I feel very alone....as a teen...

I've never been quite the teenager most are...I never have been really rebellious, sexual, curious, rather dull and wise while my body is young and wild.

I feel very alone at school, very alone period because I have no real teenage life....honestly I want to have regrets of rebellion...well all I"ll have is regrets of life....teenage life....and in my case not expereicning it.

Anyone Else feel this way???

[nowheretorun]

i dont know if you were looking for only teenagers to respond Moonkin.... as a teen, i felt very alone... (not a teen now)

[AlteredState01]

Trust me, Moonkin, you are not experiencing anything unusual!

I think the teen years are the most difficult a human being experiences.

Consider yourself VERY FORTUNATE to be, as you put it: "rather dull and wise..."

Most teen don't have the capacity to be "wise" (and I have a feeling that is why you also added "dull" to your description. Being wise often appears as being dull, but let me tell you just one thing:

You are a child for 10 years, a teenager for 10 years, and an adult for 60 - 70 years!

If you can make it through the first 20 years without destroying future opportunities by reckless acts of rebellion, then you will surely come out way ahead of the game - where it counts the most - in adulthood.

Trust me on this, regrets of rebellion (or of any sort) are still just that - regrets. They loom forever. The past cannot be changed.

Since you are wise enough to see the inbalances that the teen years brings upon you, I hope you are wise enough to consider my words.

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AlteredState01 said:
Trust me, Moonkin, you are not experiencing anything unusual!

I think the teen years are the most difficult a human being experiences.

Consider yourself VERY FORTUNATE to be, as you put it: "rather dull and wise..."

Most teen don't have the capacity to be "wise" (and I have a feeling that is why you also added "dull" to your description. Being wise often appears as being dull, but let me tell you just one thing:

You are a child for 10 years, a teenager for 10 years, and an adult for 60 - 70 years!

If you can make it through the first 20 years without destroying future opportunities by reckless acts of rebellion, then you will surely come out way ahead of the game - where it counts the most - in adulthood.

Trust me on this, regrets of rebellion (or of any sort) are still just that - regrets. They loom forever. The past cannot be changed.

Since you are wise enough to see the inbalances that the teen years brings upon you, I hope you are wise enough to consider my words.

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Thank you very much for the reply....I really appreciate it...I just wonder what will I do if I regret not rebelling...and not...'Living"...?

[Perna]

Moonkin, you can rebel whenever you want to and feel the need. There's no statute of limitation on being a pain in someone's backside :-)

I don't know what you think rebelling consists of but I think people who do it "need" to do it, they don't "decide" to do so. People who rebel like different sorts of things than I did. I grew up in the 1960's was "prime" age for the real Woodstock, I graduated high school in 1968 and college in 1972. I was playing Bridge with 3-4 friends in my dorm room when the dorm loudspeakers told us to shut our windows because the Maryland National Guard were using tear gas near the dorm and the wind might blow it in through the windows if we didn't shut them. I didn't have a boyfriend through 8 years of high school and college, much less know anything about sex, drugs, rebelling, etc.

I can't imagine regretting not having had sex then or rebelling and dropping out of college or something to go live in a commune? I certainly don't regret the too much drinking I did in my 20's when I was out of school! I would happily go back now and wipe that out so it never was. There's nothing "glamorous" or to be missed by rebelling. It would be like missing what you have now. People who rebel have a difficult life and "have" to rebel just like you and I "have" to be the people we are now. It's not something you want. I don't think there is a "typical" teen, other than a "confused" one :-) Whatever one goes through in teenhood, is not pretty because so much is going on with growth in all areas of one's body, mind, social learning, etc. I was very lonely and I hated it and it hurt me badly but I wouldn't trade it for "rebelling", that's just another painful way to spend one's teen years.

If I could do my teen years over, I would work harder at school, try to get to know my parents better and spend more time with them (especially helping my stepmother around the house) and would push myself more to make friends/be friendly and not be so shy or feel so badly about myself (would have taken more pride in myself). One doesn't stay with one's birth family forever, but goes "out" into the world of work and moving and dating and meeting others and starting a family, etc. --- getting "life experience" and that's a whole different thing than it looks like from when one is a teenager. Think about when you were 10 versus what you think and know now; when you're 24, things will be more than twice that different! I'm 57 and could no more have imagined what my life would be like now when I was 17 than have become a rocket scientist :-)

[Christina86]

I just finished being a teen, and I've never been one who's prone to rebellion. I never drank with friends or went to parties until I came to university! Sometimes it really sucks to feel different, but you're really not. Maybe your "teenage attitude" will never come, or maybe it will come later. Right now though, just be glad you're not out causing mischief. It's hard being an outsider a lot of the time though... I still have that!

Feel better soon ((((((((((Dustin)))))))))))))

[DocClyde]

That honestly was exactly the way I felt most of the time...

