Couch 60: Don't forget the beachball!

Just popping by to say I'm having a really productive day, having revelationary (is that a word?) thoughts about my T. In all I'm "getting on with it" Hoping everyone elses day is just as good if not better. Cheers!

well country T and I have parted ways, we agreed it was not a match... so I move on and on and on....uggg

Hoping you'll keep on trying LC and find one that fits.

....and some good wine

Im beginning to believe I am never going to find a match. Maybe I am not crazy enough or too crazy, the jury is out.

I'll just here and eat my lunch with you. I can't think of anything to say.

LC - could she give you a referral? Even though she was not your fit, perhaps she has some info on others who might be.

I have interviewed over 30 before settling (for the most part) on the two I see now.

maybe, I should ask... but I won't. I'm too embarrassed that I wasn't an ideal client. Im feeling a bit defeated.. let me lick my wounds thanks SD, good idea

Sorry Lola that must be hard. I hope you do try again though.

Its ok, I' m too hot to handle, I get it... always have been and always will be.
Not YAVIS...Young, Attractive, Verbal, Intelligent and Successful. I have a few thing going for me but not the whole thing.

What is the ideal client? You're not saying YAVIS is the ideal client?

YAVIS, its not a term I made up.... google it.

F*** I hope this isn't the attitude of the majority of psychologists out there.....Hello Mods thanks for the PM.

I dont think its an attitude , It's just something they learn in school.

Here's something to refute your claims
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...therapy-client

a quote from blog
"Apparently, therapists aren't looking for YAVIS. We want clients who invest in the process and share the traits we highly value: motivation, openness and introspection."

That concept is so out dated... Lola, keep looking, you will find the right t!!

I wasnt trying to start an argument , believe me .... Just something I heard and read, sorry ... thank you for the opposing view, that helps. Her words ... " I have come to the conclusion in my mind that I do not believe that I can help you in the manner you seek. Having insurance involved in your care demands action, goal setting, etc., and that is how I am accustomed to providing therapy. Perhaps another therapist would be a better fit." All I can think of is a few movie quotes ... I could have been a contender... If your mother weren't such a ***** we could have had something beautiful... haha

I wasn't starting an argument I just wanted to point out the other side. Now you've mentioned insurance which something I don't understand. There are other therapists.

Have you looked again on the psych today website now that you are in the big D/FW area? The ones I saw on there gave fairly accurate descriptions of their type of practice, in my experience. I also used Therapy Tribe.

But, in the I am an alien thing, I sort of enjoyed visiting a lot of them and seeing how different and similar they were to each other.

NO NO , I don't want YOU to think I am trying to start an argument, Im trigger shy lately. As for the insurance thing, some insurance companies in the states require the T to give a number of expected sessions, details on what the issue is etc. They may even require a diagnosis and give only 10 sessions for improvement. Some even require a pre authorization of number of sessions based on diagnosis. My insurance does not work that way, so its a non issue.

I did read reviews SD...

I thought I got accurate good or bad feeling about them from their descriptions/web pages. But remember I tried a lot. A few were complete busts. I went to one who was strictly a psychoanalyst - with the couch and everything in a room with nothing but the couch and her chair - nothing on the walls, no color etc. It would have been great except for that weird lying on couch thing which I refused to do. But I did not realize that was her approach from her web page. Still it was interesting to see. But for most I found how they listed themselves was not entirely off. I was amazed to see how many had stuffed animals when their practice was only adults. I crossed them off quickly.

Thanks for that explanation sounds like how our mental health govt initiatives work. We will help you but only if your problem is minor and curable in x no of sessions and you don't take up too many resources...

I am sure ill try again... starting over just sucks, over and over... Like I want to hand them a journal and say " read this and let me know if you can handle it".

I spoke to most on the phone for about 10-15 minutes before deciding to actually make an appointment.
I just looked up fort worth on the psych today page - I immediately crossed off all men and the ones who mentioned their faith, sand trays, and evolution into higher levels of consciousness. And I would cross off twice the one who started her blurb with "My ideal client is one who..."
But there were two who talked about childhood patterns and such. So for me - I would call and talk to and possibly make an appointment with those two while continuing to check out others.
But that is just my approach.