[Elektra_]

i have this issue in sessions... i recently changed psychologist and for the 1st time this one doesnt want me to swear and whenever i do she corrects me. thing is ive been to soooo many and why tha hell cant i swear NOW??? arent we supposed to express ourselves and our feelings??? like oh im sorry i hate my freaking life and im too pissed about it. do u want me to tell u just the good stuff? for **** sake!

[pbutton]

Ick. Both of mine swear. I would hate to be corrected.

[content30]

I don't swear very often, but I wouldn't want my T to correct me. I mean, if an individual is over-the-top/extremely offensive, then I could see a T saying something. My T has sworn a very small handful of times, and it made me like her more. It's like, "AHA! You're human!"

[nicoleb2]

I'd be pretty angry if my t sat there and corrected me for swearing.

[Victoria'smom]

I would have to change therapists.

[eskielover]

I used to swear a lot when I was living with my H....sadly, it's what I hear my daughter doing now....not being able to express herself without throwing in the swearing words continually.....

The thing is that I left my H....& my life became peaceful.....I the swearing disappeared....& I have been able to express all the bad things that I was expressing before without using swear words & my language no longer sounds so offensive to me any longer...it's nice to know that I have better expressive words that I can use to express the same issues that I wasn't able to do with anything other than swearing before.

Sounds like your T is just trying to get you to understand that there are more descriptive ways of expressing the emotions that you are feeling.

[stopdog]

Eff that.

[southpole]

Yeah I swear. Not heaps and not really rudely but I do think it helps express emotions (is s**t even swearing anymore? I say f**k too but not as much). She swears too, but because I think she's a bit of a "good girl" I'm not sure how much of it is just to make me feel comfortable ... dunno!

That's crap, she is being judgemental. My t swears all the time and it make her feel human to me.

[~Christina]

I personally don't swear in Therapy for a couple of reasons

1. To me its too easy to say &%#$)*&.. I force myself to find other words other ways of expressing my emotions.

2. It's a respect thing..

[nessaea]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

I personally don't swear in Therapy for a couple of reasons

1. To me its too easy to say &%#$)*&.. I force myself to find other words other ways of expressing my emotions.

2. It's a respect thing..

I feel pretty much the same way. I don't swear much in general, and really try not to do it in therapy (although I have slipped up a couple of times.) My therapist also doesn't really swear (she too has a few times though) but I'm not sure if that is something she doesn't do in general, or if she adjusts based on how much her client does.

It sounds to me like she is just trying to get you to express and describe what you are feeling. I find people tend to use profanity as a crutch to express any strong emotion. Without it, we have to actually analyze and come up with the right words to express how we feel. I wouldn't be surprised if once you start getting used to swearing less and being more explicit in talking about your feelings, she backs off on correcting you about it.

T has even used my languge. I find it cute when she does. I can't bide narrow minded fake sincerity. Find someone else. Correcting someone's language is imposing your timescale on them.

[HealingTimes]

I swear in therapy a LOT. I don't generally swear outside of therapy, but often swear in therapy, like every session.
My T does it too..the first time she said the F word i almost had a heart attack Mind you, i had just been describing my mother and had used a LOT of swears!

[LadyShadow]

I swear sometimes when I with my T not often though, I hardly drop the F bomb but I sometimes say *****.

In the beginning when I first knew my T I would never swear, but as the years went on I became more comfortable and he NEVER corrects me. Thats a no no.

You should change therapists again, you should feel free to be comfortable.

[Perna]

I think it might be to help you find and use your big people words instead of the easy, default response. Swearing is just an automatic habit and therapy is about learning to be able to choose. Have you ever noticed how, when a therapist swears, it can sound a little forced? That's because they have chosen to swear, the swearing has not chosen them. The swearing has no effect if it's automatic, it's meaningless and devalues you and what you have to say.

[beans_on_toast]

I swear in T and so does my T...although I do find it humorous when he drops an F bomb at times...as it does not seem as natural for him to talk like a sailor. Gee...I am even guilty of telling my T to 'F' off a couple of times out of anger...and he was ok with it and actually encouraged it.

[anilam]

I don't swear in my L1, I do sometimes in E.
I hate when ppl swear in my language- somehow it's a trigger for me- so, no I don't swear in therapy and neither does my T.
However, I don't think your T should correct you- sounds a bit judgemental. Have you explore why you feel the need to do so? Have you asked your T why does she mind/correct you?

I swear on occasion, but not terribly often. Sometimes swearing overly frequently is reflexive and impulsive, and I suspect a T trying to get a client to swear less might be trying to get a client to actually think and choose their words rather than continue in an impulsive behavior that might not be serving them well in communicating what is really going on with them.

[refika]

I used to swear worse than a sailor. It was a bad habit I picked up from my husband. From the first time I went to T, I told myself I was going to watch my language, mostly out of respect.

T says it's okay if I swear, but since I've been watching what I say in session (swear words), I find I'm more in touch with my emotions and able to express myself easier. It's funny though, T never swears and if he has to (like to repeat something I said or) he will spell out the words.

[tinyrabbit]

I would change Ts. My T and I both swear a bit, and it would annoy me if someone corrected me.

[precious things]

I asked my T during our first session if I could swear and his response was "please, feel free to". had he said no I would have left and never returned.

[Elektra_]

hi gezz so many replies thanks all for ur input. this is kinda last chance for me, its a mental association i found when i cant afford to pay a psych... when i started was with another psych and i think she decided to correct me caz she thought i would do it in general, i think. but when i recently was "transferred" to this new one the last told her to correct me (even though i think she would do it anyway). i dont swear outside of sessions. i think swearing expresses how frustrated/angry i am and ive been to a few psychs and none of them EVER say anything about it. none of my psychs ever swore that would be hilarious

[tinyrabbit]

I don't think anyone should be editing or censoring how they speak in therapy.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I don't think anyone should be editing or censoring how they speak in therapy.

Exactly.

Now if you're ranting, raving, swearing and throwing stuff....that's a different story. Sitting in a chair/on a couch using a swear word to express how you're feeling? What the heck is the problem with that?

[LoneWolfie]

I would be pretty angry. I swear and let the F bombs drop where they may and at times my t has mentioned my over use of it in my writing but not that often. She has even used the f bomb on occasion when I have used it. But I think she doesn't swear on a regular basis by any means.

It is a tough one, no one wants to be corrected when it comes to speaking and that can mean even grammar.