Sometimes it's nice if people pay attention

I feel as if I lead a pretty lonely life and don't know how to change it.

When I was living with other people last spring -- colleagues, an aunt, other friends -- I could see that in my age group (mid 40s-mid 50s -- and my aunt is in her 70s) -- people's phones are not ringing off the hook. In fact, I have more friendship contact than some of the people I stayed with.

In addition, I am an introvert. Which, by the way, doesn't mean that a person is shy, as widely believed. Although it can, in my case. It does mean that we recharge ourselves by going within and being in solitude. While an extrovert is energized by social contact. So too much socializing tuckers me out.

Still I see myself as a misfit.

I also am beating myself up for not having accomplished enough during spring break. I had great plans for completing the bathroom paint job, getting a lot of boxes unpacked. But sometimes I feel so overwhelmed and fatigued I just don't get a lot done.Frankly, things around here are pretty much the same as they were last weekend.

I've decided to take over paying my bills from my mother, but this puts the direness of my situation right in my face. I probably will have to ask her for money now, but I hope that having to ask, instead of having it "taken care of" will motivate me to try harder to find paying work to pay these bills. It is scary.

Sometimes it's nice when feeling like this if people pay attention and give hugs. Nothing much else you can do about these things.

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Must be your lucky day, getting so many bearhugs from me!!

you get Timmee, the dumpster kitty, hugs from me.......

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I'm sorry your feeling like a misfit.
I know how scary things can get but yet we push on and hope for better days ahead. HUGS AND KISSES

Jacqui

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im sorry your feeling this way...
i hope you refer back to my post that i made to you when you were feeling down a bit ago...
i meant every word i said to you...
im sure i speak for alot of us here..we dont know what wed do without your kind caring repelies to our posts!!!
you give us support and strength..i hope someday i can do they same for you...

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Like the songs says "we all need somebody to lean on"
Angie

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I'm so sorry I didn't thank you sooner for your thoughts and concern but I was distracted by someone earlier in that forum.

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nightdream

Wants to, you are doing the best you can and that is great. You are here as a friend and you are waking up and getting out of bed every morning. Please be kind to yourself. By the way, I am probably a little younger then you and I can't believe how slowed down I have become. I used to be like the tasmanian devil and whirl around until things were done, now it's like about half that. So be kind okay?

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Safe hugs for you.

so sorry that you are feeling so down........hope you are feeling better soon

Wisewoman, surely you jest? Age is causing this slowdown? That young whippersnapper Candybear suggested the same to me just a short time ago, and I refused to believe it. But I have a rule about paying attention if the same thing is repeated to me 2 or 3 times within a short period of time. Hmmmmm

I really appreciate so much the love and kind words from everyone. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I'm kinda late and I'm sorry, but here's one from me:

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I've got faith in you, gal!

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Want to hang out with me on the Island of Misfit Toys? I think it would be great place to vacation. I know I'd fit right in there.

Take care, sweetie.

gg

Im an introvert too, so outside of the family I hardly have much friends. I have one that is very dear to me, and a few others that I like very much. But we don't hang out much, insteadwe pay each other some attention when we can We have been discussing between us many times the problem of staying in touch, and we have all agreed that we want to stay in touch. So when we can, we try to meet. Otherwise we keep in touch, so we know what is going on with the other one. And if we need attention, we scream: look at me now, I need you now! And then there is usually plenty of respons. But, we have to ask for it. This is omething we have been talking over, so no one feels bad about doing it, at the same time as we know that even though we haven't heard from the other person in a while, they will contact you at some point... they are just too buy at the moment.

It is sometimes frustrating, but most of the time its less stressing than having a lot of friends that needs attention all the time I'm bad in sharing my attention, ince I am a quiet and peaceful person that need personal space. But if anyone needs me, I'm there 100%, and I am glad to help.

Do you have a friends you can do the bathroom together with? Many people actually like to help with these kind of things, and it's always more motivating when it's two persons.

Instead of focusing so much about everything you should do, focus on one thing, that doesn't seem so bd, and just concentrate about getting that done. Haveing too many tasks hanging over your head might slow you down instead of speed you up.

Your boxes wont run away, at least you have SOMETHING you can do if you feel bored one day then... If you do everything at once, there is nothing up ahead to look forward to getting done with

Good luck.

CC

Wants, I am listening. *big hugs*


Angela

Hi Charlie -- I tried the "focus on one thing" approach -- had been thinking along those lines anyway -- and got the BR pretty much in order.

The bathroom is 30 inches by 8 feet, and houses a vanity sink and toilet. Which means there is room for one person unless the 2 people are -- well, you know -- let's say, very close together. Anyway, the craft part of the job is creatively sustaining, don't really want others' help, just their praise!

Thank you so much, all, for your messages and hugs. Sometimes it seems silly to say, "I need some attention now" but the result has made my heart overflow with warmth. I swear, tears of happiness are springing to my eyes ---

Peace and blessings, dearest friends. Peace and blessings, love, health, harmony, happiness. May we all be whole and live our dreams . . .

Sending you some hugs. (((((((((wants2fly))))))))

Wants2, I'm sorry that I didn't respond sooner, but I've always got ears that you can use. I'm sorry that you feel this way. I tend to beat myself up too over not getting enough things done. I just have to remember that I'm not Superman (to quote DocJohn) and that the illness makes it even harder sometimes. Don't beat yourself up. You're a caring and wonderful person. I'm paying attention to you.

Ryan

Angel Girl is here.

Thanks Ryan and AngelGirl.