first trip to T

FeelingLonely · Dec 30, 2011, 08:21 PM

I went to talk to my first T today, after bottling up emotions and having things inside for so many years. It went okay, not great because I'm still a little hesitant, but not terrible either. I'm going to go back next week. She's really nice, I'm glad I went.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2011, 08:23 PM

Well done! Good luck!

FeelingLonely · Dec 30, 2011, 08:26 PM

thank you

i'm going to try and maybe speak up a little more next week. today I kind of let her do all the talking, and when she asked why I decided to go talk to her, I didn't really tell her everything, I froze up a bit. but i'm hoping to say a little more next time

Ygrec23 · Dec 30, 2011, 08:27 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingLonely

I went to talk to my first T today, after bottling up emotions and having things inside for so many years. It went okay, not great because I'm still a little hesitant, but not terrible either. I'm going to go back next week. She's really nice, I'm glad I went.

Hang in there, FeelingLonely, stick with it. It will be worth all the effort it takes, and it does take a lot of effort. And above and beyond the effort, it's a fascinating and interesting journey. Take care!

FeelingLonely · Dec 30, 2011, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Ygrec23

Hang in there, FeelingLonely, stick with it. It will be worth all the effort it takes, and it does take a lot of effort. And above and beyond the effort, it's a fascinating and interesting journey. Take care!

thanks

Dec 30, 2011, 09:27 PM

After 8 months, I'm still working on opening up. It doesn't mean I haven't opened up already, but there are degrees of openness. Also, it takes a while to decide whether to trust a T or not - or how much. Are they judgmental? Like anyone, it takes a while to get to know them and feel comfortable. Congratulations on taking the first step and making that first appt. I'm glad your first impression of her was good - that's important.

FeelingLonely · Dec 30, 2011, 09:47 PM

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After 8 months, I'm still working on opening up. It doesn't mean I haven't opened up already, but there are degrees of openness. Also, it takes a while to decide whether to trust a T or not - or how much. Are they judgmental? Like anyone, it takes a while to get to know them and feel comfortable. Congratulations on taking the first step and making that first appt. I'm glad your first impression of her was good - that's important.

oh wow, 8 months? I guess that's reasonable though depending on the situation. I've only ever told one person about why I decided to go to T. I had no problem telling her, but it was also a conversation I had with her online, not face to face. I think face to face makes me more hesitant. The person I told is also a T but we were talking on a friend level, nothing more and even though she was completely honest with me, she responded like she was talking to a friend, not like i'm a patient. so we'll see how next week goes!

Dec 30, 2011, 10:04 PM

I'm at month 5 but it's been 2 times a week and a real emotional roller coaster but worth it so far! Hang in there and eye on the prize!

rainbow_rose · Dec 30, 2011, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingLonely

I went to talk to my first T today, after bottling up emotions and having things inside for so many years. It went okay, not great because I'm still a little hesitant, but not terrible either. I'm going to go back next week. She's really nice, I'm glad I went.

kudos to you!

FeelingLonely · Jan 02, 2012, 03:40 PM

i'm going back to see T tomorrow.. I was wondering if it would be okay if I wrote down how i'm feeling.. and tell her my story on paper and have her read it.. I am dreading talking face to face

but I want her help, I'm just being a chicken and will probably not be able to get my words out.

is that a bad idea? or should I just try and open up verbally? ugh. =/

crazylife · Jan 02, 2012, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingLonely

i'm going back to see T tomorrow.. I was wondering if it would be okay if I wrote down how i'm feeling.. and tell her my story on paper and have her read it.. I am dreading talking face to face

but I want her help, I'm just being a chicken and will probably not be able to get my words out.

is that a bad idea? or should I just try and open up verbally? ugh. =/

I do this when i can't face saying it i write it down and sometimes he reads it but other times he gets me to write it, i find it easier. Do whatever works for you. Either way reading it to her or letting her read it you are opening up to her just the way you find easiest there is nothing wrong with that. Good luck x

sweepy62 · Jan 02, 2012, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingLonely

i'm going back to see T tomorrow.. I was wondering if it would be okay if I wrote down how i'm feeling.. and tell her my story on paper and have her read it.. I am dreading talking face to face

but I want her help, I'm just being a chicken and will probably not be able to get my words out.

is that a bad idea? or should I just try and open up verbally? ugh. =/

i been going for a year and i just recently opened up about some childhood ptsd i trust my t but it takes time to open up, i write her letters of stuff i have trouble blurting out then in session we discuss it i am sure she will be ok with that

bluemountains · Jan 02, 2012, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingLonely

i'm going back to see T tomorrow.. I was wondering if it would be okay if I wrote down how i'm feeling.. and tell her my story on paper and have her read it.. I am dreading talking face to face

but I want her help, I'm just being a chicken and will probably not be able to get my words out.

is that a bad idea? or should I just try and open up verbally? ugh. =/

Good for you for taking care of yourself, FeelingLonely! If you are comfortable writing down your feelings, I am sure your T would be happy to have the feedback. My first few T visits were a case of her getting to know me, and this still is an ongoing process, but meanwhile there is some healing going on. Part of my therapy is journaling so I guess it is a big t thing. I don't like for my T to read the entries, but I do let it happen. She knows now when she starts reading I will be crawling under my coat, looking at my iphone, or hyperventilating until she finishes.
Good luck and hugs!

Bluemountains

FeelingLonely · Jan 02, 2012, 09:41 PM

thanks guys! i am going to write down the things I know I won't be able to say face to face

ECHOES · Jan 02, 2012, 09:55 PM

Take it with you but be prepared to read it to your T.
Getting used to talking face to face is a very important part of the process. It takes time and there is no rush. You are where you are, and you're doing fine

I used to write things down and keep the paper in my pocket. I would reach into my pocket to touch the paper, to help me get to whatever it was I had written down.

FeelingLonely · Jan 03, 2012, 04:20 PM

I wrote down everything on a piece of paper that I knew I wouldn't be able to say face to face. She told me to read it and I did. That helped, A LOT. thanks for all of your advice guys

stopdog · Jan 03, 2012, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by FeelingLonely

I wrote down everything on a piece of paper that I knew I wouldn't be able to say face to face. She told me to read it and I did. That helped, A LOT. thanks for all of your advice guys

Glad to hear you had a good appointment.

Unrigged64072835 · Jan 03, 2012, 05:17 PM

Glad to hear that it worked out okay.

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