Couch 54, Where Are You?

Repeat after me, Wikid, "NOT my responsibility." "NOT my responsibility." "NOT my responsibility." "NOT my responsibility." "NOT my responsibility." "NOT my responsibility."

My mom refused to listen to me and is now penniless and property-less, and living with my little sister in a house my mom and dad built and paid for, and deeded over to my sister and her husband. When my sister kicks her out, which WILL happen, she is not my responsibility and she is not living with me. I warned everyone involved that she is NEVER living with me. My older sister laughed, but I am deadly serious.

Ugh mkac...it just SETS me off so badly. One, because the insurance company is doing this to little old ladies all over MASSACHUSETTS. We were the first state with health care reform, if people only knew how the ins. companies make up all the money it costs them to change their policies. Do people really think they were going to get all this good stuff for free?

Mostly it sets me off because she is such a narcissist. She knew damn well the repercussions, but having that 20 min of attention was worth it for her. She plays to the doctor like her needs are not being met. BS. That woman sees more doctors than I do...and I have heath issues, she actually doesn't. But she pretends to, which is how she gets to see a doc every month.

AND .. she HUGS the doc. I want to say "STOP hugging people you don't know. You ARE NOT CUTE, no one wants to hug you!" It is SO damn inappropriate.

Yeah, just since my dad got sick and passed away, my mom has had:
breast cancer (which just -- DISAPPEARED on its own)
two heart attacks
kidney issues
bladder infections
high blood pressure
low blood pressure
diabetic episodes (because she eats non-stop and on purpose keeps her blood sugar over 300).

Now she claims that she needs two artificial knees but the doctor won't let her have them because she's so overweight.

ETA: Oh, and she's fallen and been unable to get up several times. She now uses a wheelchair all the time, and wears an adult diaper so she doesn't have to get out of her easy chair to pee.

I swear...and I know this is a mean thing to say...that she gets her rocks off by being felt up by a doctor. She gets a physical EVERY 6 MONTHS. For reals. She complains of "woman issues" so she can get a few pap smears a year. Honestly. It's just gross.

Not that I'm bitter or anything. LOL.

yea...I'm not bitter either

i'm sorry wiki & MKAC moms suck

My mom had a complete and total hysterectomy and still goes in for those. WTF is up with that? I would wonder why the doctor complies, but this quack she used to see would do anything she asked and give her any drug she wanted. The ENTIRE top of her refrigerator was covered, literally covered, by prescription bottles. They are totally pressed up against each other with no space between and still cover the entire top of a the largest refrigerator on the consumer market.

He prescribed her diet pills that have a side effect of boosting blood pressure, while treating and medicating her for high blood pressure. He gave her uppers and downers. I went in once with a list of her medications (narrow ruled notebook paper with two columns, FILLED, FRONT AND BACK). I kept pointing out medications that were not supposed to be taken together. He said he had prescribed them at different times. YES, but you are STILL giving her ****ING REFILLS for all of them and she continues taking them! He said -- and I kid you not, "If I don't give them to her, someone else will." My reply was, "Yes, but then it would be someone other than YOU that I would be suing when she dies." He turned and talked out. Maybe he knows that I would not actually sue over her death because there would be no damages to collect.

Ugh. I'm sorry, wikid and mkac. That sucks.

Hey Granite...how was T?

Without the really good Heath Insurance I have my mom hooked up with, the state will take all her gold if she ends up in a nursing home. Damitalltohell. I really wanted that gold too, I've worked HARD for it!!!

Just to share how insane I am sometimes, I was talking to my T today about this panic attack I had last week. He wanted to talk about the fear that underlies the panic attack. I snarled at him that I am not afraid. Right ****ing AFTER telling him about a panic attack. He just kind of smiled at me and then I had to laugh at myself.

OH, oh, and here's how COOL my T is: he and his family are leaving the country next week. He is seeing me in the morning when he leaves the country THAT afternoon. I cannot tell if he thinks I am super needy and super mentally ill such that he has to come in the office that morning to see me, or what. But I love him so I'll take the appointment anyway.

maybe he just feels it will help you and that you are a good person who would apreciate his thought . i bet he thinks you deserve some TLC

MKAC...that's so damn funny. "I had this awful panic attack" "I'm not scared of anything" ROFL. You sound like me.

