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Jun 04, 2009, 09:48 PM
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I think I am wasting T's time !!!!! we do all this good work and painful work and then some A-hole rings up and treats me like S*** and I start to shake and panic and flashback but I complete the call sounding calm and then AAARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH !!!!!!!!! whats the point!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I HATE THIS I HATE THIS I HATE THIS - I'M AN ADULT - I'M NOT A CHILD - so why do i feel like one ......  Wasting T's time.............. He just rang two more times - 3 times in 5 mins!!!!!!!!!! WHY WONT HE JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts  its how many times you get back up!   (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture  )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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#2
Jun 04, 2009, 09:56 PM
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hey...its not a waste...know why?
thought you would never ask! because beofre you would never have even thought that some jerk was pushing your buttons and making you feel like like fecal matter and panic and stuff...now you recognize it...and can complete the call sounding calm. sometimes therapy works in small amounts....maybe before you would have totally spun way out of control and not have been able to even write that message or even known enough to even think about it...now you can. so see...it works. nobody said it worked fast...what you didn't sign up for the speedy course???? not to worry...i didn't either...be proud of yourself tho for what you did tho stumpy 
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Jun 04, 2009, 09:58 PM
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And, as my T explained, we're "designed" to be calm when we need to be and panic AFTER the emergency. You'd be a robot to not have the flashbacks and fear! I don't think you want that.
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Jun 04, 2009, 10:00 PM
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oh and hey...do they have caller ID where you are???? get it...its worth the extra on the phone bill....makes a world of difference...you can avoid the annoying people who make you feel like fecal matter when they call as well as those "you owe us one trillion dollars and when do you think you'll be paying that balance off" calls too...not that i, stumpy EVER get any of those calls.
signed. financially stable (yeah right) stumpy
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Jun 04, 2009, 10:05 PM
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(((((((((phoenix)))))))))))))) Perna and Stumpy are right on the dot.
lots of hugs for you chalmette |
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Jun 04, 2009, 10:12 PM
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I feel like I'm wasting my T's time all the time.
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#7
Jun 05, 2009, 12:17 AM
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You are not a waste of your T's time!!!
Adults can shake and panic and flashback. You are learning how to handle those feelings and experiences with your T. That is a responsible adult thing to do. Try not to be too hard on yourself  .
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#8
Jun 05, 2009, 06:01 AM
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((((((((((((((((P7))))))))))))))))))))
Just because you are in therapy doesn't mean you won't (or shouldn't) have normal, human reactions to things that are scary or make you feel bad. In fact, you SHOULD react to things that are scary and make you feel bad. That shows you where your boundaries are. I hope that person stopped calling. You did a good thing coming here to vent. I hope you also stopped answering the phone. I totally agree with stumpy - caller ID is the best!!!! You are doing fine. You are not wasting anyone's time. You are learning and growing and that is a slow and GOOD thing.
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Jun 05, 2009, 08:25 AM
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I think it was a great accomplishment that you were able to complete the call calmly even though you were triggered! That sounds like progress!
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Jun 05, 2009, 08:28 AM
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I dont think its wasting T's time, its just one more experience that you can talk about and try and understand why you still feel this person can effect you so.
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Here is the test to find whether your mission on earth is finished. If you're alive, it isn't. ~Richard Bach |
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Jun 05, 2009, 08:58 AM
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thanks everyone for your replies - I guess part of me says that I shouldnt be upset by this and thats why i am disappointed - I keep forgetting I am human!
  I keep forgetting that its ok to have emotions cos I shut them down for so many years..... 
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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Jun 05, 2009, 09:50 AM
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You just started your work Phoenix. If healing was that quick and easy this website wouldn't even exist.............
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jun 05, 2009, 05:45 PM
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 (((((((((((((((((((( phoenix ))))))))))))))))))))
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Jun 05, 2009, 11:44 PM
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oooooh quick and easy healing !!!! - sign me up!!!
 feeling a bit better today - went to Drs and got concussion confirmed - thought I was just losing my mind a bit quicker - have to take care for the next few days but should be ok - have stuffed up my T appt and booked it for when I'm working....... T is supposed to ring me over weekend (good old T _ if he doesnt forget lol or deicde he would rather count snails in the garden instead!!! So i will see if he has an earlier appt - wish me luck cos if not hes on hols after that and dont know how long for cos was too scared to ask  asif not asking would make it go away lol silly silly Phoenix Thankyou everyone P7 
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Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture )When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
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