I'm screwed up!

I am really screwed up. I have been to a neurolygist, a therapist, a psychiatrist, and I feel like no one can help me. I just want to talk to someone who can understand. Why can't anyone tell me what's wrong with me. I have so many issues, but no one wants to listen. It seems like my therapist won't let me talk to her about my problems. I know they started when I was a child, but she only wants to focus on whats going on in my life now. I feel like I need to talk about what happened when I was a kid, so I can understand what is happening now. I just want someone to talk to that can help me. I finally gave in and decided I need help, but now it seems no one will help. Please someone help before I loose my mind!!!

HI there and welcome!

I'm sorry that you're having such a rough time, and I'm sorry it stems from childhood. I relate.

Have you talked with t about this...clearly expressing how you feel? If not, I think it's very important that you do.

I know that sometimes t feels it necessary to get current life as safe and stable as it can be before delving into childhood. Might that apply here? Possibly you could talk with t about dividing up the session for what she feels is necessary and what you feel you need to do?

Again, welcome! I wish you more than well.

KD

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

I know the feeling of needing to be heard and to be validated for the way we feel.... hang in there and keep going to the T appointments and in time it will all come together. I feel that KimmyDawn has said it well - follow her advice.

WE are here to listen if you ever need to talk (vent as to release) - and we will NEVER judge or condemn.... we love YOU.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

mispris,
If you know your problems stem from childhood, then therapy will help you.

In my experience a good therapist will spend a lot of time making sure you have good grounding skills, and coping strats.

Therapy can be hard work and can take a long time. It is normal to feel frustated about how long the process takes.

Thinking of you.

I know having this happen is frustrating. Talk to your therapist about this or even print ypur post off and give it to her. You will most likely find there is a reason why your therapist is taking care of today before taking care of the yesterdays. I know from having therapy on and off for over 20 years plus taking psych courses in college that therapists trained to work with various types of survivors be it physical, emptiona or sexual abuse they are trained to first take care of the immediate today problems and help with putting in place new coping tools. That way when the therapy does turn to the more emotional issued of abuse as children the person has those coping tools to use and their present problems won't get in the way of seeing what problems are from that past abuse versus the stress and problems of today. Basically in order to take care of the past the present has to be on track as much as possible.

My feelings mirror yours- my turn into depression began and was most prominent as a child!! I am lucky, for 2 1/2 years now my T and I have been talking about my childhood. From finding out my parents were getting a divorce to having an obssessive and boy crazy mind in adolesence. I am sooo glad my T helps me talk about these things. Childhood is the basis for adulthood- mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I hear you, post again and let us know if you took the advice about printing out this thread and showing it to your T.

Hi, and welcome to psych central! IMO, the T will want you to share about "today" for a few reasons: to help create a foundation of trust for you to build upon, to allow T to see how the past could be affecting you in your "today" life, and also to note how you speak regularly, how normal talk flows (or doesn't) and generally get to know you... so they can tell the difference once you get into those "childhood" issues.

I agree, an open discussion where you ask the T why this is necessary, would be a good topic!

I think I understand your T. You can chose to deeply enravel your past. The risk of this is that you will be trapped in your sorrow and cannot built a good live today. However I can very well imagine you want to speak of your past. I dont know your T but perhaps it is good to talk about your past when it plays a role in your behaviour today. Then I feel it will be usefull for your therapy.
I wish you lots of strength and luck in your efforts to get a happy live.

xxx wiertjuh

I think I like your T... I like the idea of working on "current" issues rather than digging up the past. I guess childhood is important. Actually I doubt there is one person in this world that has had a perfect childhood. Why not work on "current" issues? I know this is not a "popular" opinion, but I believe "let sleeping dogs lay" or however that expression goes. Anyway.. good luck with your T.

If your childhood is so important, it would be a good idea to let your T know that these are the issues you want to work on.. If they don't want to listen.. Maybe it would be time to find another T.