[SweetCrusader]

I just need to vent really freaking bad.

I HATE my freaking roommate. She is ALWAYS noisy. She talks and sings to herself LOUDLY all day. She talks on the phone late at night, and she wakes up early in the morning and turns on the radio and sings to herself loudly. She spends over an hour in the bathroom (we share) THREE times a day. She took all the good cupboard space. She opens the doors when it's freezing. She leaves our appartment door wide open and then leaves the apartment empty (and I don't have a lock on my bedroom door). She cooks stinky freaking sea food. She criticize how I eat, my religion, that I don't exercise enough for her taste, etc.

she BUGS!!!!! I have never hated a roommate before but I just HATE this girl

And I have only lived with her for ONE month. Eight more to go! I think I'd rather shoot myself in the foot!

Thanks for letting me vent.

[bptoo]

Sounds like to need to set some rules and some boundaries quickly. Tell her that the singing and loud talking is invading your right to quiet, and set some reasonable times for her to do this, or have her take it outside away from the home. Set some limits on bathroom time. Definietly do something about leaving the doors when no one is home unless you want to come home to all your personal belongings having been stolen.

As far as her critisizing how you eat, your religion, and how you exercize, that's really crossing a line, and is none of her ****ed business.

I'd confront her about these things as soon as you can. Otherwise the next 8 months are going to be a nightmare. It almost sounds like she's not even aware that you live there. Set her straight and get some respect!

I hope this works out.

Greg

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((((((((Angela))))))))))))))))))))

GRRRRR "Roommate from Hell" GRRRRR

Take care,
Fuzzy

[Rapunzel]

GRRRR at your roommate! Angela, listen to Greg. He's talking sense. You need to stand up for yourself and not let her run all over you like that. It doesn't sound like she's just trying to be helpful. Either she's entirely clueless or extremely passive-aggressive. And if you tell her and she won't change, ask to switch to a different apartment. From one who did put up with horrible roommated for nine months, and almost didn't survive to tell the tale. You know, you just don't need one more thing to have to put up with or deal with right now, on top of everything else!!!

GRRRR!!!

Oh, the worst offense is definately the stinky seafood!! P.U.!!

Is this is a dorm environment? Do you have an RA who you can meet with as a group? I know sometimes it hard to just do it as a one-on-one when she sounds so dissimilar, so maybe if there was a neutral 3rd party there, that would help?

Alternatively, you could just throw all her stuff out the window and pour beer on it.

You deicde. Emmy

[SweetCrusader]

I like the beer idea Emmy! Wish I wasn't in Utah and on a dry campus (grumble, grumble, grumble) Just kidding.

I know I need to set boundaries. That is hard for me. Whenever she does something that is ticking me off, I do tell her. But she doesn't seem to care. Another problem is that she is a foreign exchange student, so she sometimes doesn't understand what I'm saying very well. I KNOW she has understood me saying to be quiet and that, but I mean in terms of having a long discussion. I wonder if I need to write her a letter so she has time to look at it and understand it, then respond?

I hate confrontation.

[LMo]

Honestly, your college years are way too short to spend time living with someone you don't like.

If I could do it over again, I'd insist upon changing roommates. It's not the most difficult thing school residence administrators have had to do, despite the fact that they'll try to talk you into sticking it out. But as I said, college is just too short to have to put up with a situation you're miserable in.

[LMo]

Not to mention that it's YOUR money... if you bought something at Walmart and the quality was lousy, you'd insist upon getting a replacement or your money back, right? Not sure why we feel more like employees of a college rather than customers... but, since it's your money, you have every right to ask for satisfaction.

[shakes]

I agree with the changing rooms idea. I know that at my old college there always was the opportunity to change rooms especially in situations like these. Reading this makes me angry and gives me the urge to tell you to tell her to "Bug the hell off" but I understand why you do not want to.
Please listen to the others and stick up for yourself. There is no reason for your roomate to beable to do whatever she wants... she needs to be put into her place.

Jessica

[Thelema]

I would change roomates too, or alternatively, see if you can kick her out. An other option would be to ask someone who speaks both your language and hers if they could serve as translator/mediator so you could have a meaningful conversation

[SweetCrusader]

Thank you for the input everyone, and for letting me vent!

[SweetCrusader]

Update: Roommate and I are getting along a little better. I think we're both getting more comfortable standing up for ourselves. (Not that she really had a problem with it before lol!) Anyway, yeah I'm getting better at putting my foot down when I can't stand what is going on.

AND... So excited!!! She will be out of town Mon-Thurs!!! This means I have the ENTIRE appartment all to myself!!! It will be so quiet! And it won't be cold all the time!! YAY!!!!

[h0kie]

I can relate SC. I HATED my freshman roommate. She eventually moved out during Fall exams. YAY! I ended up with my own room. Then the next year, after my good roommate moved out, I got a stupid freshman...she moved out too...aparently she had some kind of allergies and all the plants I bought didn't help her breathe. I'm normally passive, but she pushed me too far. Hehehehe

My brother is dealing with a jerk of a roommate currently. Luckily his lease is up in Dec. Why do people get jealous if the other has a girl/boyfriend? He wants my brother to pay 2/3 of the rent since she is there often. She doesn't use his stuff or inhibit him in any way. What a cheapo!

Don't back down, it's 1/2 your apartment too Sweet...and remember, some gestures are universal.

[h0kie]

Hmmm...two roommates moved out....maybe its me.

Hubby has no complaints. :grins: Girls are so petty.

I nailed my roommates clothes to the floor with carpet tacks.....showed her! I couldn't even walk through the house because her clothes were thrown everywhere and she refused to pick them up.....on of my boy friends got me the tacks....she became very, very neat after that........p

My freshmen year, my roommate used to get SOOOO drunk...then stumble back and flop onto her bed. She'd moan at me, "take my contacts out!!". Umm...yuck!!!!? I wasn't even a glasses wearer back then. Ucky! Somehow, I became the bad guy cuz I wouldn't take her contact out. Ummm...?

Sure, I'll stick your entire head under running water if that helps! Back home we call that a "swirly"!

Funny thing is, the next year I moved out and she became an RA!!! Wowsa! Talk about a good influence on developing teens!

em

[Wants2Fly]

Unfortunately, I was the drunk roommate.

Ohh....you gave me a giggle.