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I know you cant wiki but I bet the want is there. but I wonder if you are able to say that the siblings really have no say and that it is time to get an apartment or a shelter .I bet she would not give you a hard time. or next time she insists you are angry with he point all these out her her and as hard as it is say how you have done all this just for her to take all your useless siblings in account and yes you are abgry

I know this sounds AWFUL. Totally AWFUL. BUT...there is a LOT of money at stake, and I have to make sure my kids get their fair share. If I wash my hands, no doubt the will shall be redone.

Sorry to all that had hard sessions today.

Alone-sorry about the job situation. That sucks big time but you still have a good amount of time to get the ball rolling on finding something else. But that really stinks that you are in this situation.

I live away from mine for those very reasons. Sorry you are going through this Wiki, I hope you can find a solution that takes YOU into consideration.

I completely get that wiki.that isn't awful

^this is totally doable. She knows I am pissed off, as I have avoided her all day. I am just going to let myself calm down tonight. I can't confront her now, I'll just start crying...and she'll see the weakness and beat the **** of it. Tomorrow. Tomorrow I will explain to her who actually does everything.

Gads. Maybe she's just scared. She could be freaking out.

maybe she is but it isn't like you are leaving her without your help crist she should know this by now. but I guess she knows her behavior and may be worried

Tired and sick.

And what I meant was that even neurotics have real-world problems that needs real-world solutions. A T can't help with that.

my T wont let this go at all, I have never seen her hold on to something so strongly. continuing to say that, that it is important to talk about. it is getting easier to talk about it

Just made fresh Pineapple Strawberry Juice, man is it yummy! Hope everyone is having a better evening as it sounds like today was a bad Monday for the lot of ya.

Wiki..... Your mom could change her will even after you sell your happiness for it... You tell her its the apartment or another sibling or homeless shelter. She knows what she is doing holding it over your head.

Therapy sucks and really i dont need a T to add to my crap. I have enough all on my own. No offense to all the women on the couch but women are not to be trusted.. I should have listened to my gut instinct from 2 yrs ago

Seriously? I am not keen on men - so between the two of us that would leave what? The cat? And in truth, some men are okay. Strange to me certainly, but all are not untrustworthy if I am honest.
You are a woman and you want your children to trust you and you sound trustworthy around them from what you write- or your coworkers and so forth. You interact with people on here and some of us are women, and although we all may not agree and we may irritate each other from time to time or get into disagreement which is not the end of the world or even necessarily the end of liking or getting along once a little time has gone past, any proclamations based on generalities about gender are usually based on being hurt or angry.
Any person may be untrustworthy - but an entire gender is improbable. (OF course If you want to say therapists are untrustworthy as a batch -then I am in - but even then there may be the odd one or two who manage both competence and non-wiliness)
(that last parenthetical phrase was an attempt at making fun of myself - not you)

What did she do that is upsetting, if you would like to share? And why would it be based upon her gender?

I don't like working with women.

I fight with female T's. We always get into arguments about semantics and itty bitty details no one cares about. Guy T's, for me anyways, have been more big-picture and don't tangle about the small stuff.

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To write off half of humanity does seem like an overreaction.
You might decide that this is worth raising in therapy.

I have an issue. I've been in T for many years now but only a few weeks ago started a new type of therapy with a relatively new therapist to me who changed my diagnosis. Now last week she was saying I was stuck and not moving forward. I agree to some extent but how can I have moved forward if I only started presumably the correct therapy a few weeks ago?

Starting a new type of therapy sounds like progress.

It has been my experience in life that women in general are much, much less trustworthy than men. If a woman says "yes" to something, a goodly percentage of the time (in my experience) she does not really mean "yes" but for whatever reason would not just say "no." So I get a "yes" and believe that the "yes" means "yes," and proceed with my life as if "yes" means "yes," only to find out that either the woman just didn't do what she said "yes" to, or did it, but then proceeds to try to make me feel like **** that she did it for me. Woman also are much more apt to pretend to be my friend and then stab me in the back.

In my experience, men tend to just say "no" when they really mean "no." I have never had a man pretend to be my friend and then stab me in the back (dump me as a friend maybe when I wouldn't have sex with him, but that is far less painful than a betrayal of trust -- for me).

I have found a few friends who are women who I believe are trustworthy. They are few and far between the type of women that Ready is referencing.

I have a lot of issues with women as well, but I definitely know that I fall under Stopdog's category of having hurt feelings from my past. I try not to group anyone together and make judgement, but I am sure that there is still some unconscious part of me doing so.

Well if you dont like or get along with someone you have a 50 / 50 chance its a woman. I fully believe that how you were treated by your parents plays into the mind and helps to mold your feelings for men and woman based on how they ( parents ) treated you.

Good morning all, its 21 in Texas and I'm freezing! I hope you all have a way better day or night then yesterday!

yea...pretty much women suck.

I got into it with my mother this morning. I told her that YES she is moving into that apartment. I told her that if she didn't move there I would no longer be handling her finances and taking her to doctor's visits. I also told her that I would turn her over to elder services. That scared the **** out of her. (elder services carries a lot of power around here, and if they decide you're incapable of living alone they put you in assisted living and take all of your money).

I don't want to take her choice away from her. Everyone should have a choice in where they live, but I solidly know that this place is the absolute best place for her. It has everything she needs to live the rest of her days in comfort. It isn't cheap, but she can afford it.

So is she going to move into the apartment then? Wiki you did what was best all around.

Can anyone hear or see me? I'm wondering if I have become blocked by everyone?