Couch 47.0 (we finally debugged)

I don't know if this applies to you at all Lola but I will mention something that happened with my situation. Like you, I felt like I had no real friends...because I essentially wasn't allowed to have any. Now that I am away from the ex, I am finally beginning to develop some very nice, supportive friendships. Can't believe it took me until my 40's to have some real friends...
I know that doesn't help right at this moment but it reminds me so much of how I felt when I was still with him.
As far as telling us, that's what we are here for and we care about you.

One thing I realized when I divorced my H was that he was a contributing factor in why I wasn't able to have close relationships. Besides that, I didn't know how to develop meaningful relationships. I always put myself in the position of being there for others but not letting others be there for me. I am still that way, to a degree. I also allowed people to mistreat me. I am working on all of this.

Being single leaves me sometimes feeling incredibly lonely...but it also gives me the opportunity to cultivate the types of relationships that allow me to recharge my battery instead of drain it. Yes, it's work. And not knowing where to begin was the toughest part. Also, when I'm at my worst, I do still isolate...it's hard to combat old patterns.

If I keep traveling....then it wont hurt as much.... I need a house and Ill bring the dog with me...or board her. Thank you all for the encouragement. I report to work first thing in the am... I am hunkered down with my computer, ipad , xbox and food and I'm going to veg here all day. Tomorrow Meet with the VP. uggg.... i need a haircut and to go shopping

Good lord, are you working for Ike?

MKAC - I hope they figure out a way to help your daughter soon.

Hi Mastodon, and welcome back. You've changed.

Thank you! And yes, I hope I have

Are they hiring? Sounds like my dream job.

I just meant from an apteryx to a mastodon.

Hey Apt!!! How have you been? The new name is gonna take some getting used to....

It's days like this that I wish I wasn't a single mom.....I love my daughter dearly, but I really need some alone time. *sigh*

(((((((Apt)))))))
Omg... So good to "see" you!

Lola...sorry you are in so much pain. Splitting up is scary, but you will find you are not alone. It feels that way, I know. I had to spend Christmas alone when h left. He took the kids overnight, and I sat home and cried all day. I wanted to die, it was one of the lowest points in my life. It got better though. Little by little.

Omg Mastodon ((((((Apt)))))). Why not Apt 2.0. I missed you so much! Welcome back! You have made my day!

Man I can't believe I missed this post! Love ya love ya love ya

Hey mastodon - glad you are back.

Hey yall.... I'm making it a Netflix night

Hmm, Lola, you've inspired me to figure out what the heck I'm doing tonight. If I don't get called in to work, I want to at least do something to help chillax.

A father of one of the kids that my daughter goes to school with called and left me a voicemail earlier today....and I'm not calling him back until this migraine dissipates. I'm a bit stressed out about it because I know it's going to be confrontational, which I absolutely despise. I am going to have to have my A-game on with my newly developed skills in assertiveness.

Thanks for the warm welcome back, all. It is nice to see everybody again. The name's going to take a while to get used to, yes... but you know, an apteryx by any other name is just as flightless!

It took about five hours for the post to be moderated and show up
I think I've hit the magic number where my posts appear immediately, though.

So glad you are back Mastodon

Hi apt!!!!!

ok...but can we shorten it? Perhaps "The Mastodon Formerly Known as Apteryx"... I mean Massy

A question for the attorneys on the couch:

Do grateful clients give you gifts? Is that acceptable in your profession?

OMG how could i have missed this .

hi my friend hows things

Rarely, but yes. And yes, it is acceptable as a general rule.

I had an elderly client make me beef stroganoff when she found out I liked it but cannot make it well. She also made me a pot roast when my dad had his strokes and heart attack after the chemo. That maaaaay have been because I kept neglecting to send her a bill because I knew she was on a fixed income and a really tight budget but she really needed legal assistance and I hated to see her get cheated by a relative.

MKAC you are so sweet

Um..yup, I maaay have a client or two like that as well!

I am so exhausted. Gonna go lay down for a bit. Freakin stressful day.