[TBunny]

Hi everyone, newbie here and need some help.........

I have no support in my life, maybe 1 friend, parents do their own thing, talk to them maybe once every 2 weeks, they are busy.

I have mild depression but I know I can make my life good and make something out of my life eventhough I have the depression but I have no motivation. I only work 8 days a month, I am poor, tons of debt, lots of expenses but I don't do hardly anything about it. I just complain. There is no one in my life to care about me, so maybe that is why I don't. I guess having a support system would be good and some friends. The majority of people I have had in my life have used me, lied, stole, so I don't have people now, got rid of them.

How do you get motivated when you support, all I have pretty much is myself and my animals, unfortunately, they don't care if I am poor or don't go to work or anything. Don't get me wrong, I love them, however they aren't much of a support group or loving caring friends that I can talk to.

Thanks for reading and any help or suggestions are greatly appreciated. <font color="pink"> </font> <font color="pink"> </font>

[chalmette70043]

Hi TBunny. Wish i could give you some ideas on getting motivated. But having the same problem myself.

I'm sure you'll get some great ideas from others here.

If ya dont mind, i'd like to give you a hug instead.

(((((((TBunny)))))))

[TBunny]

Thank you!! I could always use a hug!! And if you don't mind, I will give you a hug back since you said you were have same issues!

((((((chalmette70043))))))

[DePressMe]

Hi TBunny, well, you have taken the right steps to starting to change your life. You are here reaching out for help--that is a big step. Change takes time and its a tough thing to do. One thing my therapist and I do is come up with a vision of exactly who I want to be and what I want to be doing. After we decide on a vision for me I come up with a list of ideas on how I can make that vision come true. It is important for me to see myself as the "new me" so I know what I am working towards. It is interesting to sit down and "build" who you want to be in a year. Of course, then it is baby steps in making the changes, but I like how it gives me a goal and focus.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((( TBunny )))))))))))
Greetings and support

[splitimage]

((((TBunny))))

It's hard when you feel totally isolated - maybe you could see if there are any drop in centres for people with mental health issues in your area - i've used them in the past. Also check out your local mood disorder association - they may have support groups for things like depression, it's a relatively safe way to start meeting new people.

Good luck.

---splitimage

[TBunny]

I think that is a good idea to have a focus especially one you can look at on paper and read as often as needed.

So......after I do this how do I stay motivated to making the change happen? What helps you go towards that on a daily basis and want to do the work. That is where I usually stop is when I need to put work into it.

[TBunny]

Thanks for the response splitimage.......I have never heard of drop in center or local mood disorder associations. I know we have a state mental health facility that I belong to, I was in a support group there but the hours didn't work with my schedule which is usually awake at night, sleep during the day, but I will check into the ones you suggested and see what we have.

[DePressMe]

Hi TBunny, I keep that vision of who I want to be fresh in my mind, but at the same time I try to appreciate and like who I am at the moment. Sometimes, it is tough to keep working on myself, but it helps to chat about it here on PC. Seems like I always get encouragement from other PC members. Having weekly therapy also helps. Each week I know I need to be prepared to work on something, so it keeps me thinking about things during the week. I also read a lot of recovery oriented literature to help stay focused on getting better. I hope you are having a good night!

[TBunny]

Has anyone heard or read a book called Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten? I just saw her on The Big Idea and thought she might be helpfull.

[curley]

TBunny, this may sound like an answer you have heard, but if you do not care about yourself, or care about your situation then many times others will not either. You say your animals dont care if you are poor!!! That is true, You say they dont offer you what you need! That is surprising to me! My animals have sometimes been the only love and support I have. I understand what you are feeling about being poor and wondering why you dont have motivation. Depression, or lonliness, and many other situations can make us feel this way. When I did not feel motivated, it took a while, but I realized I needed to put a big smile on my face and pick my butt up off the couch. I am not saying it was easy. But the smile on the outside helps the inside, beieve it or not. Pick at least one thing each day and DO IT!!!!!!! Good luck sweetheart!!!

[TBunny]

thank you for the support. My animals give me a lot but they are not motivators. Yes, they have kept me alive on several occasions but I don't they are a replacement for human contact. Today I am feeling like a looser. I have not worked in 11 days. Each day I have a great excuse why not to go which is so much better than the reason to go. I started a gratitude list last night. I know those are good. I agree with what you said, if I don't care then usually no one cares. How do I start caring about myself???

[struggling1]

(((((TBunny))))) Welcome.

I've been struggling with major depression for several years. I agree that it's important to care about yourself first. I've been there & believe me, it's not easy when you're suffering. Sometimes I still struggle with this. I need to keep reminding myself to try to do little things for me. . . like making time in my schedule to just watch the sunset on the beach, getting my eyebrows waxed at a beauty salon, taking a nice warm soak in the tub, etc.

But like others said, take it one step at a time. With each step, you'll learn to get better each day my friend.