So glad your t is squeezing you in. When XT used to go away he would tell me, "You can call my personal cell if you need me, I'll answer for you". He knew that there had to be a giant hole in the earth for me to call him on vacation.

Hi all. How's things? Mother's suck biological AND adoptive.
Anyway, remember last week or whenever when I accidently dialled my T's number? Well, apparently I didn't do it once but twice and he called back and tried to talk with me but I have absolutely no recollection of this whatsoever. I looked up the log on my phone and I did dial him twice. All I remember is misdialling and later on that day the acute team ringing me. I hate that when that happens now I feel that T thinks I'm a liar.
Anyway I chickened out of the wildlife meeting I'll go next month. I did drive there I just couldn't get out of the car.

Wow...sorry to everyone having mother troubles. I had some a week or so ago and then re-lived some from the past in T today, so I completely understand how it can stress you out.

I think my T is "afraid" to let me go more than 2 weeks without an appointment now (after me "freaking out" when I had to go over 6 weeks between appointments that one time). At the end of session today, when we were setting up the next appointment, 2 weeks from today (7/9) her husband is having eye surgery, so she was taking that day off. Normally when things like that happen I will just go 3 weeks until my next appointment, but she said she didn't want to do that and offered me an appointment Monday morning that week. Does she really think I am that "unstable" that I will flip out again if it is over 2 weeks? I only flipped out that one time because it was about 6 or 7 weeks. 3 weeks I could handle. Oh well...I'll take one in two weeks.

Hopefully, I will be able to do the "homework" she gave me...she's been suggesting it the past 2 sessions, but I haven't done it. She asked today why I was "resisting." I honestly didn't know other than the fact that I was in the habit of not keeping one, so starting one seemed odd and too hard.

The HW she suggested was keeping a checking account register to see what I have in "real time". Here's what I have been doing...I keep a file on my computer that lays out my pay dates, vs. when bills are due (bills that vary by month I estimate for this purpose...ie - electric, gas for car, etc). During the school year, my pay is the same every paycheck, so I know exactly how much I am being paid. I take the entire month and lay it out on a spredsheet and subtract the bills in order of when they are due and add in my pay for when I am paid. Then I see how much extra I have for the month. T says that is good for preplanning, but I need to have a "real time" account too so I can know how much I have at a given moment. I told her I can do that by checking my balance online and she said that was not a "good" way to do it. What do the accountant-type of people here think?

I think you really need to have a check register. It hurts my accounting brain to imagine a system that doesn't provide the account balance. I think it's great homework. The hardest part will be figuring out your current balance, after that it will be easy peasy.

I talked too much in therapy today. I feel like I barely saw T. I want a do-over.

Hi everyone.

I just discovered David Goodis. Very good noir crime writer from the 40's and 50's. Gonna be loading up on some of his books. Anybody read him?

Squirrel, I think your t is barking up the wrong tree! You seem to know better than anyone here, better than anyone ive ever met, how much money goes in or out. What is she driving at? I could see her questioning your big picture, but not your grasp of the details. And your big picture, I say that just because you havent told us that stuff , which is fine. Ie like your retirement plan or something! I dont keep a check register, I have duplicate checks. Who writes checks anymore??

Hank...I also have duplicate checks. The only thing I write checks for is T. Yes, my T does not have a credit card/debit card machine.

My T was more saying that I needed to keep a register of my online payments, debit card purchases, and deposits. Her reasoning is that I should be able to know at a given moment how much I have in my account without having to look online. I see her point (kind of), but if what I am doing is working for me, then I don't see the need to change it. I just wanted to get others' opinions on it. I may try it just to see how it works...but I won't expect a miracle or an ephiphany.

Edit: As for a retirement plan. I have a state one as I am a public school employee. Maybe I should have a back up one too, but most teachers do well on just the one the state runs.

Where's Wikid? I bet she's pro-check register. I would go insane without the ability to know the actual amount of money in my possession.

Overreacting and underreacting are very common symptoms. And you've already accepted that you need help. They should be able to help you.

Nope. I would never think that. I know too well.