For the record....

Let it hereby be known that I am NOT a counselor, therapist, crisis intervention specialist, or any other such mental health provider.

If by any chance you are to the point of actively being suicidal, do not contact me with vague messages hoping I will pull you from the brink. I do not need the stress of feeling that something I did not do brought about your demise.

If unpleasant online activity pushes you to the point of needing medical attention, your problems are beyond any help I could offer, and I'm not very good at offering help in the first place.

If you're looking for idle chatter or humor to distract you, most likely I can help. If you're in full-blown crisis mode, contact someone IRL IN YOUR TOWN!!!!

And don't think by telling me I'm not being supportive enough that it will guilt me into being more supportive. If what I'm doing isn't to your liking, don't look to me to be an active participant in your support system.

Rant over.

Thank you Lee Ann. I knew you'd understand.

wi,

It sounds like you have been put through the mil. Please take care of you

Al the girls

Thanks girls.

This is a good post. Asking for support is one thing, but placing this kind of burden on someone is just not fair.

Thank you Ben. I saw your name as the next poster and I was almost afraid to read what you said.

WI GREAT post. That is why we have the "no suicidal post" rule on the boards, and that doesn't give free license for anyone to go PM you or bring it up in chat.

The point of the rule is YOU NEED HELP!!! GO GET HELP!!! It is not "don't annoy people on the boards but it is OK to do so by other means."

I am so glad you are able to see past this and post about it WI. This was obviously very upsetting to you, but you took steps to protect yourself... that is a great response. I hope you feel better about the incident (or incidents... I have no idea what prompted this).

Thank you so much Dexter. It really means a lot to see that I'm not alone in this thinking.

Good post WI. I am sure others here have been in that position and appreciate you posting about this. IRL you have had a "task" to set boundaries - and you have just proven you can !

Thanks Parker.

great thread great posting I agree 100%. I don't mind lending my knowledge but Im the first one to admit I'm not the one to pull people away from that suicidal edge. In real life I tried and when it started being an everyday get me out of college class to babysit and save suicidal neighbor I handed her the pills told her to get on with it and I will be calling her therapist which I did. From that day on I send the person to their therapist or I call the therapist/police/911 and let the person deal with the consequences of their actions. I have enough keeping myself on track. you may not be a therapist but your a mind reader you wrote the post I would have in your same situation. way to go.

I am not sure I understand what prompted your post, nor do I find it necessary, but I would like to empasize what everyone else is saying that this is not the place to be putting people in the position to feel responsible for others actions as apparently you were placed. As I understand, this is for support from other people who are experiencing many of the same symptoms, not for professional assistance. If someone gets to the point that they are that desperate they need to be contacting people trained to help someone in those circumstance.. I am sorry that you were put in this position and the potential for you to feel responsible.. Take care and be safe.

sometimes, it is very hard to put oneself into someone else's postion. expecially, if they never, ever hint about how deeply in hurt they are. and if they are afraid to tell it, that makes it worse. i never ever told lmy parents how depressed i was growing up. i didn't even tell them, when i started therapy and meds. i was so afraid of the nonconditional rresponse. an example of their attitude was when i divorced an abusive husband, they disowned me. i should not have divorced a lawyer...that was their position. the abuse wasn't in the equation. my mom offered to testify against me...because he was a lawyer!!!! and what was i? a nothing.

asking for unconditional support is, within itself, a trusting and caring position to put yourself in. it means that you are hoping that you'll get back what you've given. but, i guess if you don't have it, you can't give it back. that's a quote, that i saw on here today. and i have a therapist. i'm certainly not looking for that aspect of support. i just can't afford to go right now.

Excellent post. Helps me to read this also and think things through.

Don't know exactly what has gone on... but do know from past how some members do this. It isn't a good feeling.. and one we shouldn't have to even think about bearing... it's very difficult to feel responsible for the "life" of another member here... depending upon what we say or don't... grrrr I do understand how many of us (myself included) can get to the a point that we are absolutely void of hope... (it's common with PTSD btw)... ... I hope everyone will do their best to take care of themselves.