I'm losing it......Fast

Help! I feel like I'm headed for a meltdown. I have been pretty stable for a few months now, since I started ECT. My boyfriend has been totally supportive, we just moved into a new place together, and it seems like he doesnt want to be around me lately. My moods have been up, but not too up, but he seems like he just is different. Maybe I am being paranoid. He just isnt the same, and I just have a weird feeling in my gut that I have done something wrong. I have been in 3 abusive relationships in the past, but this one treats me like a princess. Now I am thinking something is wrong with me....I cant think of anything I have done, but I am blaming myself anyways....I must be screwing up something? Any input????????

I sorta went through the same thing when I met my husband. I was stable for months but it seemed like he did not care for me no more. I thouhgt even that maybe he liked the screwed uup me better. I finally talked to him. Things worked out and we have been married a year and togeather for 3. Good Luck.

It could be your perception is not quite right.... maybe it just feels that way as your boyfriend has been busy with other things?? I think the best way to really find out would be to talk with your boyfriend...... minds can play tricks on us..... maybe it's not the way it seems at all......
I say-- try talking to him.

Good luck to you.

mandy

I dont know what to think. I saw my shrink today. He says I have poor self esteem (no kidding!) and that I need to quit blaming myself for everything. today my boyfriend is acting fine. Now Im just starting to think I am paranoid. I have enough diagnosese, I dont need another one. I just cant take another let down, heartbreak, whatever......For once in my life It would be nice to know I wasnt gonna get hurt, abandoned, abused, or whatever. So far, this has been my dream come true. Nothing bad has happened, so why am I thinking its gonna?

I know you might feel that it would bring bad luck to bring up what you are feeling with your boyfriend, but the truth is....in any relationship.....communication is the most important thing. If he is treating you like a princess & will continue treating you that way because he loves you, then you have nothing to fear it talking to him about how you are feeling. The only way to completely put yourself at ease is to open up & talk to him.

Tell his what you are feeling yet not in a clingy sort of way.....just say that you have been feeling a little distince between the 2 of you lately & you were wondering if there was anything to your feelings. If there isn't open communication in a relationship.....it will NEVER last.....no matter how much you want it to.

You don't have to make a big deal out of asking your question.....just say that you have been feeling that way & wondered if he was feeling that way too? That way he can put you at ease & it can only help with your self esteem if you truely are mistaken in your feelings.

Don't loose it....gain some control this way,
Debbie