's heart. Love you! ((((((((((MP)))))))) |
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Feb 21, 2007, 09:58 AM
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I find it so hard to remember when I "move on" that it is probably just as difficult for the people I leave as when people leave me. Other people have their problems and priorities away from us and it's a lot of work to keep a friendship going and active. Any chance your friend will come back, Jenn? I had an unacknowledged argument with a friend of 15+ years that went on for over a year, then I called her and we got back together as if nothing had happened. However, we aren't seeing one another as much as we use to but I've moved too so am farther away and in a different phase of my life, etc. How long were you friends? I'm having a hard time in my new location getting out and meeting people/making friends and all my "old" friends are too far away now for "normal" relationships. I bet you didn't "fail" but that life had other things in store.
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Feb 21, 2007, 12:18 PM
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Thank you everyone. Things will smooth out and get better. I so appreciate you all and your wonderful friendship.
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Feb 21, 2007, 03:05 PM
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Feb 21, 2007, 03:24 PM
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jenn...anyone should be honored to have you as a friend.......
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Feb 21, 2007, 04:37 PM
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Awwww, Julia. You are so sweet. Thank you so very much.
((((( Julia )))))
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Feb 21, 2007, 06:18 PM
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Jenn,
You are a wonderful person. You are very lovable I can tell  Do you think maybe it's that perticular person(s) that can't deal with the closeness? I am somewhat the same. It's like you get so close then bam they can't deal and they either walk away and stand far away. It's because you are touching there heart and some people get scared off from that feeling of CLOSENESS and LOVE.Remember~It's not you!!!! You have a great heart.  Did this help?
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Feb 21, 2007, 06:49 PM
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Yes it does help.. thank you, jlove. Everyone here has made sense to me.. just by helping me to think differently about the whole situation. It really does help me. Thank you so much.
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Feb 21, 2007, 07:15 PM
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