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May 04, 2012, 02:05 PM
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wow just thought i would share this dream i had and get some thoughts.
i was a little kid(i am always young when i am in a dream,does this happen to anyone else) i was in this big House don't know if it was a residential treatment or just a house.but i was there ,the mother was there and my T. there were many flights of stairs and i was in a room at the very top and my T and the mother were in a kitchen all the way down at the bottom.i cant remember what words were spoken but i believe my T was trying to tell the mother what was going on with me and how what she was doing was hurting me etc...i don't have any idea what the mother was responding if at all. like i said i was a little girl.i was unable to talk at all.i don't know if it was because i didn't want to or couldn't because of fear but i couldn't talk and that was one of the problems.i was so so terrified that i was going to be seen by the mother during the whole dream.i was sneaking closer down the stairs because my T was there and i wanted to be close to her i wanted her to know i was there.but was scared the mother would see me.i had my shoes in my hand so i wasn't making any noise.i also seemed to have this special ability to move around without making any noise or have any trace that i was around.almost like i was invisible.but i was still terrified that the mother could hear or would see me.but i was quiet.i had finely made it down all the stairs and was hiding to side of the kitchen door.wishing with all my heart that my T knew that i was there because i was so scared and i was afraid that she would leave me there or something.then all of a sudden my T cave out of the kitchen and over to me,the mother seemed to be totally oblivious to the fact that i was there.my T bent down and gave me a hug.it felt so safe and good like she wasn't going to let anything happen to me.but then she stopped and told me to get back up the stairs and all the fear and anger returned and i turned and started running up the stairs and i was making noise a lot of it and i was terrified the mother was going to hear and know i was there.i got so scared it woke me up. i so didn't want to wake up at all because it had felt so safe but when i woke up i was left with all the fear,panic,and anger.and felt it most of the morning. i would never tell my T i had this dream in fact i am kind of embarrassed about it.weather it is normal or not. i think it may have to do with the stuff my T was talking about last session.it is all kind of confused in my head so much so that i am not going any wear near those thoughts.maybe it is my way of dealing .i don't know
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May 04, 2012, 02:23 PM
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Sounds like a pretty normal dream to me granite. It feels like you are connecting so well with your T that you're looking at her as your advocate and protector. I think this is healthy for you where you are in therapy. I love that you get mad at her for sending you back upstairs and then that you made all that extra noise going up the stairs even though you were terrified that the mother would hear it. It seems erally obvious to me that you are trusting and relying on your T the way you should be granite! I'd bet she'd LOVE to hear this dream!
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May 04, 2012, 02:23 PM
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A “normal dream” is an oxymoron.. they are not supposed to be "normal"
Tell your therapist, you will look back and regret it if you don’t..
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May 04, 2012, 02:55 PM
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May 04, 2012, 03:01 PM
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Granite I agree with the others that I bet your T would love to hear this dream. I've dreamt about my T a few times and I've told her about those dreams and others too - sometimes I think it can lead to valuable discussions and insight, even significant progress.
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May 04, 2012, 04:17 PM
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I love your dream, Granite. It shows that you really are beginning to trust your T and believe that she is on your side. I think she would love to hear about this dream: that it would be a 'gift' to her.
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May 04, 2012, 05:20 PM
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omg no way could i tell her about my dream i crossed so many bouderies in it. she would probibly turn into this cold hearted witch and i would hate that .i dont ever want her to know that i care at all about her.
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May 04, 2012, 08:52 PM
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May 04, 2012, 09:39 PM
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I didn't see any boundary-crossing in the parts you wrote about granite. What boundaries do you feel that you've crossed?
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May 04, 2012, 10:11 PM
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I don't think it is possible to cross real-life boundaries through a dream.
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May 05, 2012, 01:49 AM
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Dream work is absolutely fascinating stuff. I agree with the rest that you're not crossing any real-life boundaries through a dream, and that your t would probably love to hear about it. I believe that dreams happen for a reason - our 'inner self' trying to get through to our stubborn conscious selves. I do a lot of dream work with my t and learning how to interpret them is so cool. hugs to you whatever you decide to do about telling your t and thanks for sharing here.
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May 05, 2012, 05:57 AM
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i feel totally embarrassed that she hugged me in my dream and that i was OK with that because in real life i wouldn't be .i wouldn't want her thinking that it would be and that i want her to hug me. i also feel like all those feelings i had were just wrong,and scary because in real life i don't think it would be OK to feel them .like feeling so comforted by my T(i should be able to comfort myself)i wouldn't want her to think i need her to comfort me even if i want it because it isn't OK at all. i know it isn't her job and i believe it would freak her out. i don't want her to change our relationship because she is scared that i want to cross all kinds of boundaries.when even if i did i know i wouldn't.i don't think i could handle that at all.i mean i freak out that i did something horribly wrong because a chair is moved
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May 05, 2012, 06:34 AM
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I liked your dream, it's cool that your T protected you in it, and you let her. Maybe some day you will get to the point where you can let her comfort you? But it's ok if you don't want that now.
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May 05, 2012, 12:44 PM
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Your T hugged your inner child not the adult you.
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May 05, 2012, 12:48 PM
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May 05, 2012, 01:37 PM
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granite, that is a special dream! it has all kinds of messages in it for you from you! one I see clearly is that you really are trusting your T more .... and that you are trusting her because she really is showing that she is on your side and advocating for you and understanding the pain and the wounds the mother caused and having compassion for that - that is in your dream because really you do understand that that is in your T's heart for you.
as for the comfort, I know it's scary to feel the need and the want for comfort and to admit it out loud. I see why you'd feel like you crossed boundaries - but as others said, you didn't really cross them, not in a dream! and really, I don't think it's T's boundaries or crossing them that worries or scares you (not saying it doesn't at all, though!) as much as it is opening up your boundaries to allow more comfort to be given. I think it's more likely T is thinking she'd like you to do that part than it is that she's worried you'll break her boundaries. I think also in this dream you DID give yourself comfort! You comforted your inner child (in the dream you have T offering that, but the whole dream creation is one your mind made, so you are the one comforting yourself really) It's OK to comfort yourself and it's OK to accept comfort from others. I also think your T would love this dream, granite! She would be able to see it as progress happening within you and it would probably make her heart glad and she could help you get more insights from it, too. |
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May 05, 2012, 05:09 PM
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