Haven't got T until Jan 8....slowly but surely I am loosing my centre....its like my feeling of "self" is leaking away...my purpose drains away and I can't seem to "hold" thoughts of the sessions....I loose who I am ....it feels like I'm coming a part inside....why:? if this is how its always gonna be like this how does one ever quit T? anyone got any useful tips for pulling oneself back together again?

[jacq10]

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i know what you mean ... i dont have my T until then either .... but just know that you are not going to loose who you are. Do you do any type of journaling? Because that can be very helpful just getting your thoughts out there. Or just imagine yourself sitting down with your T. Try picturing what she might say to you. When you feel really lost just try and put yourself in her position. What would you say to yourself? Sometimes looking withing yourself to find comfort and support is the hardest thing, but you can do it.

Wishing you well
Jacq

[kimmydawn]

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It's hard.

For me, I think the only way to successfully quit is to remember that someone is always available if and when needed then take it day by day.

I hope this next couple of weeks pass quickly. If you start feeling too bad, maybe contact a hotline to speak with someone, or come here and keep talking.

KD

Hey guys, I understand too. My t doesn't get back until around then either.

I think the journelling suggestion is a really good idea :-) If you write with your t reading it in mind it might help you feel more connected?

That being said... I'm not sure about that for me... One thing he did suggest was that I do mindfulness exercises. That is something I can do to hopefully feel a bit more connected... I've been thinking about writing something for him. Not sure whether it will help or harm. I think I might because I find it hard to get some things out... I also want to tell him some of my thinking on what is up with me. So he understands a bit more where I am coming from and what my thoughts are. He can disagree if he wants too ;-)

I have trouble with object constancy. Or maybe that is the wrong word. There are two notions that I get confused... Anyway the idea is that people continue to exist even when they are out of sight. Well... A slightly more sophisticated version... They are still around and they still care even when they are away on holiday.

Thanks guys....I did journal....I wrote as if someone close to me had just died...and yes the feelings are akin to grief...T always says I won't let myelf "feel" how much her miss her....and I get that kind of "duh" feeling when she says that.....then I looked up grief and thats when it hit me.....I didn't know what grief felt like....because as T so rightly says....I don't let myself "feel"....I spoke to my H about how does he feel around not having his mother and what does he do?....he just strugged and said "I just wait for it to pass"....this morning I feel myself again....and do feel so much better for having Identified the feelings....and for being honest with myself and others about it.

that is great :-) it really sounds like progress :-)

you can just ignore this if you like. if it doesn't sound right or whatever but...

i'm wondering if grieving for your t is part of your transfering your feelings for someone else onto your t. perhaps your grief is really about someone from your past who went away?