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Jan 04, 2016, 08:32 AM

About to head off to work for my first 10 hour day of the year. Thinking positive about it so far! To get me through the week, I have t to look forward to on Saturday. Have a good day/night all!

NowhereUSA · Jan 04, 2016, 10:59 AM

With everything you've been through JS, I'm a little surprised by your T's suggestion. After all that I'd just have a goal of feeling secure and safe within myself and find a place of healing :-/

Jan 04, 2016, 11:16 AM

Well, my physics test didn't go all that well though it didn't go extremely badly either. I think I might have a low passing grade.

Jan 04, 2016, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

I'm currently debating the wisdom of ever venturing into relationship territory again. T made a comment last session that he hoped that I would before the year is out. I'm a little put out at him for it honestly. This divorce is a dramatic nightmare - police reports and custody issues on top of all the usual emotional sh^t. And DV flashbacks. I suppose that's what it is... How in the hell am I supposed to have a 'normal' relationship if I randomly freak out over imaginary threats of violence and/or emotional manipulation.
This year?! This YEAR?!!! Damn T. Try this lifetime.

Okay, breathe Shakey... But you see my point!

I don't think a T should set expected dates/deadlines like that.

12:47 PM

I just saw that a book that I bought second hand (it's in good condition - appears as though it's never been used) about a year and a half ago for 15 euros is offered in my country's biggest webshop for 9,85. New. Oops.

And the stupidest thing is that it wasn't even offered for 15 euros - it was on a flea market and they asked me what I'd be willing to pay. So I said 15 euros.

It's a good book, easily worth 20 or 25 euros I think, but it's still a bit stupid.

JustShakey · 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

With everything you've been through JS, I'm a little surprised by your T's suggestion. After all that I'd just have a goal of feeling secure and safe within myself and find a place of healing :-/

I think he's over-identifying. He's disclosed some stuff that leads me to think that he found healing in relationships (or at least has seen it happen for others) and I suspect he thinks that I would too.
You're right though - I need to feel safe and secure within myself before I go looking for it elsewhere. That's exactly how I got myself into trouble before.
Like I told him before, some people are lucky with relationships, others not so much. I think it's easier for guys too. Yes, some abusers are women, but most are men, it's in the way we're all socialized...

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granite1 · Jan 04, 2016, 12:29 PM

you you ever feel your purpose in life is to be so horrible that mo matter what others around you can only feel better about themselves . i swear growing up it was always about the mother and what would keep her feeling good about herself .i took on that roll to my heart . dont know how not to be that person

atisketatasket · Jan 04, 2016, 04:51 PM

Is it wrong to reject a potential therapist based on the fact that in all her photos online she has chosen a color of lipstick that completely clashes with everything - her hair, her skin tone, her clothes, and so on? It's been applied with a heavy hand too - my first thought was "killer clown."

I just don't think I can look at that for an hour.

Jan 04, 2016, 04:52 PM

As good a reason as any.

Jan 04, 2016, 05:04 PM

Shoot, I would reject her just because she is female.

NowhereUSA · Jan 04, 2016, 05:05 PM

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Shoot, I would reject her just because she is female.

Me tooooooo.

stopdog · Jan 04, 2016, 05:10 PM

I rejected any one who was a man at all or a woman under 60. I wouldn't notice lipstick probably , but if it bothers you, I think finding one who is more successful with make up is a good plan.
I would not have chosen one who used a photo that looked like they used a lot of make-up or a glamour shot.

NowhereUSA · Jan 04, 2016, 05:17 PM

My T's photo on the site for the clinic he works for hasn't been updated in a long time. He looks so young!

CantExplain · Jan 04, 2016, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

I'm currently debating the wisdom of ever venturing into relationship territory again. T made a comment last session that he hoped that I would before the year is out. I'm a little put out at him for it honestly. This divorce is a dramatic nightmare - police reports and custody issues on top of all the usual emotional sh^t. And DV flashbacks. I suppose that's what it is... How in the hell am I supposed to have a 'normal' relationship if I randomly freak out over imaginary threats of violence and/or emotional manipulation.
This year?! This YEAR?!!! Damn T. Try this lifetime.

