PTSD and O.J. Simpson

35 years ago I asked my husband for a divorce. He locked the door, took a wine bottle and bashed me in the face with it. I reached for the phone to call the police and he said he would kill me if I dialed the phone. He called me a slut. This was all triggered yesterday by the release of the O.J. Simpson book in which he ways if he did kill her it was because she was a slut and deserved it. I called my son and he defended O.J. I am now lost in my PTSD. My rational mind is not able to ease my pain. There are just times when I am powerless over my feelings. Does anyone else have PTSD around domestic violence? I need some help here. My therapist does not let me call him between visits. I don't have any close friends right now. I am heartbroken that my son is just like his dad.

I haven't read OJ's book - not really planning on it. I have so little personal time right now and there are so many other books to read that I can't imagine. So I don't know the book's intensity. It sounds like the book is very intense for you especially the brutality of saying that if a man thinks his wife is a slut then he has the right to kill her. That is outrageous of course. No normal person - man or woman - would ever say or believe such a thing.

I'm so sorry your son was not able to comfort you when you needed his comfort at this time. Does your son have any idea what you went through regarding his father ?? It sounds as though he has no idea and so doesn't understand exactly what OJ wrote ie that a husband has the right to KILL his wife if he thinks she is a slut .. Which is outrageous of course. That is not being a man, that is being a horrible monster who should be locked away for all eternity.

Don't read anymore of that book - it is a waste of your time and you don't need to read about what some monster thinks. The man is a pig.

I'm sorry this happened to you and that your son was not supportive.

I didn't read the book. I just watched the Oprah show about it. My son is in deep denial. He knows what his father did to me and he blames me. Denial is a defense mechanism against his shame, but it really hurts me.

Hello (((BUTTERFLY))). I am sorry that you are struggling at this time. You need to call your therapist since you are in a crisis at this time. You need someone to guide you through the stress and PTSD you are having at this time. I dont know what the HELL this government thinks they are doing to women with PTSD with this book. I think this book needs to be banned from this country and should not be able to make money off of his conclusion that the mother of his children was a sl**. Maybe I will write the senator of my state and demand some attention to this issue, this is obsurd to think women have to be labled in this manner and if this is his opportunity to make money, and obstruct justice in this country in writing a book that harm the case of finding the murderer of his ex-wife. Perhaps this country needs to be aware that decent people are being affected by his book mentally and his book is filth at the very best. Obviously if the sick and twisted a**hole wanted to make money he picked the right situation to make it off of innocent people (Write a book). I hope in essence since he is trying to save his own A88 and since his wife does have a right to her privacy since OJ was a murder suspect, then they will HAVE to pull the book because it can damage facts that were obtained in the case and hopefully it will be seen as an obstruction of his dead wifes rights to privacy, and justice since she can not defend herself against his slander and not giving a Damm. I think he is not only too opinionated, he is obviously unaware that since he was a suspect in a murder of his ex-wife and the case has not been solved yet, since no one was indighted in the murder of his ex-wife certain facts are sensored regarding the case in which he has used in his smut rag of a book, to protect the case and not cause an obstructionof justice in the case for his ex-wife, and I hope they can stop the selling of the book from the facts that are not conclusive he has chosen to base the book on at this time. Law is stronger sometimes than BS. lets hope it to be true in this case. I think it takes a hell of a MORON to write a book to get rich knowing the murderer of his childrens murder has never been caught and obviously he could give a Damm less. Thank you for sharing this information. I will have someone attend to this straight away if possible from my state. Take care of yourself I hope you feel better soon. Soidhonia

Butterflygirl I'm sorry you've been triggered by this book. I'm sure you are not alone. (I won't be reading it, nor commenting on the issue it concerns.)

That you went through that horrible treatment is so sad. I wish there had been someone in your life to have helped you see the precursors to such behavior by abusers. No one deserves abuse. No one.

I'm also sorry to hear your T can't accept calls between visits. Have you tried a free hotline? I think talking the feelings over, the triggers and sorting them out with someone will help you ease out of this more quickly.

You are safe now? Right? You are not in that relationship now. Yes, someone (your son) failed you when you called for support, but perhaps he didn't realize the repercussions of the discussion and your needs. But you are safe. The abuse isn't happening now. Those are memories of bad times, yes.

Try to not listen to the news for a while...days at least.... as this issue will be a hot one for awhile imo. Shield yourself from continued triggering. Make sure before you go to bed at night that you think about good things and sweet thoughts...to help you have good sleep without interruptions.

Keep telling yourself, it isn't happening now, you are safe now. ((((((safe hug)))))

{{{{{{{{{{Butterfly}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry for your pain.

It's been my experience that our children cannot offer support to us because they feel as if they are being put in the middle, to choose between their mother and their dad.

I have a friend now that was abused by her husband for many years. She did the best she could for the eight children she had but she can't go to them for support for much of anything. They always seem to blame HER.

Coming here for support is a good idea although it can have it's drawbacks. You don't get someone "with skin on" or no one is available right away, but if you have patience, you'll get the help you need.

Like Sky said, it's not happening now. It's in the past. You are safe at this moment. Concentrate on that.

Uhhhh....government censorship of publication, whether newspapers, books, or whatever, doesn't happen in America....it's against the law and there are a zillion court cases saying so. Plus there's that nifty First Amendment to the Constitution.

Leave the government out of it and complain to the publisher! They're the ones making bucks off it.

The biggest way to send a statement on books like that will be for nobody to buy it. Maybe we could ask our libraries not to buy that book either.

I'm also sorry that you have been through that trauma, and that you aren't getting the comfort you need from your family now when you have been reminded of what you went through. Support groups are a good place to turn in between therapy sessions. Keep talking to us. Maybe you can find a support group in your area too? You can also write about your feelings. Then you can take it to T, or you can tear it up if you want to. It's your choice.

TC,
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I think that the sickest twist in this whole book thing is that the family of Ron Goldman, one of the murder victims, is having the book published in order to make money to satisfy a legal judgement against Simpson. So they got the book to stop being published when Simpson was going to make the money and now are ok with it when they are going to make the money. I cant even begin to comprehend that reasoning.

I think O.J. 's a sick #%^*(*#@! I'm just grateful that's he's in jail - at least for ther moment, because he got stuipid and greedy!

In my younger years .LOL Before children and Family. I dated a abbusive guy who drank and hurt me. It was nothing for him to shoot his gun at my car as I was driving away. I like to forget that part of my life ever happened. I went with him close to 10 years.
In fact most times I do forget. Or put it to the back of my thoughts.
I am sorry for your hurt.

As far as OJ goes...............I am happy hes in Jail...........

Perhaps part of this follows this ? http://drjean.psychcentral.net/2007/05/ Undesirables eliminate themselves.

to those hurting.

Butterflygirl,

An experience like that would tend to stick in your memory. I'm sorry you have had to go through this.

I have some mild PTSD which is rooted in living with a severely emotionally disturbed child for several years. I had to wrestle knives from her hands on several occasions, and she struck me and cut me with scissors on another memorable day. She had been placed with us on an adoptive basis, but the State failed to inform us of the severity of her issues. We reached the point where we could not manage her anymore in our home. We made the very difficult decision to disrupt the adoption.

I'm sorry your son failed to support you when you needed him.

PTSD to me is like swimming in pea soup. You can be going along fine one minute, and then something can set it off again.

Please feel free to PM me if you like.

EJ

I agree. Obviously.. the Goldman's haven't thought about the children who now have to hear those words in the book and the comotion of the book coming out again. Those poor kids.