Couch 83: In a world where...

This is so true. I didn't know it for myself until I had a friend come with me, and her experience of the session was entirely different and non-sinister. It was all my own state of mind at the time that gave me a different experience and memory of it. I wouldn't have known, though, if she hadn't gone with me and had the guts/kindness to clear things up.

Ideally, I think a T should keep notes that they can review before a session. I don't expect my T to remember a lot and will often, without his prompting, simply include refresher information as a matter of course. I know he remembers more than I probably give him credit for, but six years is a lot of information.

He remembers the main things, but sometimes bits and pieces get lost in translation. Some people have a mind for detail, like me (which was vital for me growing up), others don't. I suck at remembering things long term unless I have a regular relationship with someone. I will literally forget someone's name within a year if I haven't interacted with them in some form.

I would probably have to keep a very detailed log book if I were a T.

in a way im talking about stuff like ,my T said this would be a good topic to talk more about next session( the mother thing) then wont remember she said that and wont bring it up at all. im kind of hoping for that

Figured it out. Yay!

I hope your session today went well.

What made me ramble off the couch and try and be helpful in a general forum and expect my help would be acknowledged ... I must be bonkers!

I love your new cat avatar, it looks like cartman's kitty on southpark.

I also love that new tv commercial where one roommate comes in and swipes the other roommates lucky charms or whatever, and the robbed roommate goes in a total cartman voice, "very funny, kyle!" Its just so unexpected.

Hello couch! I'm home from surgery wrapped from hip to toe like a mummy, high as a kite from pain meds, and too wired to sleep.

Tomorrow is PT so that should be fun, NOT! And I'm able to put weight on it as tolerated, the crutches are for stability. I would have preferred a walker, but whatever.

I'm glad it's done and once healed I should be able to cross my legs and walk 10 steps without pain. I've been in pain since September so it's almost become a companion. I feel for people with chronic pain!

Hope everyone is okay. Granite how was your session? SD you've been quiet today. Shakey any more sneak attack room inspections? I know I'm leaving lots of you un-named, but my thoughts aren't clear, forgive me.

Off to the general threads, hope I stay out of trouble

Thanks. I like it too.

lol never seen that one yet.

Glad you're home. Hope tomorrow goes well for you.

Tomorrow will be a very sad day for me because it is the viewing and funeral for my friend's father.

I just read a therapist who called therapy a caregiver/cared-for relationship.
I am so horrified by that description as to almost be spluttering in how amazingly wrong I think that description is.

Stressed - I hope the physical therapy is not too horrible. (Just horrible enough to help).
I have had friends go through knee and hip surgery and usually it was not terrible for them.

I think of my therapist and my pdoc as my mental health caregivers. I've never used the "caregiver/cared-for" phrase though (never have seen it actually). I'm not sure I like the "cared-for" part that much; I take an active role in my mental health, so "cared-for" seems like a bit of a helpless label to me. But I don't mind the caregiver title being given to T and pdoc. Seems natural to me.

I shall have to make sure the ones I see do not view the situation thusly. It may give me nightmares.
On the other hand, I find it so upsetting that insomnia may keep the nightmares at bay. Caregiver is the last thing I think of the therapist as being. And as for being the cared-for - words fail.

No nightmares here I don't think. I'm just so tired I don't feel like I'll dream at all. Spent the evening helping my high schooler with a project over Martin Luther (the theologian -- not King) in German for his German class. It's been way too many years since I took German. I think I sprained my brain. Night folks.

I just can't stand up and look reality in the face.today....it is gut wrenching.....

(((((BPA)))))

Lolagrace I may borrow your phrase, I think I know exactly what a sprained brain feels like!

SD I've heard PT described as horrible and therapists described as sadists, but I've never needed it before so I'll reserve judgment until I'm able to walk without crutches again.

Your article on the caregiver/cared-for relationship and that syrupy description gave me a sick feeling in my stomach. I'm not feeling it! I can't even begin to describe how wrong that term is, shudder. A business relationship should never have such connotations!

I bought a stylus for my iPad thinking it was a good idea at the time as it has a pen in it. But everything I would need a pen for, there is an app that covers it. I must learn to think these things through.
Hugs to all.

I'm using way to much alcohol and a variety of drugs to escape reality and myself. Now my t's away for three and a half weeks. She deserves the break, but boy am I glad I have a back up. Guess I'm just feeling empty and lost at the moment

Caregiver- still boggling.
And awful for them to think of themselves like that.

Also boggled when people think they get to tell me what is me or not.

I find my stylus pen useful. I do use the pen part a lot.

Thats interesting. I think my previous ts would have agreed with you. They were pretty adamant about making therapy adult-to-adult. It always felt like they were smirking at me, like they knew something i didnt know. But my current t was willing to work with the neglected inner child who was coming to the fore, and was taking over. I kinda feel like i am living life backwards. I was super responsible at a very young age, ignoring my feelings. Now im learning to take care of myself. Someday i might even ask for help? Idk - that sounds crazy.

I see the caretaker thing as being more smirky. I don't see adult to adult as smirky.