Okay, breathe Shakey... But you see my point!

I've thought about this a bit more. Sure, your T was clumsy. But she is correct in pointing out that your divorce won't last for ever and it's not your whole life.

CantExplain · Jan 04, 2016, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Is it wrong to reject a potential therapist based on the fact that in all her photos online she has chosen a color of lipstick that completely clashes with everything - her hair, her skin tone, her clothes, and so on? It's been applied with a heavy hand too - my first thought was "killer clown."

I just don't think I can look at that for an hour.

Maybe she thinks of herself as a fun-loving Bohemian rebel? Which might be just as bad, of course.

JustShakey · Jan 04, 2016, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

I've thought about this a bit more. Sure, your T was clumsy. But she is correct in pointing out that your divorce won't last for ever and it's not your whole life.

It's not the divorce that's the issue really, it's the abusive relationship that spanned 13 years... There is nothing worse than being trapped, and when every attempt to free yourself only drives you deeper and nothing makes any sense...

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unaluna · Jan 04, 2016, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Is it wrong to reject a potential therapist based on the fact that in all her photos online she has chosen a color of lipstick that completely clashes with everything - her hair, her skin tone, her clothes, and so on? It's been applied with a heavy hand too - my first thought was "killer clown."

I just don't think I can look at that for an hour.

That was an episode of "The Closer". Somebody didnt like Brendas lipstick. Hey six degrees of separation!!

atisketatasket · Jan 04, 2016, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

That was an episode of "The Closer". Somebody didnt like Brendas lipstick. Hey six degrees of separation!!

"The Closer"...was that a miniseries about Mariano Rivera?

unaluna · Jan 04, 2016, 07:07 PM

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"The Closer"...was that a miniseries about Mariano Rivera?

Clay Bucholtz - i just remembered the name of the redsox pitcher who tore off a fingernail cuz he had a hangnail so he ended up on the DL and i called up and offered to be their travelling manicurist. I coulda had a world serious ring too!

Jan 04, 2016, 10:22 PM

Well my first 10 hour workday of the month went by really fast!! I dealt with 108 callers today, and I wasn't stressed out at all. Go me! Now to do it again tomorrow.... have a good night (or day) couch! I'm heading to bed, my pillow is calling me....

ilikecats · Jan 04, 2016, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by artemis-within

Well my first 10 hour workday of the month went by really fast!! I dealt with 108 callers today, and I wasn't stressed out at all. Go me! Now to do it again tomorrow.... have a good night (or day) couch! I'm heading to bed, my pillow is calling me....

A fast ten hour work day? That sounds great! My work drags by so slowly, even when I have short four hour shifts. What kind of job do you have? Is it like a call center or something? I'm thinking about looking for a new job, and something fast paced like this sounds nice.

JustShakey · Jan 04, 2016, 10:51 PM

I kinda miss my old job's busy season 10 hour shifts

They did go fast , because you'd be so busy. Miss the work I did too - it was very hands-on and creative.

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Jan 04, 2016, 11:27 PM

Dogs failing at being dogs

StressedMess · Jan 04, 2016, 11:34 PM

Sign me up for the convent. I'm a 42 year old woman and I just downsized to a twin bed. In my defense my back has never felt better, and this year I will buy a new grownup bed. Not like I'm having sleepovers anyway.

That makes one more nail in my 'weird' coffin, doesn't it? Oh. Well. It's official. Has anyone seen my tinfoil hat?

nervous puppy · Jan 05, 2016, 08:19 AM

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Dogs failing at being dogs

Oh my those poor dogs! I kinda felt bad for laughing. I do hope that none of them were physically hurt! Some of those falls looked a tad painful.

Thanks for sharing, though! I sent this to some of my dog-friendly co-workers.

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