Glad I can be honest with T

"In the same sentence" only in the retelling. Half an hour apart in session.

Did you never have a friend so close that she could point out your fashion blunders? Eg. "Those earrings are a mistake" or "You're not going dressed like that"?

It wasn't given or taken as an insult. Everyone's T relationship is different, I guess.

I don't have a friend, and maybe this is why. Unless I ask for an honest appraisal, I don't want to hear one.

Maybe if we are super close and we have a history of ragging on each other, it's different.

If your therapist had replied to your comment with a negative criticism about your physical appearance, how do you think you'd handle it? Maybe I don't appreciate being able to dish out this type of honesty because I don't like receiving it.

It was the re-telling I was talking about....

I've never had a friend that would tell me their opinion about my clothes. Likely because they wouldn't be my friend for long. My friends do not care what I wear and I really really do not care what they wear at all. That's why we're friends. Things like that just don't matter.

I really don't mean for that to sound as sanctimonious as it does, clothes are just not a big thing.

Wonder what it would be like to be married to a man who every morning said ...I hate what you are wearing. Don´t wear that perfume or thise shoes because I hate them Every marriage is different yes and so is every T realsionship...I would personally if my selfesteem were not already torn apart..file for a divourse.

If I ask on the other hand I will be more than happy to recieve an honest reply...and do so on a daily basis...

If it were actually an issue, I am sure CE's T would have said so. Let his T guide him, she is doing a good job so far.

It's not so much what CE said. It was his T's response I found a bit unbelievable. If his T had replied "and how does what I'm wearing effect you" I could see some therapeutic good coming from it. But I cannot imagine a T just blurting out "oh I love your honesty". All seems a little contrived IMHO.