Couch 54, Where Are You?

It's looking harder than I thought to get my nursing registration back. Wishing I'd never told that pdoc i was a nurse.

I need help from my dear couch friemds. I am drafting a letter of complaint against my ex-husband's mental health nurse. I saw this guy for one session before I transferred into town and made an appointment with another MH nurse who I didn't see. This guy has been discussing my 'lack' of appt keeping with my ex-h. This is a breach of confidentiality I am sure. Later on this week I would like to post my letter and get people to read it so I don't come over as being crazy and paranoid. Can I rely on people's feedback please. Or do you think I should start a thread?

Hey BPA.

Is the MH nurse in question involved in a legal sense? Court appointed, or agreed to by you and ex-H, in a proceeding? Otherwise, that does sound like a confidentiality breach... not that those are always taken as absolutely seriously (except for actual medical disclosure.)

Starting a thread won't hurt, I think. Just a better way to get feedback on that specifically.

Not in a legal sense. I just feel my ex is taking too much interest in my mental health as I am applying for a divorce after Christmas. I feel he may use it against me.

A tough couple of days at work. I'm coping, but I'm drawing on reserves that aren't being replenished.

Mr T tomorrow.

Your strategic coping reserves? We all run low on those once in a while.

I'm sorry... and I hope that T can help soothe you some.

There are no rules in love and war?

Yes... it sounds like he is getting very oppositional and indecent.

Do you ever find yourself wanting to take revenge?

Yes, I do want to take revenge. I don't feel that is setting a good example to the kids though.

I broke down sobbing in the waiting room at the vet yesterday. I was there with one of our cats, who has an urinary tract infection (actually a mild inflammation of the bladder.) It's not dangerous if treated, and he has no problem peeing or anything like that (I do know that if an animal can't urinate it becomes very serious, but there's nothing blocking his tracts). And he was a very cool cat even when there were dogs pretty much fighting all around him - I went off to sit in the furthest corner, but the waiting room was very crowded so we couldn't get away completely. And we had to sit there for over three hours before we even got to see the vet (and then we sat in the examination room for two and a half hours, but that was quiet and the cat didn't have to sit in his cage.)

So really no reason for me to melt down. I guess it was a combination of being stressed out about the poor cat, and about the work I had to get done and couldn't do while I was sitting there, and just not knowing when we'd get to see the vet, and all the memories I had of being there with my old cats when they were ill and finally having to be put down. Oh, and I hadn't had time to have any breakfast before leaving. H, who is an angel in human shape, brought me a packed lunch.

But I guess T was right in our last session - apparently I do make up things to worry about when there is no need, because I somehow have to feel anxious. Ye gods, but I despise myself.

My cat, however, charmed the vet utterly and completely with his "OMG you are the BEST person EVER let me hug your feet purrpurrpurr" act. (That was before she started prodding his bladder - he didn't like her quite so much after that.)

(((apt)))
I have broken down sobbing in inappropriate places before, not a good feeling at all. But, cut yourself some slack...that IS a stressful situation. Waiting that long to see a vet? Sheesh, I wouldn't have been able to handle it myself. Don't they have appointments? Wow. I don't think you are making it up at all. You have a very lucky cat, that his pet should go thru all that to make him feel better.

Crap! Crap! Crap!

I woke up drawing a blank when it comes to what I am talking to T about this morning. DAMMIT. I'm gonna have to read some of my old posts pretty quickly and get my s h i t together. UGH! I hate when this happens!!!

Good morning, couch peeps....

i am just not feeling so well today.i don't know if it is because i am going to T today or what. my stomach is so moody and i am just tired and feeling so yucky. i want to stay in bed.i dont have anything big going on in T at all so maybe i am just getting sick

((MUE))
((Chickie))

Feel better! Ginger tea.

got lots of tea but no ginger. i have a card class i am going to thismorning but i feel so yucky.

I am silly, I e-mailed T yesterday afternoon.. I just checked my e-mail and I saw that he got back to me, I saw his name and I quickly clicked out of my inbox without reading it.. I told him I am was feeling shame, and wanting to run away from T after my last appointment. I don't want to see what he has to say..

MUE- I hope your session goes well Today.
Granite- I hope you feel better.

I have a sore throat this morning, I think it has more to do with allergies though. The last couple of weeks season allergies have been crappy. That would make sense considering I am allergic to 16 different types of tress and a handful of grass pollens!!

Healed...

Have you tried natural stuff for your allergies? If you up your Omega 3's, and add some Stinging Nettle and quercetin you'll be surprised how much relief you get.

(((wiki)))
Thank you. They do have appointments, but everything was booked solid. It's a good animal hospital, everybody who works there is great and they have some of the best equipment and labs in the country... plus it's a teaching hospital so each animal is inspected by students as well as by qualified vets. So we feel very safe knowing our cats are taken care of there. The downside is, many other people agree with us.

I just had a long lunch with Supportive Friend, who argued that what my T said about me needing something to be anxious about is great news because it means I can choose to do something about it. (Oh yes, that will be easy.) He agreed with you that the vet situation was genuinely very stressful, but he also said that he thinks my T is right in general. Somehow he did not think that makes me despicable, though. I'm finding that hard to get my head around, I must admit.

I hope everybody will have a good Tuesday.

Good luck in T today, mu_e. (and granite, too, right?)
(((granite))), feel better.
healed, I drink a lot of warm water (warmer than lukewarm, but not too hot) with honey when I have a bad throat. I find that it helps. If the water boils, some of the good stuff in the honey is ruined, so only heat it a bit.

I guess I don't like the phrase "making things up". We all hit the ANXIETY button way too fast, that's obvious. I mean, I had an irritating woman (who no one really likes) make fun of me, and I puke for two days. That's a bit of overkill I'd say. But was I making it up? Or am I pre-programed to think that if I don't hit the panic button bad things could happen. I think of my dog, who grumbles and low barks at the least little sound. "Alert, Alert! There's a squirrel in the yard! We're all screwed!" She's not making things up...to me she's over-reacting, but in her little dog world maybe that squirrel is a huge threat? Ok, we need to learn to simmer down, BUT as you said it's easier said than done.

how you holding up chica

Wiki..... "simmer down"...just brought up the Simma Down Now skit for SNL to mind...made me smile...

Once my H told me to settle down... it had opposite affect... made me explode like a volcano...

ha ha ha ha Ready...
"Everybody SIMMA down now!" omg, I'm gonna pee my pants.

I'm fine chickie. Have a busy day today.
I hope T goes well for you.

I love love love old SNL..... Thank Wiki. I hope everyone has a great day! Good luck to those with T today!