[herethennow]

do you all observe T or pdoc for that matter?

for me, i would observe how they sit... and go something like this "ooh she's not wearing a ring, she's not married i guess.." "i keep seeing red on her everytime i see her, her favourite colour must be red!" and not really listening to what T says at times?

i do that alot and sometimes i miss the crucial part of what T says so in the end i have to ask her what she said >_<

but it has helped though, as my pdoc seems to love pink and flowers (she has a flowery cath kidston iphone cover, her lanyard was pink flowery) i managed to give her a card filled with flower pictures..

so do you all observe T? :X

[Freewilled]

I actually am quite the opposite. I don't observe much at all - not sure if this is a bad thing in T, but in my life it's not good. I seem to have tunnel vision or something. Not sure what that's all about....sometimes in therapy I will tell myself to pay attention to what T is wearing, what his face looks like, etc. or otherwise it feels like I wasn't even there afterward or like it was a dream.

I know this sounds strange but not sure how else to describe it

No, I definitely don't do this. What I have learned about them has been through discussion and interaction over time.

[herethennow]

i guess in a way that's good.. because you won't really have wandering thoughts.. but i guess i do understand your feeling of "if i dont realise my physical surroundings, it might be a dream." there are times whereby i just am "not there" and just sucking in what T says and feeling all weird thereafter...

[Moodswing]

Since I barely look at them I tend to notice their shoes because that is where I stare. I am observant and will scan them and the entire room at some point during the session.

[Willowleaf]

I too barely look at her so don't notice anything like this. Have no idea what she likes or dislikes!

[Melody_Bells]

It's great that you got your T a card based on your observations! How sweet!

What you said about not listening to T because you're too busy observing, I do this sometimes, too! But I try hard to pay attention to her talking.

I wish I could have a no-talking session so I can concentrate on admiring her kind, beautiful face....

[herethennow]

Hrm i barely make eye contact with her! I have to make conscious efforts to do so... so in terms of make up i wont really take notice much.

How are their shoes? Clean? Shiny? Hahaha.

Does anyone do like a office scan or something.. like a book has changed position and you figured "she must have used it hmmm" kind of thing?

(Wish T has an office to scan! We have our T sessions in a meeting room so i cant observe anything much... I guess i like observing)

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[mandazzle]

I do that! I tend to be very observant of other people. I also pay attention to her office too. I feel like such a creep sometimes but I can't really help it.

[FeelTheBurn]

Ha, I do it constantly. I know what she wears, how she fixes her hair depending on the weather, how she does her nails (feet too!). I know by looking into her eyes whether she's cognitively engaged with me, empathically attuned, or processing a thought. I know she has a chronic discomfort in her right shoulder/neck (she unconsciously rubs it now and then). I can tell when she's tired, has had a long day, is feeling good, or has an "attunement hangover" carrying over from her previous session.

I am obviously obsessed, hee. But she practices a kind of deep attachment/empathic therapy, so that level of connection is expected, and I often feel like a child memorizing her mother's face as we talk. It's kinda creepy when I look at it through my cynic's lens, but it has been fantastically healing. (and she smells amazing. )

Perhaps TMI, lol. I'll see myself out.

[Miswimmy1]

I tend to be very observant and I notice everything. To me, life feels like a game. I feel like i constantly have to see things as more than they are, therefore I tend to overanalyze little things like how you mentioned, about the ring. It's a bad habit of mine.

[stopdog]

No I don't. I do check to make sure she is not coming close to me.

[tinyrabbit]

I didn't used to look around much at first but now I 'office scan'. My T puts everything that lives in the room back in its rightful place between clients, but I notice where his bag is, his iPad that he uses for emails, and his water bottle. I also tend to notice what he's wearing. I know he wears a gold wedding ring as well.

I notice everything I possibly can around me at all times...including T at the moment I begin my session and his details (clothes, body position, etc.) and all details of his office when I walk in...I feel like I need to pay attention to details, but I think it's because I am so sensitive, and I also use it in my head as a defense mechanism (like, to be ready for anything, just in case...you know, I need to run or something...)

[stopdog]

For me, I am just not that observant in general unless I have a specific purpose to do so. So that I am not about the therapist is not as much of a reflection on therapy or the therapist, but I am just not as a general rule in life.

