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It was a rough session with a super-rough ending.
The good and the bad:
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Im proud of you for going. You did extremely well. And you were super honest, and did a lot of hard work. :-)
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I'm sorry you and T had a misunderstanding, but you handled your session well and did some good work. Way to go!
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Sometimes maybe being able to show t you're upset is better than not being able to show any feelings at all? I'm not sure. i hope so since that's what I showed my t last time
![]() I liked this part of what you said best "T also explained to me that in order for therapy to work I needed to find a way to let go of this thing I am doing where I am trying to push him away. This may be the hardest thing I do in therapy. I have moments where I don't even want to change this behavior. I see the need to change it, so I still have a little bit of hope." |
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I think it was good you went and survived. For what little it means, I explode when the t misunderstands like yours did at the end. And the whole not pushing away thing too. If they are going to tell one not to do it, I think they need to have a plan to help the person not do it. I might even agree some(maybe, perhaps, not really going to commit to this completely) with the idea and yet have absolutely no idea how to go about it.
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I'm so glad you had the strength to go. I remember earlier in the week you were hoping you could hold on to your determination to go until Thursday, and you did! I think you're being a little hard on yourself in evaluating the session. It's my belief that no matter how badly the session goes, it's all grist for the mill, all something to learn from. Even the misunderstanding - you recognized it, and will probably try to be clearer in the future.
Notice that your T repeated back to you what his understanding was of what you were saying, and you realized that he was not getting the message you intended. This is a good skill to have in real life, to avoid misunderstandings. Don't feel bad that there was a misunderstanding - be glad that T acted in such way to reveal the misunderstanding at the time it occurred, instead of both of you going your separate ways with a completely different interpretation. Anyway, congrats! ![]() |
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Great job on the session, and UGH on the ending. I hate ending on a bad note. You were able to clarify what you meant though, right?
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I have some responses to add, but I'm starting to get myself all worked up at work. I'll check back later. I do appreciate the replies very much.
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So glad that you went! Sorry it felt like a rough session. Am a bit surprised that he took you saying you'd never call as you threatening to end therapy. I understand about feeling ambivalent about whether you want to stop pushing T away. In schema therapy this mode is called the 'detached protector' and it is there because it was useful for survival in the past. So it's totally understandable if part of you still feels like you need it, or it's still helpful...
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pbutton: I'm so sorry T and you had a misunderstanding. I had one with my T on Wednesday and she didn't even realize it which hurts like heck! I'm so proud of you though for going to your appt. It's just too bad that it ended that way.
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Ooooh Improving - thanks
take this >> Am a bit surprised that he took you saying you'd never call as you threatening to end therapy. combined with this >> I understand about feeling ambivalent about whether you want to stop pushing T away. and suddenly I saw it in a new light. Pbutton, could it be that yr T was trying to clarify in your mind that you DO want to continue (to resove your ambivalence) by presenting the worst case scenario. I have had that technique (sorry but that was what it was in my case) used on me maybe twice. I don't actually see this as manipulation, more as an assist to me so I can make up my mind for myself. just thinkin... |
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I am still taking in everything. There's some really good stuff here. I'm still processing my session & all of these comments. Thank you all.
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what learning1 said, I like that best too.
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~ ![]() |
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