[blah__x]

(((( Dustin ))))

i know what you mean.. but its hard finding a balance..when i started "rebelling" i didnt know where to stop and got mself into alot of unnecessary (sp?) trouble.. rebel when you need to..defend yourself etc..but dont go causing too much trouble when its not the time..

besides..there's no law that says all these things have to happen within the teenage years.. heaps of people assume they have to:
-have sex
-take drugs
-cause trouble
-party
-have fun etc
before theyre 20..why should there be a limit on that? ( i'm not endorsing drug use btw ) take your time..it'll happen when it's meant to happen...

if you feel your not "living life to the fullest" then i can relate to that and dont really have any answers yet...


take care

Gabe

<font color="purple">Yeah, I'm a teen right now, and I think the whole "rebellion" thing is over-rated. I have good friends that I have a good time with, so it's not like I need to go out and party and crap (nor do I want to)

Heck, I'm 16 and have never even kissed a guy before!

But you aren't really missing out on much, just a bunch of kids living up to the stereotype whitlist killing their brain cells needlessly. </font>

[sabby]

((((((((((( Dustin )))))))))))

I remember being a teen also (so many years ago!). I remember feeling awkward, out of touch, lonely, hated, jealous of others who I thought "had it all and then some". I did rebel when I hit 17 and by 18 my mom kicked me out of the house. That's when I really hit rock bottom and ended up in the hospital with some physical ailments.

Looking back on the rebellion and those horrid teen years, I realize I really wasn't alone per se, but just different. I tried to fit in to a group of folks that really were going nowhere fast. The one I really ended up hurting more than anything or anyone else was myself! I was my own worst enemy and all because I tried to be someone I wasn't.

I do believe that is a part of growing up though. Not everyone goes through it, some teens are able to feel comfortable with who they are, and a lot are still looking for who they are. I also believe that as teens, we tend to want to be adults before our time. In hindsight, I wish I had taken the time to explore more about what I liked....not what I thought everyone else would like.

I hope you can find the balance soon. Know that if you think you march to the tune of a different drummer, go with it! Diversity is what makes life interesting.


sabby

[KathyM]

Moonkin

What kind of rebellion do you think you're missing out on now that you think you'd regret later?

I was a rebellious teenager, but that was only because I was consumed with anger at the world around me, and the excuses adults gave me never made any sense. I was also terrified my mother would be successful in her numerous suicide attempts - she started attempting suicide when I was 5. After school (or whenever I'd come home) I'd have to brace myself for a gory scene before I walked in the door - and it was my responsibility to clean up the mess.

I was a rebel because I had no one to lean on and no one who could teach me how to cope with my problems. I was considered a rebel because I had to go out and learn about the world on my own through trial and error. I made a lot of mistakes. Sometimes I got caught and punished. Other times I escaped punishment, but I found out on my own why I shouldn't have done something - and I had to suffer in silence for these mistakes.

I have no regrets because I learned a lot, and I survived. It gave me the strength I needed to cope with my situation now.

If you're not a rebel, maybe you should consider yourself fortunate.

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((((moonkin)))))

I am not a teen but when I was in high school I was anything but a rebel. I was afraid of the world and of home. I knew if I dared to step out of line, that was all it took. I spent my time hidden away trying to figure out everyone's next move so I could be safe.

I was liked but it was a part of me that took my place to do sports to keep me out of my home. I was very quiet and to my self so no one would know what was happening at my home.

As soon as I graduated, I left home--running away. All I wanted was someone to care--to not hurt me. Rebelling would have just made life that much more difficult. I somehow thought being perfect would make home life better and the bad to stop. I was alone because there was no safety.

You are a senior, do not ruin your last year. It will only hurt you. Soon you will walk out of those high school halls and out into the big world where there you will make new decisions of your own. A knew phase will begin for you and you will make new friends.

I know it seems like forever, but time begins to go faster as you move on. You will be okay and things will work out for you. I have faith in you. And you do have friends here always--anytime you need us reach out. You are never alone. I care moonkin and will always be your friend.

cami

[AlteredState01]

I guess, Moonkin, it really depends on what your definition of rebellion is.

You are probably already rebelling in many ways. You just don't see it as such. And, what adults call rebelling really isn't the same as what kids think it is.

Rebelling against your parents (to a certain degree) is normal, even healthy. It is a way to begin to separate yourself from the childish bonds (not meant in the derogatory sense) you have with your parents, and allows you to begin living your life more independently, as an adult.

It is basically WHAT you choose to do to rebel. If you choose to wreak havoc among the populace, then that is just stupid, and you will have proven that you are not mature enough to begin living your life as an adult.

An adult is conscious of what their responsibilities are and strive to meet those responsibilities BEFORE anything else (before they go out and rebel / party / or whatever). And just so you know, we older ones still like to rebel, too!

Actually, what IS your definition of rebelling? I'd like the opportunity to let you know if you're stupid!!!! (Oh, just joking - I have a rather dark sense of humour).

[_Hope_]

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