[EllieBear]

I am very observant and aware of some things and totally tune out others, depending on what may cause danger. I never look at my T...don't usually notice her clothes, shoes, etc. But if she moves one of the thousands of figurines on her shelves, or changes the position of the blanket on the back of the coach, I notice immediately. I pay attention to her expressions and attitudes and tone of voice, etc. Mostly it's been a survival skill...if it is a cue to danger, i don't miss it. If it's not going to hurt me, I barely recognize it.

[velcro003]

i like to observe people in a crowd and stuff, and friends if they are unaware. I dont like doing it in therapy. it would feel like a stare down. NO THANKS. I very briefly make eye contact at the beginning toshow that i am not completely devoid of social niceities, and the rest of the session is spent with me intimiately tracing the patterns on her pillows that she's had all of these years. Or her rugs. Sometimes her painting, though it is boring. I would LOVE to really check out her bookshelf, but it is perpendicular to me, so I would have to twist around to look at it and that might be considered rude

[velcro003]

Originally Posted by EllieBear

I am very observant and aware of some things and totally tune out others, depending on what may cause danger. I never look at my T...don't usually notice her clothes, shoes, etc. But if she moves one of the thousands of figurines on her shelves, or changes the position of the blanket on the back of the coach, I notice immediately. I pay attention to her expressions and attitudes and tone of voice, etc. Mostly it's been a survival skill...if it is a cue to danger, i don't miss it. If it's not going to hurt me, I barely recognize it.

interesting. i need to think more on this.

[southpole]

I notice what she is wearing and her posture, and facial expressions - I think I am a good reader of body language. I also notice when things change in her room. She has all these small sculptures and figurines on her bookshelf (in front of a whole bunch of interesting looking books) and sometimes she moves them around. I noticed almost immediately when she got a new one - a little tree with gems hanging from the branches that moved in next to a knight's chess piece and a small silver dog, LOL.

I also notice when she dusts the shelf and when she takes a book out of one spot I always notice that too (sometimes I notice which book is missing too). I have a very good memory so I do this in most cases, I guess I am just particularly tuned to that bookshelf - I look at it a lot during sessions.

I'm sure she is observing me observing too

[herethennow]

i thought i was one of the small population who does things like that! sometimes i feel like a creep... >__< observing and picking up on really redundant things. sometimes i feel like T knows im observing and i get all.. weird.

interesting how everyone is observing in a different way ^_^

[Asiablue]

I notice a lot too, if anythings moved in the room, what she's wearing, how she's sitting, what jewelry she is wearing. I look for changes and patterns.

[marcel83]

Originally Posted by herethennow

do you all observe T or pdoc for that matter?

for me, i would observe how they sit... and go something like this "ooh she's not wearing a ring, she's not married i guess.." "i keep seeing red on her everytime i see her, her favourite colour must be red!" and not really listening to what T says at times?

i do that alot and sometimes i miss the crucial part of what T says so in the end i have to ask her what she said >_<

but it has helped though, as my pdoc seems to love pink and flowers (she has a flowery cath kidston iphone cover, her lanyard was pink flowery) i managed to give her a card filled with flower pictures..

so do you all observe T? :X

I like to do it very much, not only during the session but also every day. I "KNOW" what coloures she lkes. She always wear dresses! I know what shoes she has, when she changed her spectacles frames. I like to look at her when she talk to me, not conversely. I didn't have real closeness (physical, emotional) as a child, so when I can look at her that is like closeness beetwen us. Of course I call attension to her every move, words she saying and facial expression. That's not good usual because I see nonexistent things .

[haier]

Sometimes i do. Depends on how i feel. She's pretty, tall and really nice. She has curly long hair..i have curly short hair. She wears glasses and always dresses very professional. Mostly black slacks and just changes the color of shirt and flats...i think it's funny because a lot of times we have matched the colors we wear..once we both wore dark purple shirts with light purple sweaters..she didn't say anything and i wonder if she noticed..that day i was a mess though. She comes from the same cultural background as myself and i can tell too when she's uncomfortable or tired or had a long day. I like her a lot but i can't stand when she looks at me worried..she smiles a lot too. I hate the way she sits in her chair though.

[granite1]

to observe T that would mean i have to stop looking at the floor. maybe someday i will

[WikidPissah]

I've never even looked up at a T. lol.
So, I guess that would be a no for me.