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#427
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I am celebrating the end of my first day back at work with some extraordinarily good beer and a very good book. Am almost alone in the pub, and I notice that I have become something approaching a regular - the bartender told me she'd bring my beer to my usual table. It feels nice to be a regular here, it's a nice pub with very nice staff, good food, and an excellent beer selection. (I realise I sound as if I'm always drinking, but in reality I seldom drink alcohol more than a couple of times a week. I enjoy good beer, good wine, and good whisky, but I avoid intoxication, because I don't like the feeling of being intoxicated.)
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#428
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I like this discussion! Thanks SD.
Me, I'm okay with being cared-for - on my terms. If a therapist tries to force me into the mould of their idea of the kind of care I need I'm going to shut down and fight them every inch of the way. The kind of care I need involves being listened to and having my opinions respected. If my T can do that, then I will allow myself to be cared-for. He seems to be doing a decent job of it for the most part, and if he ever effs up, I'm pretty quick to tell him to BTFO. Being cared-for doesn't mean losing power and autonomy for me. If anything, it's the exact opposite - I'm with Lolagrace on that one... Where is the original article btw? Somebody mentioned it was sickly sweet... So I do see the point, I can't stand syrupiness either... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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That sounds heavenly Mast...
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Sounds amazing. I'd probably prefer a coffee shop to a pub simply because I don't like noise. But I would love to be able to stop at a coffee shop after work, with a book... Oh wait... I work at home and have two kids here bugging me. lol. It'll never happen, but I can dream i suppose.
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Apparently people are always surprised at how bad my depression is. My PDoc emailed my T (they're in the same clinic) and because he wanted to understand what my situation was better. He said I was engaging and even laughing. My T explained it to him, but my pdoc isn't the first one to react like that.
Is it so hard to believe that I've lived with depression long enough that I don't want to walk around moping? I just compartmentalize my depression. I still feel it, but at the same time, I can laugh at a joke even if the laughter is kind of surface level. Does that make sense to anyone else?
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#433
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I have also tried explaining to my pdoc that while the depression sucks, my anxiety is a much, much worse feeling for me. I don't think he gets that, tho.
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It is extremely cold here and the dogs are wound up but don't want to be outside in the wind. One is running around with a squeaky toy - he is so happy about it but the squeaking is doing me in. I shall try throwing it for him for a few minutes and then hopefully we can all go back to not squeaking.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
#435
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My T says a lot of depressed people mope. Idk. Maybe I need to mope more??
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It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of. ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed |
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Maybe your pdoc was just trying to understand how you (specifically) deal with being depressed? Because just as we are discussing here, I do think people handle it very differently. One of my Ts has commented on people who walk around with "a dark cloud of depression" over their heads...and said that I was not one of them. He also said that I don't really complain (not sure if that's moping exactly, but it made me think of it). I know for myself there is stuff I still have to take care of regardless of how I feel, so I focus on that a lot of the time. I also had to work for quite awhile feeling like absolute crap and got used to faking it day after day...it was exhausting, but I got used to acting like everything was "fine."
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#437
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Hey Granite, how did it go yesterday?
My sessions have been really intense. I am trying to stay in control of myself while dealing with stuff with my mother. T used the "trigger" word a lot. I hate that word. However it is true that things that are happening with her are hitting old stuff and I am having pretty horrible memories and flashbacks. Things are just hard right now. |
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![]() Yeah. I don't have the cloud either. People are always asking how I cured my depression and I'm like, WTF? Uh. No. Not even close to cured. At all. My T says I try to control how I feel. Maybe that's part of it.
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It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of. ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed |
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Even when I broke my arm and thought I was doing a good job of telling the hospital people that I was in great pain and needed help, I was apparently not acting appropriately. I was told I did not act like someone with a broken arm (apparently because I drove myself to the hospital and was conversing with them calmly). Then, despite me saying my pain was a level 8, and I was in significant pain, they did not offer anything for the pain. When the doctor finally showed up and was in disbelief that the nurses had not given me pain medication, the nurse shrugged and said, "she didn't act like it hurt." The doctor was yelling at her -- "it is completely broken! It hurts. You cannot expect everyone to react the same way to pain." She just shrugged again. |
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It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of. ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed |
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That nurse sounds like a sadist.
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![]() I have generally found that people are clueless about the well-being (or not) of other people if it's not something physical and obvious that can be seen. And I have control issues, too. ![]()
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Yes. I've not been dealing with depression nearly as long as yourself, but I definitely hide it the same way. I laugh and put on a show for others. I save my depression for myself.
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How many more comedians have to sui before they realize... - okay, quit pointing at me, "just one hankster, that should do it, thanks for volunteering, gee youre great!" Very funny youse guys
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#445
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I'm hilarious. It's how I deal with pain, even physical pain. When I was birthing my last child (no meds), in between contractions (and even pushing contractions), I'd crack jokes. I always tell people, the more I make you laugh, the more in pain I am. It's a weird coping mechanism, I know.
Hmmm. I should lie on my Pdoc's couch ![]()
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It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of. ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed |
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#446
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And wow re: the nurse treating you that way...that's terrible. I would have started getting really angry at about the point when they didn't offer any pain medication! I have had to wait for pain meds when I was going through the ER for kidney stones...they were asking me a billion unimportant questions and I could barely speak it hurt so much...and I have a high tolerance for pain.
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"Take me with you, I don't need shoes to follow, Bare feet running with you, Somewhere the rainbow ends, my dear." - Tori Amos |
#447
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I just made successful char siu pork belly buns. Red bean curd is some really odd stuff and I left the pork in the marinade a bit more than the recipe called for - but delicious.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#448
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Yeah. This. I'm finding myself doing a lot of ranting lately about things that should be obvious. I'm another one who'd be cracking jokes in the middle of the apocalypse. How do people cope otherwise? I don't get it. If I couldn't find something to laugh about I probably would be sui... My depression has been classified as mild/moderate. I call bs on that. I'm practically the poster child for ignoring pain. I nearly didn't make it to the hospital when I was having my daughter because I wasn't sure if I was in labor or not. Well, this hurts, but it's not that bad... ![]() Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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'... At poor peace I sing To you strangers (though song Is a burning and crested act, The fire of birds in The world's turning wood, For my sawn, splay sounds,) ...' Dylan Thomas, Author's Prologue |
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#449
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mkac, I'm sorry things are so hard.
![]() I have T tomorrow, first session after the break. I'm not sure how I feel about it. I survived Christmas and New Years, but am not sure I'm happy that I did. I feel kind of dead inside. |
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And Stopdog is making me hungry again...
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'... At poor peace I sing To you strangers (though song Is a burning and crested act, The fire of birds in The world's turning wood, For my sawn, splay sounds,) ...' Dylan Thomas, Author's Prologue |