How affected would T be?.......

If I just up and quit? I wonder would she feel as if she had lost someone? Would she shrug her shoulders and carry on?? I wonder? I think I may have to ask her, but am afraid she will give me a very noncodpendent response that I will die would her reply be something like "Well I dont think now is the time for you to quit, but I can't make you stay" and then I'd feel "let down"

I think, if you're going to ask her :-) it's only fair if you ask her the entire question as you asked here, tell her what you're wondering, so she has some clues what you are wishing for? Worded as "what if. . ." doesn't give any clues where you're coming from or wishing to go. However, if you said, "How would you feel if. . ." I doubt seriously she'd let you down :-) I think T's try to pay attention to the emotion/action happening. Answering "how would you feel" with a non sequitur about not time for you to leave therapy. . . does not sound likely to me. However, she could "counter" :-) with "why do you ask?" or some other clarifying question (maybe not "why" as those usually aren't helpful questions to ask).

hahaha, i can't read your posts anymore because every time i do, I'm like... "hey.... that's a good idea..." now i want to ask my t that.

i think you should ask her.... it's a risk, just like anything is in therapy... you will probably have the courage.

if i ask my t, he won't answer. i will say, "how would you feel if i just quit?" and he will say, "how do you think i would feel?" and then i would kill him. wait, no. but i would end up getting frustrated and cursing at him.

last session he said that he knew some of the feelings i was experiencing, but he wanted me to identify them. i was getting so frustrated at the fact that apparently knew more about me that i did. i literally almost jumped out of the chair to choke him.

mouse, it would be interested for you to weigh the consequences of what you think her answer will be. it's a risky question; don't know if i could attempt it. i want the assurance... i want him to say, "i would be devastated and i would close my practice. DON'T DO THIS TO ME!!" but that is fantasy, and to deal with the reality is a much more risky thing.

I am just so scared offffffffffffffffffff what??????????????????? that I make myself look silly!!! the fear is soooooooooooooo real that I don't envision a time when it isn't so real!!....I know she's already said that I am a pleasure to work with...but its like I need more now!!! feed me I'm hungry!!!! but hey wait a minute....what if its not really about how SHE feels about me but how mum felt about me way way back.....but I dont want this to be about mum....I want it to be about T!!....but its gonna be about mummy I just know it!! LOL

Well of course it is Mouse.....

Perhaps you could ask her if you could just talk to her and leave your mother out of it. LOL.

I think we all have the desire to be cared for by our mothers and our therapists. I think it is o.k. to tell her that you would like to be cared for. Are you still developing trust or is there something going on that you could use a little extra fluffiness right now?

Hug to Mouse.

I think it depends. Some clients I'm sure they might feel less attached to and others more.

They will NEVER admit to this though. So it depends perhaps on how long you've seen the therapist and the progress made.

If therapy is successful and termination is gradual, I'll bet they do go through the same upset feelings we do.

secretgarden, Sorry but your gonna have to be SG from now on LOL but yes I guess I'm STILL developing trust with T EVEN though its been over 2 and half yrs I've been with her.

Almeda, You know put like that, I expect that maybe they may just do suffer a sense of loss too!

oh have I mentioned its my birthday today???? LOL

Happy Birthday to you Happy Birthday to you Happy birthday dear Mouse, Happy birthday to you

LOL thank you!!

Happy Happy Happy..... Happy....

SG...that b fine with me.

Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear Mouse...happy birthday to you...and many more!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOUSE! LOL, MINE IS ACTUALLY TOMORROW!!!

ok the table is set, the cheescake is waiting, your ((ALL)) Invited! :-)

Pinksoil, We're both Tauraus :-)

Hello Mouse. Happy Birthday to you. Have a great day today. Soidhonia

<font color="red">Happy Birthday, mouse!!! </font>

I once told my current T about when I was seeing this psychiatrist back when I was in college and abruptly quit going to see him. This was in the days when psychiatrists did more than just prescribe drugs. I went to him for psychotherapy ostensibly, although I had known him first as a friend (talk about boundary oddities!). Anyway, we had a rift, at least in my mind, and I stopped seeing him with no explanation. I told my current T that and he said "didn't he call you to find out what was going on?" And I said no. So I had the impression that if I suddenly terminated with no warning to my current T, he would call me to talk about it and find out why.

happy birthday (((mouse)))

Firstly, <font color="red"> </font> HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!

Second, I love your question! Seems like a transference thing to me and if it was me I'd def. ask it. I'd hope my t would not respond in the here and now, I'd hope she wouldn't tell me how SHE would feel if I left. I'd hope she'd inquire and elicit from me about my wish, what I would WANT her to feel about a separation, and perhaps talk about how I would've wanted mum to feel about our separation...and perhaps mourn the lack of it....

And I do understand your desire to hear from her, in the here and now, as your t and not as your mum.....perfectly understandable....

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