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Old Nov 03, 2013, 07:55 PM
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Granite..the other thing to consider is that maybe her firm/Stern tone of voice could be upset and frustration over what happened to you and at those who hurt you.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 07:57 PM
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If its any comfort , you seem to have done a really good job raising your kids and even though its hard to see them grow and move off, for me it was easier knowing that they were ready to do so ( at least with the youngest, in my case) Hope he is doing well in school.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 07:57 PM
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MKAC-I'm glad your T responded.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 07:59 PM
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Oh MKAC... Happy Anniversary of the most (or one of the two) wonderful days of your life...
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:00 PM
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So my T responded to my email on a Sunday afternoon. Now I feel badly for messing with his free time, and really happy at the same time.

I'm counting down the minutes until I can call my S. He has a class on Sunday evenings, and has a quiz today. It's also his birthday; the first we have ever not spent together.
it is so hard to be away from your children. my son has been away for over 4 years now. I completely get it MKAC let us know how he did on the quiz.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:00 PM
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I've been sick and trying to ignore it. Don't know how much longer I can ignore it.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:01 PM
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Granite, i think its that simple. She is wrong, doesn't understand about radiators, etc. it is NOT her not believing you, i firmly believe that.

Look at you, figuring yourself out!!! It is good for you to look at it, in tiny glimpses I think. Of course you are going to get severly triggered when this stuff comes up because it is absolute awful what your mother did to you. You shut down very easily and quickly (and understandably!!), and don't give your T much time to capitulate on everything you are saying. I think you shrink down to survivor mode and can only think either "she hates me" or "she doesn't believe me," when in fact she has said things to you that very clearly indicates that she knows awful things went on.

is this therapist a trauma therapist?
yes .in fact has a masters and specializes in childhood trama.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:03 PM
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Granite..the other thing to consider is that maybe her firm/Stern tone of voice could be upset and frustration over what happened to you and at those who hurt you.
it could be .I really don't know .I just shut down and see and hear what I want. but I am quite sure she was stern. but it could be frustration at me not responding to her.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:09 PM
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Ughh... I so wish my H would offer to go to the grocery store for me. He knows that my knee is killing me... He asked if it was bad when I groaned getting into the car after standing so long at the verizon store... and then asked if I was going to make it to the house when we got home but no offer to go to the store for me...

I think I'm not going tonight... I have a little milk left for my son's cereal in the morning or there are eggs for H to make him... other than that I'm not concerned...everything else can just wait...
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:09 PM
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The weekend went by way too quickly. It's already almost bedtime, then for another week of work. Please don't let there be any "escallated arguments" (between students)this week...I don't feel like being a referee again. I don't need that stress right now. Maybe pdoc is right and EBD (emotional/behavioral kids) is not a "good" place for me. He never said because of the stress, but he did say in September at my last appointment that it was not a good place for me when I told him that's where I was this year. I assumed he was speaking of stress. T agreed that pdoc was probably referring to the stress level, but said she did not share that view as she sees that I can handle it and knows me a little better than pdoc since she sees me more often. Maybe it is just the work stress on top of my kitty stress right now that is taking a toll on me?

Whatever it is...I want it to stop, so I can get back to my life.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:11 PM
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RTS - is there a reason you don't just ask (or tell) him to go to the store?
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:13 PM
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H is busy watching a race on TV... I guess I'll go load the dishwasher and finish the laundry so that I can take some ibuprofen and go to sleep as soon as possible.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:14 PM
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RTS-as much as I wanted my H to just do stuff without being asked, I realized after 7 years of marriage that it's just not his process and the way he thinks so I started telling him flat out what I need and when.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:14 PM
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RTS - is there a reason you don't just ask (or tell) him to go to the store?
Because going to the store is my job (not assigned but assumed) and I would rather crawl on my hands with an amputataed leg than ask him to do anything "for me"...

I know I know... but its how I feel about it and if I have to be in pain for an hour or have to feel beholdened to him... I'd rather be in pain so I will stop complaining.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:16 PM
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RTS - Could you take the ibuprofen and go to bed now? Can your sons help with the dishes and laundry while your husband goes to the store? You are HURT/INJURED. That means your family needs to help you out.
I am not trying to be unkind here, but I think you could up your expectations for help in this instance if not in general.

Edited - you responded while I wrote the above.
He can help you out and you not be beholdened to him. You do not have to take that on.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:18 PM
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I can't ask people to do things for me... I just can't

I'll stop complaining.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:20 PM
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Does he eat the food also, Ready? If so, he is NOT doing it "for you." It's, "if you want to eat this week, you need to be the one to go to the store TONIGHT."
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:20 PM
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RTS - I hope you feel better with your knee soon.
I am sorry if I was too pushy.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:28 PM
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How can I be tired?!?

I slept off and on all day long, except when I was eating or was occassionally on PC. Maybe I slept too much? Is that possible?

Well...I may be retiring to bed soon. I don't feel like showering, but I know I should. I did last night though, so it wouldn't be the end of the world if I skipped tonight. I could just use body spray and dry shampoo tomorrow. Then I would have "clean" hair and smell decent. I think I may do that, as I don't think I can muster up the energy to get into the shower.

I'll stay here a little longer, but it is definitely off to bed soon.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:30 PM
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Can I just have quiet whinge in the corner here and say this would have been my hour with T but govt stuffed it up. *creeps back between the cushions*
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:31 PM
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Yea. I'm beat. I'm off to hit the hay. Night couch.

I hope everyone (who it is night for right now) sleeps well.

To everyone who it is daytime for right now...I hope the day treats you right.

Squirrel is over and out.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:32 PM
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No one is being too pushy... I know its my issue... I can't ask for anyone to do something for me...

its just me with my martyr syndrome...complaining about something I have no intentions of changing so I am sorry.

The Colts are on... so there will only be movement between the TV refrigerator and bathroom for the next few hours...
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 08:57 PM
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moving on.... please
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 09:11 PM
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I just finished Goodbye, Columbus. I am tremendously underwhelmed. National Book Award, really? I did like the other short stories much better than the titled novella.
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Old Nov 03, 2013, 09:12 PM
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Couch 65...Where all the fun is!

saw this and thought I'd share, as you are all beautiful in my book
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