Couch 105-The couch with no issues.

Serzen

I have amazingly few things of my own in this apartment. It's mostly my future ex-husband's stuff. Oh, well, less packing to do!

Take pictures!

And video.

Total viral goodness.

Hi Serzen!

They get behind me - pictures are not easy. I would drop my camera, hit myself in the head with a ski, get trampled by the dogs as they came to investigate what I was doing and if it was a hunk of meat I hiding from them in the snow.

So what's the problem?

Still total viral goodness.

The camera would be in the snow - do people just want to see snow and hear someone shouting at their dogs and flailing about? What would viral get me? Seriously - what good is the viral thing?

Famous outside of PC?

Put cameras on the dogs!

I always worry that something stupid I do would go viral......who needs that in their life!

Who knew SD was a master of commedia dell'arte?!

I like that, my future ex-husband. Anyone can have one!

I figure I can acquire four or five more, if I keep getting married once per decade.

I would probably end up all trussed up in the leashes with the dogs sitting next to me looking puzzled and leash-less.

That photo would become a meme, I can see it now

Hey! I have one of those. Up for grabs if anyone wants him 'cause he's nothing but a giant PITA whatever acronym you might put on him

Its not really relevant but this just suddenly and vividly reminded me of when I was walking my golden on the dirt roads by our house and we ended up in a 30 minute stand off with a very very angry and very fast skunk. The skunk was like " you shall not pass!!!!!!" It kept changing us. We finally got away when a car came by and scared it.
Irrelevant but it was hilarious. This tiny animal held my 75 lb dog and I hostage

I'm currently debating the wisdom of ever venturing into relationship territory again. T made a comment last session that he hoped that I would before the year is out. I'm a little put out at him for it honestly. This divorce is a dramatic nightmare - police reports and custody issues on top of all the usual emotional sh^t. And DV flashbacks. I suppose that's what it is... How in the hell am I supposed to have a 'normal' relationship if I randomly freak out over imaginary threats of violence and/or emotional manipulation.
This year?! This YEAR?!!! Damn T. Try this lifetime.

Okay, breathe Shakey... But you see my point!

((JS))

It is dangerous and probably incorrect for a T to suggest a timeframe.

[QUOTE=JustShakey;4854559]I'm currently debating the wisdom of ever venturing into relationship territory again. T made a comment last session that he hoped that I would before the year is out. I'm a little put out at him for it honestly. This divorce is a dramatic nightmare - police reports and custody issues on top of all the usual emotional sh^t. And DV flashbacks. I suppose that's what it is... How in the hell am I supposed to have a 'normal' relationship if I randomly freak out over imaginary threats of violence and/or emotional manipulation.
This year?! This YEAR?!!! Damn T. Try this lifetime.

Okay, breathe Shakey... But you see my point![/QUOTE

That's nuts and insensitive.
It could take years before you are ready for a new relationship.

Maybe he was just referring to casual dating? Even if he was, given the way your divorce is unfolding and the nature of the stbx, dating before it's over might be a bad idea.

Tell him you'll get there when you get there, and not a moment before.

That's neat! I'll google "shamanic drumming" in my area and see what comes up. Thank you.

He was referring to casual dating, but the thing is, when it comes to relationships my thinking is horribly black and white. I have a lot of work to do - I'm honestly mystified as to why people date casually when they're not looking for something potentially serious. What's the point? Wouldn't it be less stressful and more fun to spend time with friends
Okay, so maybe it's for sex, but that's pretty emotionally fraught for me too. I'd be far too anxious to enjoy myself and I'd wind up feeling numb and used.
In fairness to him, he did back up, saying that I wasn't ready yet, but that a year was a long time...
Yeah, no. It's been over a year since I left the stbx. I know I haven't achieved everything I hoped to achieve last year. Far from it... Of course, I hit a lot of unexpected roadbumps and the divorce took a lot longer to get off the ground than I anticipated. I didn't do poorly, I did pretty good overall, but I'm lowering my expectations for the coming year. It already feels like a looming juggernaut

And you're right @@, the stbx would lose his **** if he found out I was seeing someone. That could get pretty hairy.

I guess, long story short. It does upset me. I think I would like to experiment with relationships, but I'm far too scared. I'd be afraid that if I got in I wouldn't be able to get out before it's too late. I know exactly what it feels like to be trapped in a relationship, and exactly how hard it is to break away. I'd be playing with fire. I'm practically a beacon for manipulative jerks with the neediness that I currently keep under wraps...

I am so tired but cant get to sleep. ��

So a few days ago when I was at t, she asked me a question (her and her famous questions) she asked me "When does the healed become the healer?" (I didn't think to ask her "so are you talking about me, and saying I am healed then?") I did not know how to answer that.