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Old Dec 09, 2015, 01:54 AM
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Id say its esp painful to you because of these transference issues. It does NOT help that he cant be consistent. But maybe its easier to fight with him in the present than to deal with the old pain? Stg like that?

I wish NOW that i had accepted that i was an outsider to my own family, but i couldnt face it 30, 40 years ago, when it could have made a difference in my life. Now its easy. Nobody cares now.
Funny you say about the outsider, i was working up to eplaining to my T how we were the children of the black sheep of the family and felt it in every aspect of our lives. You know, as a kid people don't say things outright but the general feeling is there.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 02:00 AM
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((((unaluna)))) Thanks for the chat and words of wisdom. Don't go getting a swollen head OK?
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 02:07 AM
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Funny you say about the outsider, i was working up to eplaining to my T how we were the children of the black sheep of the family and felt it in every aspect of our lives. You know, as a kid people don't say things outright but the general feeling is there.
Hmm. Maybe thats why my mother waited so long (i was over 50!) to tell me that my older brother had told her i wasnt so smart, that the nuns only gave me A's cuz they liked me. She was hedging her bets - what if i was smart? (I would know to say "were", for one thing!) By then tho i had proven i wasnt, so i guess it was okay to tell me. To say it outright.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 02:08 AM
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((((unaluna)))) Thanks for the chat and words of wisdom. Don't go getting a swollen head OK?
Most ladies hats already dont fit me!
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 02:10 AM
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Most ladies hats already dont fit me!
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 02:57 AM
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BP Artist I hope you are feeling better?

I just read back a few pages. I'm not in a good place and my resiliency is shot to hell. I'm in trouble at work. Both personally and our department is being "looked at". I've been working late and taking work home but I'm being told my productivity is not up to snuff. It feels like a bad dream I can't wake from.

I'm trying to double down at work AND the job search. Very exhausting. So sorry I feel selfish when others are hurting here too. I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up. I have been working so hard for so long and I feel very alone right now.

I hate feeling like the people I work with/for have lost faith in me. I make them tons of money and I am burning out yet it's always "what have you done for me in the last 5 minutes". No career development or support. Keep up or die.

I have been so bad at work life balance. I've been trying to be better about having a life but it's all so overwhelming. Sorry couch, one sad cat.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:02 AM
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Maybe you could write him a letter? Even if it turns out to be hate mail, that would be better than the options you suggest.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:02 AM
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BP Artist I hope you are feeling better?

I just read back a few pages. I'm not in a good place and my resiliency is shot to hell. I'm in trouble at work. Both personally and our department is being "looked at". I've been working late and taking work home but I'm being told my productivity is not up to snuff. It feels like a bad dream I can't wake from.

I'm trying to double down at work AND the job search. Very exhausting. So sorry I feel selfish when others are hurting here too. I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up. I have been working so hard for so long and I feel very alone right now.

I hate feeling like the people I work with/for have lost faith in me. I make them tons of money and I am burning out yet it's always "what have you done for me in the last 5 minutes". No career development or support. Keep up or die.

I have been so bad at work life balance. I've been trying to be better about having a life but it's all so overwhelming. Sorry couch, one sad cat.
Don't feel selfish. I hope things get better for you soon.
Thanks I am feeling a bit better.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:03 AM
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No I see psychiatrists throughthe public mental health service who take forever to do anything. They are hopeless anyway
There's still your GP.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:04 AM
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Maybe you could write him a letter? Even if it turns out to be hate mail, that would be better than the options you suggest.
thanks I might do that.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:12 AM
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I hate feeling like the people I work with/for have lost faith in me. I make them tons of money and I am burning out yet it's always "what have you done for me in the last 5 minutes". No career development or support. Keep up or die.

I have been so bad at work life balance. I've been trying to be better about having a life but it's all so overwhelming. Sorry couch, one sad cat.
((GC))

Good luck with your job search!

"If you can keep your head when all around are losing theirs and blaming it on you, it's time to look for another job."
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 03:41 AM
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Thanks CE. I'm so worried about being fired. I've been laid off, but never ever fired.
It feels like a bad dream, to work like this and be told its never enough
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 04:52 AM
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Waking up at 4 is a bitter pill to swallow when the alarm doesn't go off until 5:30. I'll be dragging all day! Good early morning couch!
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 08:02 AM
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Almost work o'clock. I've had caffeine, made 2 trips in the cold car, had a slight cuddle with the kitties (alas no pics) and now I'm semi-awake. Hope the couch got a better start for their Wednesday!
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 09:21 AM
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Morning couchies! I have training at work for the next week n a half starting today, and go in an hour later than usual yay. It's training for the new type of calls I'll be taking that go along with my recent promotion.

The kitten stayed out in the house last night for the first time, and was not eaten by the older cat. Progress is being made!

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Old Dec 09, 2015, 09:42 AM
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From what I have noticed from being on here is that the thing most clients require and need is consistency from the T.
Yup, and that is the heart of the problem. They are not naturally consistent, yet their clients need consistency.

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Old Dec 09, 2015, 09:46 AM
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((((unaluna)))) Thanks for the chat and words of wisdom. Don't go getting a swollen head OK?
Think it might be too late...

Hey, ladies' hats don't fit me either...I have a huge head. As a child I could not sit up straight, the head always pulled me to one side or the other.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:01 AM
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Thanks he has said we can do regular fortnightly sessions next year but it starts out that way every year and by about July it all goes screwy. He said he would revise his sceduling...I know they are not perfect but they can be consistent yeah?

Well, I suppose he's consistently screwy at least

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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:03 AM
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Every morning my two younger dogs spend about an hour wrestling in the living room. It sounds like they are killing each other but it is play. Noisy Noisy play.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:11 AM
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(((Growlycat)))
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:13 AM
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Every morning my two younger dogs spend about an hour wrestling in the living room. It sounds like they are killing each other but it is play. Noisy Noisy play.

My cats do that. I yell at them to play nice and they stop and stare at me all like 'wat? us? wat'd we do?!'

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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:14 AM
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Sitting in the vet's waiting room. Younger cat is having his ballectomy. About time too, he's started yowling half the night lately. I thought it was only the girls who did that...

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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:32 AM
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When my cat had his, we brought him home after and he was still a little woozy. We put the dogs outside to keep them from accidentally knocking him over or over licking him and he stood in the living room and yowled and panted a lot. We panicked because we thought he was in pain(never had had a male cat react that way post neutering) and were preparing to take him back to vet so we let the dogs back inside and as soon as he saw the dogs he stopped, curled up next to one of them and slept until the next morning.
He likes his dogs.
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:44 AM
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Was having thoughts of inviting the Phoenix PC clan out to dinner, but it wasn't meant to be
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Old Dec 09, 2015, 10:44 AM
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Can I drive with 0 hours sleep. Wheeeee!
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