Couch 82: If you're happy and you know it, be a number!

I just heard the saddest thing I have heard from my daughters. We were discussing Christmas at my place and I was saying we need to make room for their dad, not that his staying or anything. My eldest daughter said she didn't want her dad to come for Christmas. I thought this was a bit rough and tried to explain. We needed room for everyone.. It was only then that she is frightened of him.

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I'm worried about Alone, she had just lost her job and was in a pretty bad place when she went MIA...

I hate my family I just hate them . why do I have to be in this miserable Fedup world anyway it sure would be better off without me and a hell of a lot less painful .I am just so expendable again to everyone in my life .I hate the fact that I continually convince myself that i have changed enough for people to no longer see me this way only to be reminded this is not true . idont know if i can do any more. i just am who i am and im expendable i cant change that and i am just tired

how can you tell someone how much they hurt you . in my life it only makes people angrier at you. if i did say something all i would get back is a bunch of swears and omg now i need to worry about your feelings also ,as if i don't have enough to deal with .

so i say nothing just like i am suppose to . keep the piece ,be expendable . be the better invisible person so everyone else can deal with everyone else.

Granite, I'm sorry you feel so bad.

I'm off to have a bath and a glass of wine. Am regretting eating frazzles....

Nice to see you lurking Lola.

What are frazzles?

Granite- can you do your own thing and not get caught up in the family thing?
I do not see my family at holidays and it makes us all much happier. I see them before or after (like oct or feb).

And now for a celebratorial supportive interpretive dance....for everyone who needs it.

yes that is what my husband and i are doing .it is what we use to do for a few years because i stopped doing the family thing .then my farther stopped doing the family thing and we started going to the casino to not do the holiday family thing .it was starting to be a tradition and no stress from other family . but now my farther and stepmother are smozing up an estranged uncle of hers that is in his 90s and about to die and even thhoe they had already said we were going to the casino the uncle they are after his money wants to go to this crappy church dinner and asked my stepmother to take him so family time with me is now once again not important .i have nothing to offer my family except someone to just be horrible to . to use when there is nothing else to do .i know it is irrational and all but i hate them for who they are and i hate me for who i am . and i now once again hate holidays . why would i ever believe i was ever important to him anyway .im so F ing stupid .i really am

I am sorry to hear your father let you down. That is painful indeed.

it was totally me .i was happy doing nothing with my family .i let myself get dragged in by him to believe things i had no business believing .i assure you it will not happen again

I've just applied for a job on line. That always perks me up. Work from home anywhere in the world, apparently.

Working from home is great except it can get a bit lonely.

I am watching a scary version of The Christmas Carol.

Arent they all?? (Esp for the goose.) Which one?

I'm watching some show about biblical conspiracies. how in the world can anybody think they know what michelangelo was thinking when he created these things?! Whatev. TV is annoying me tonight.

I already do that four days a week. I can cope.

The disney claymation (I don't know what the type of animation is really called) one. I have moved on to BlackAdder. Much more fun.
Next will be a comparison of Messiah performances over the next few days.

I did not doubt you could cope. I was surprised that I missed colleagues when I worked alone at home for a couple of years before I started teaching. It always surprises me when I respond like a human to certain things. It is hard to be the office curmudgeon when one is the only one in the office.

I work from home also. I don't mind it though because working elsewhere was harder due to my social anxiety.

I find it hard for other reasons such as separating work from family.

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happy holidays to all. I'm packing to head back east.

have a safe trip.

Hope everyone's family behaves….mine included!!!

My son is home for the holiday!! He is so tall. He grew while he was away at college. I guess I sort of knew that boys keep growing after high school because someone I went to high school with went from 5'9" to 5'11" the year after we graduated, but I didn't really think about it. My son is over 6 feet now.

My kitten has a deep scratch on his cornea. One of the older cats whacked him. So now the kitten needs eye drops every hour that we are home and awake. His eye hurts too, so he has pain meds, but keeps coming to me and asking to be picked up and cuddled. I have spent a lot of time carrying him everywhere. It's like when my son was little and would fuss as soon as his feet hit the ground. I am re-learning how to do things one handed. Of course, then I have to put drops in and he gets upset and runs away when I'm done. So far, he has forgiven me within ten minutes or so and is back asking to be held. It is going to be a long week.