The Couch - Welcome to the Psychedelic 70's

(((jersey)))
I wish I could come over and shovel your walk. (Wishes are cheap, I know that. And I can't shovel snow because of my back. Still.)

(((((mast))))

Hey couch! Just got home from a long day on the road for a basketball day.. H is heading out to a youth event at church, and I am home getting ready to make dinner, clean, and wash my kids Then, I have to wrap birthday presents.. my son turns 4 tomorrow!!!!! No more babies in this house, makes me sad. I am hearing more and more reports about how being so busy isn't a good thing.. runs you down, stresses you out, etc... but I have to say.. being this busy for the last almost two months has really helped me distract my mind from the bad thoughts, and helped me not to feel so disappointed that T appointments have been few and far between in the last couple of weeks!

Congrats to wiki's D
Jersey- glad you are seeking med help, that is my next step (again)
Mast- I hope your weekend is going well
Lola- I hope you are getting a break from work, and enjoying your weekend, I miss you lady!

Off to clean!

Couch is quiet tonight.

Perhaps the cold has sent everyone into hibernation.

Hibernation sounds good... I tried to do that today... I layed down at 5pm but was up by 8pm. I'm trying to talk myself into going to bed again.....before I say something way too honest to H... unfortunately I am not tired.

Hi. Just got back home. Feel like hibernating now. Ate too much. Got a mattress...it's coming Thursday.

Wiki...yay D!
RTS...don't hurt H.
Jersey...
Healed...busy does distract, but puts your body in fight/flight/freeze mode.
CE...our mattress is 27 years old. My grandmother bought it when I was 9. I remember asking at the time, "Grandmama, is there a board in your mattress?" It was that hard. I couldn't jump on it.

Hi couch. Been a while since I have been on. I had jury duty all day on Tuesday. Then I went to work on Wednesday only to get sick midday and leave early. Called doc but they couldn't fit me in until the next morning. Went to dr Thursday morning and ended up with a sinus infection. He told me I should feel better in 72 hours once the antibiotic kicked in. I went home and slept the rest of the day. Woke up the next morning and still felt horrible, so I stayed home again. Thank God I have over 200 hours of sick time saved up over the years. I am feeling much better today. I should be able to go back to work on Monday, especially since I still have tomorrow to rest.

I hate being sick. But I think everyone does. I blame the hot cold hot cold hot cold from one day to the next as the cause of me getting sick.

The only thing that kind of "bugs" me about the new PCP I have been seeing is how he addresses me. He is only 39 and he addresses me with terms as if he were my grandparents age. Either that or extremely southern, but he went to school in ny and maine, so it's not a southern thing causing it.

The first time I was in for followup to the uti after being in urgent care, he called me "sweetie". When I was in for the nausea and sore throat about 2 weeks ago, he referred to me as "my dear". And when I was in there on Thursday, he called me "hun". I've never had someone so young use those terms with me. And I have never had a doctor use those terms to address me. It just seems a little odd to me. But maybe he is just trying to be friendly. I dunno.

Well, my phone is about to die so I better go charge it.

I hope everyone has a decent rest of the weekend.

I'm home now cozy warm. I plan to hibernate tomorrow.

RTS....there were plenty of times I was way too honest with my H. Usually after that we have a blow up an don't speak for like a week or 2.

If doctors or others use terms like hun at me, I usually first try telling them not to do so, then if they persist - I call them son or dear or bunny or something back. It has worked for me.

I am watching reruns of Wonder Woman. It was truly awful. Lynda Carter is hot, but the writing and the acting are appalling. Funny though.

What did I do before children and the internet? I need a radical life change. I know I'm always thinking this but I WILL take action sooner than later.

No medical person has ever called me "hun" or "sweetie" Older men over here used to be notorious for calling women "sweetheart"

Excellent strategy. Whenever I see the word "hun" used in writing I want to respond "Just call me Attila". (The first few times I saw it I didn't even realise that it was an alternative spelling of "hon".)

In Swedish, terms of endearment can't be used by people who are not very close. There is no slot in the language that those terms could fill, with people like doctors or shop assistants, unless they are talking to a very small child. The people who can use terms corresponding to "hun" are family, romantic partners, or extremely close friends. (Except there were no such terms in my family of origin, so it varies there, too.)

And this reminds me that I need to be working on that conference presentation about address terms....

my NP calls me hon ,sweety,dear all the time and she is always blessing my heart for some reason . I don't mind I know she is from texas and I think that is how it is down there. it kind of makes me feel cared for in a way.

T calls me sweety sometimes. But that's it. There are a few times where others in the same age range use "hon" or something like that but honestly I don't read into it.

Yeah, it would definitely creep me out if my therapist used any kind of terms of endearment when talking to me. I think it's interesting how things like the way people talk to each other varies depending on which country you're in.

actually I think if my T started calling me those names I guess that might make me a bit uncomfortable. although I don't know what the difference is and why

It usually only bothers me when men do it to me.

I can wait no longer.... I have to finish my tax return and work on the FASFA and Profile today.

I woke up with a headache and feeling stressed so it seems I'm in the appropriate mood for working on those things...

I have billing to do. I will end up stressed and with a headache.

Hmmm...maybe I should try saying not to, but with how many patients drs see each day and that it's not like a T where you go in once a week...if he would be able to remember. I laughed about calling them names back. I would feel extremely weird doing that (probably because I am young). I wish I would be able to bring myself to do that.

Perhaps it would help him not be patronizing to women even if he did not remember it was you.

Exactly...if someone is from Texas, Alabama, Georgia, etc. I would say it's just how it is where they are from. Not when they are from Maine though. I would find it hard to believe that they do things like that in the NE. Unless maybe his family is southern and his parents had to move up there for work or something. I dunno, it just creeps me out. It would be like my brother's friends using those terms toward me...they are about my drs age.

True...maybe it would.

What else does everyone got to do today?

I'm going to buy white paint and drop covers so that I can paint this place white. (it was white when we moved in) shouldn't take that long..it's just a one floor 1235 square foot condo. I won't paint today but will over the next couple weekends. It's just 2 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms and living room/kitchen (it's an open floor plan).

Should only take 2 or 3 weekends. Then I can clean the rugs...then I can find a new place and move. I want to get it all done before I find a place so I don't feel under pressure and rushed to be out by a certain date. I'm mostly already packed from when H lost his job that time. Just have every day stuff out and no clutter. I want to go ASAP. I'll need a co-signer though or I won't get approved for anything. I'll ask H's dad to do that.

My thoughts won't slow down. Stop stop stop.