Advice is possible please

Hi I know this question might have been covered lots of times but I'm quite new here and just hoping for a little advice please.
I am currently receiving EMDR therapy, but I have got to a situation where my inner child self is so scared its not opening up. I feel that I need to try and support myself so that I might actually progress because I just seem to be looping and dissociating, but I just really don't know how to do this. If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it, hope what I have asked makes sense.

Just a thought- how much do you trust your therapist? And how much does your child trust your adult self? Is your adult self able to be kind to your child? Maybe it will come with time and your memories are too painful to process yet? Of course I don't have the answers but I'm in a similar boat and this is what I guess some of my reasons are. My t tells me not to push; to relax. But I'm not specifically in EMDR. I have been recommended for it, but I don't want to leave my current t. And the EMDR therapists I've spoken to say the trust is very important and might take a lot of time.

I too have this issue... My PTSD is severe and keeps me from being able to be hypnotized or undergo EMDR. I do know when I talk to the little one and give her lots of reasons to trust the strong woman she backs off a little and let's go. Practice, Practice, Practice is key for me to trust. I hope you find a way to let go a little so you can get the benefit of EMDR as I have seen amazing results from others who have undergone this therapy!

Thank you, for your messages.
Its difficult because I normally have a phobia of women particularly in any sort of power, so to start with I really struggled with this with her but I have done some mindfulness based therapy with her and it is odd to say but I do really trust her. she said she senses I have issues being watched, I want to get over this but I guess it will come with time. I try to be kind to my child self but I do sometimes find it hard, so maybe it is me that I don't trust. I need to keep working on it, thank you

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Trusting both yourself and your T when doing EMDR seems like it would be one of the biggest factors of EMDR (after establishing safety). Does your T have any ideas on how she can help you move through this? Can you pause to establish more trust and re-establish a sense of safety before continuing with more EMDE?

I have a week off next week and she said we probably need to take things slower, in the meantime I need to practice telling both my child and adult self that things are ok, I'm safe and can trust myself and to try and be kind to my child self. I'm just wanting to give myself the best chance possible that's why I was wondering how other people do this. I'm so thankful for the replies I have had, doesn't make me feel quite so alone in this.

Looping and dissociating are naturally protective things your brain does during EMDR. It's actually a good thing, so be kind with yourself and give yourself some patience in this. There are no right way or wrong ways to react to EMDR, your brain will take on only so much as it is ready for. Your T is probably right, she needs to slow down a bit and maybe target the memory or feeling from a different perspective. I've been here many times during EMDR work. I've been doing EMDR for over 6 years. It is scary sometimes but my T allowed me to progress at my own rate. Sometimes it takes many sessions to break through. Your brain naturally knows how much it can take at once, so allowing this to happen at your own pace, whatever it may be, will eventually allow you to trust more and more going to those areas and keeps you functioning outside of therapy too. It sounds like you are doing great work!